why is it i fill so trapped. i live in east london. for a while now i felt so trapped. no matter where i go near where i live i fill like im in a big hole and i cant get out of it.
is it because my girlfriend now lives in america and i want to go see her so much??
(i am going to see her but in november).
i got some friends and family around me but i still fill so trapped and i dont know why!!!!
truth is i dont like london no more (nothing against the people) i just dont like london no more.
yes u probs say move if i could i would but it easyier said then done.
why do i fill so trapped in my own back yard.
london does not fill like home no more.
i used to love where i live but i cant stand it now!!
also the violents is getting so bad i dont fill safe no more.
i always used to think there no place like home but am i wrong.
is anyone or has anyone ever felt like this to?? if so what did u do about it???
please honest anwsers please.
thanks.
2006-09-07 05:15:15 · 14 answers · asked by alan h 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
hey there. sounds like there's a lot on your mind, and by the lines in your post looks like you really need to talk to someone. Have you tried going to your doctor? You don't just have to be sick to use their services. Or if you want to chat, IM or email me. I'll gladly listen. :)
2006-09-07 05:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally understand how you feel - I've felt the same way (although not about London).
It sounds like you just need to escape...maybe you can get a job transfer or just a new job or something in somewhere new?
It probably also has a lot to do with your girlfriend being away. At a time like this, its really helpful to have friends and family around you, and when someone so close to you is away it can hurt even more.
I dont really know what else to say to you, other than to say that I hope things get better. Try just getting away from everything, even if its just on a holiday or something. But youre not alone - there are so many others (inc myself) who feel/ have felt the same way. Hang in there :)
2006-09-07 14:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by clairelouise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you moved around a lot before? There's a psychological condition suffered by some people in the army and things like that where they get used to moving periodically and when they leave the army and stop moving they get to the point where they feel they should be moving, but they're not, and it gets to them.
But I feel the same about where I live now. I lived in the same town for 18 years and never got bored of it. Then I moved away to uni and I've stayed for a postgraduate degree so I've been here 5 years now. It doesn't feel like home anymore, I feel trapped and want to get out of here as soon as I've finished my course. But my home town doesn't feel like home either. So where do I go?
I'm planning on going on a working holiday next year, either to China or the States, and try to work my way around the world. Then I can make a fresh start when I return, or maybe never return!
Go on holiday... oh wait, you are. Well what's this with your girlfriend? A long distance relationship? Surely that's not permanent? Surely you're planning on living together in one country or another at some point? Home is where the heart is and if your heart is with her I'd start making moving plans... see how you feel when you visit her.
2006-09-07 12:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by reddragon105 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not say how old you are or how long it has been since your girlfriend went away. Other people on this site say see a professional. I do not think you need to do that unless the problem has been going on for several months. It is natural to feel bad sometimes, and maybe you need to accept this. Please look after yourself very well. Make sure you keep warm, you have a balance diet and get exercise. Get enough sleep. Keep away from people who give you hassle as much as possible. Do what you feel like doing in your spare time, whether that is reading or a hobby. I think you will find you will adjust to your new situation, but it will take time. Eventually you may move house, but this will take years of planning, and you can not do it all at once. Good luck.
2006-09-07 13:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by tinkerbell34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alan, I get what you are saying about how hard it is to just pack up and move. People say to do that but it's never that easy.
My best advice is for you to go to a drop-in centre somewhere. They are in the phone books, and if the books are not in the phones boxes you can visit the council or the community service people. Even the London tourist info centres have some details.
Go to a drop-in place and sit down and have a chat with someone. Most people who work there have been through all sorts of stuff. That's why they work there, because they know how tough it is.
It aways helps to talk to somebody who will listen and not just say "move out of town" without even giving you a chance to get your head clear.
Try it, man. It helped me when I was in a bad way some years back.
Peace,
Lenky
2006-09-07 12:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lenky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I knew how long your girlfrienfd has been in america and how long you been feeling like this i would suspect that you are feeling lonely without her, but on the other hand you may kust be bored with the same routine over and over again. The thing is to change that feeling of being trapped and start using your surroundings to find a way out(i.e. your trapped in the woods and need to find a way out, sun rises to the east and sets in the west) basically you just found a lil direction. So thats what you need. You can find some sort of direction to lead your way out of a whole. It's all about staying positive and finding a solution instead of thinking theres no way out.
2006-09-07 12:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by idaneezy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be symptomatic of situational depression with some adult adjustment problems. Solution=make major changes in your life, job, home or something. It will be stressful, but a good kind of stress.
I have recently done similar changes and feel energized and great about it. Felt like my feet were in mud for the last year.
If this is not an option, strenuous exercise can help you cope with the stress........
2006-09-07 13:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to get your head into doing something different, change your job, start a course, even if it is just pottery or plastering, anything.
The feelings of being trapped you have, may well be just a stale feeling withing yourself, so change things in your life, anything.
2006-09-07 12:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by Matthew Hatton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are missing her LOTS.
If you move, you may still feel like you do.
Is there anywhere you can go to stay for a while with friends/family to give you a bit of a break away from it all?
2006-09-07 12:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by Happy. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the Mental Mind
has Become A phobic.
2006-09-07 23:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by luie8luis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋