I would give anything to let go. I have prayed and everything, But when I see him I die a little inside. Part of me wants to let go and move on, but the other part of me wants to tell him how I feel. WE been through so much that I dont want all that to have been in vain. To make things worse we I am almost over him, he'll contact me some kinda way and all those feelings come back. I can't take this anymore and i don't know what to do. he isn't ganna change and EVERYONE tells me i can do better. EVERYONE. Even people he is cool with. I am forced to see him everyday, and to add insult to injury I see him with other girls and it kills me.He is my one weakness. No other guy has done this to me. People often joke about my "commitment issues", they know how hard it is for to stick with one guy.!!!! HE is everything I thought I wanted, and no matter how madd i get I can't heat him.... So what do I do? I need to let go!
2006-09-07 05:24:26 · 15 answers · asked by :Dazed and Confused: 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont let him contact you you have to work through it and move on good luck
2006-09-07 05:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by sexyandsingle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I don't understand is why you are "forced to see him everyday". Do you work together? If so take a different route to work. Walk around where he sits to limit your interaction. That is really what you need to do is to limit your interaction with him so you can start moving on with your own life. I know it's hard trust me I have been there. We have ALL been there. You just need to know that you are a great person, you will find someone who is everything that you wanted and more, and you wil get over this. The less you hang out with the people he does, stop visitng where you used to be together, and limit your interaction with him you will be able to move on. I know it's easier said then done but it will happen. Best of luck sweetheart.
2006-09-07 05:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by sweetcaraline_27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I feel like you have just described me and my life right now! It is comforting to know that other people go through the same things.
That being said, I'm learning that the easiest way to move on is to take it one day at a time. Stay busy doing things, go out, be with friends, etc. As time goes by it gets easier. If it's meant to be they'll be another opportunity in the future, but don't bank on that right now. Grow from this and move forward with your life.
Good luck and God bless!
2006-09-07 05:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by shorty tacos 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DONT!! Please, i have been there and done that... many times. If you go back you will begin a cycle that never ends.
He probably broke your heart to leave you for a few months to play the field... Don't be stupid, you know he did... Why would you want to take him back after he had been with someone else?
I know its hard..I know you probably still do care... but save your sanity and move on. Tell him you don't want him...make him believe it and make yourself believe it too. Go out with the girls, have fun. Go dancing. Go shopping. Give yourself time to get over those hurt feelings...and above all, DO NOT TALK TO HIM or answer his calls. When you realize how much fun you have with your friends you will forget why you felt like you needed him, and you will feel great to be able to tell him that...especially after how he plays with your emotions.
Please don't go back... It makes me sick to think of what it was like for me. I don't want anyone to make the same mistakes!
2006-09-07 05:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by sour_apple 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let me break down what he's probably thinking to himself because i was in a situation like this but as you know i was the guy:
"its not that i don't like you. matter of fact i think about you every night. i know we've been through so much. you were there for me. it's just that I've been played in the past and now with you knowing so much about me, if you play me or don't feel the same as i feel about you, then you'll hurt me even more! so what i have to do is protect myself from getting my feelings crushed. you see i don't know if you truly like me like that. can you at least tell me. I'm afraid to ask you myself. but anyway...I'm going just test you or feel you out by talking to other girls around you! yeah i could be playing with your mind, but you see i really don't want to. i do want to change but i need you. help me baby!"
and that's how it goes. maybe that would help you see a different perceptive on the whole situation!
2006-09-07 05:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by ShaneA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes playing with your mind. I have been through that and i was severely depressed and though i was dying too. but i got over it and found a guy 150% better and hotter! It feels like youll feel that way for the rest of your life, but yOU WILL NOT. You have to feel this way to get over someone. Thats y spme people are with abusers and drunks & things like that cause they dont want to deal with the feelings of pain so they choose to settle. Its sad. But im glad you took that step and left. YOU CAN DO BETTER. Write down the bad things about him and when you feel weak, take it out and read it. When youre feeling starong and youre mad at him write it down too.
2006-09-07 05:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hon, i think that you need to get a circle of friends to help you through this.if he's moved on then you should too. it's not good to dwell in the past. it only hurts you. i bet he feels the same way but he's trying to get over you so he is hanging out with his friends. i know it hurts to let go but honey, if you waste your time waiting for him to come to you it won't happen. you just need to stay away from him for now and until you can be around him without feeling that way. it sounds like what's going on with my boyfriend and his ex, but if you want to move on you got to let go. it's the only way you can get through this. it will hurt for a long time but be strong and trust yourself. don't focus on what happened between ya'll but focus on the future without him. and try to find someone else. it'll take time so don't move to fast because you're on the rebound and any guy you're with will just be rebound to try to take the pain away. do something for yourself like spa day or get a manicure. it always helps me. good luck and god bless!
2006-09-07 05:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by demonswt88 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. There really isn't any advice I can think of other then to just tough it out because it will get better I promise.
2006-09-07 05:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by hounchella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness woman you have to focus on other things. And no matter what, you owe it to YOURSELF! Your trying too hard to breathe life back into something that is already dead.
2006-09-07 05:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by W R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the club,,,, but seriously,,, you can love someone without being with them. Just love him but let him go, your going to drive yourself crazy, believe me I know.
2006-09-07 05:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by ladylunamina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋