My husbands sister, is a total b****. She's constantly treating me rudely, and leaving me out. I didn't understand what this dislike was caused from until a mutual friend told me that she thought her brother had been happier with a girl he dated in High School.11 years ago! We have one child and one on the way. After her last episode of being rude to both me and my husband I am feeling like I do not want to be around her. PERIOD. The most hurtful part is I see that she is begining to turn my other sister in law against me (who married into the family) Who I thought was really close to me and a sweetheart but when she is around my husbands sister her attitude totally changes. My husband and I have been married for 7 years now and I am expecting again now. I am at the point where I want to avoid all family stuff. How do I handle this?
2006-09-07 05:04:17 · 13 answers · asked by Q&A 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
join the club. the best thing that you can do is be patient with her, dont expect anything from her and she wont expect anything from you. You have to understand that some people just refuse to be understanding and helpful, and you should waste your engery on trying to figure out what you did wrong. If they are willing to work it out, it will by itself. dont force things.
2006-09-07 05:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jeannie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to stop a bully in her tracks is to confront her directly at the time of the attack. When she acts like a witch in front of the whole family explain to her that you would like to understand why she feels she has the right to be so rude to you. She will either stumble on her words and look foolish or tell you what her problem is. Once the problem is on the table(be it the lame old girlfriend story or whatever else it is), then you can discuss it in front of the family as the mature adult who wants to stop the conflict and request that she try to restrain herself from the behavior. Either way you win. If it continues after a few tries, the girl is a nut case and you may really decide that you have better things to do with your life than being around people who treat you cruelly.
2006-09-07 05:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by movedtoMA 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your sister-in-law is just jealous of you because she can't marry your husband. And about that girl your husband dated in High School, that girl probably be your sister-in-law's day dream about she dating you husband (her brother). Your other sister-in-law does not sound like a good person to be close with. She is too easily convinced. In other word, she can't think for herself.
2006-09-07 05:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your sister in regulation that's a boy even while yu discover out that's a woman. yet don't be offeneded if she thinks that's a woman. She does not could develop em. i come across outNov 19 somewhat i'm having a youngster. purely reason i've got not got a prob with human beings asserting that's a woman is via the fact i'm hoping that's. i'm no longer telling all and sundry until the toddler bathe. no longer even my sister in regulation.
2016-09-30 10:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need to gather all your strenght and call a family meeting wear some black when decide to do this also a little red and spill your guts to every one.The night before you do this write on a piece of paper all you really want to say or ask do not read it over use a blue candle and burn it until it is all ash and blow it away or flush it down your toilet which ever you prefer also read palsm23.God Bless!!!!!!!!!!!!nothing to lose so try.
2006-09-07 05:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop talking about her behind her back with mutual friends and other inlaws. inlaws are hard to take because of this very thing. especially female ones. my mom has a son from another marriage who is married so i know. anyway who knows how to handle it because we are only seeing one side of the story. YOURS. maybe your husbands sister has a legitimate reason for not liking u who knows? maybe not. have you tried to get close to her and the rest of his family (besides the other sister in law) or are u self centered and only care about yourself and your marriage and u are basically jealous of the blood ties between your husband and his family. do you like it when your husband is mad or has disagreements with his blood family? sorry to be so blunt but i have seen it too many times. also alot of marriages are a farce and end up in divorce anyway. your husband and his sister regardless of their disagreements are forever bound by blood and a history and past that you will never match. you and your husband are only bound by law. do whatever you can to keep your marriage sound but keep the little tidbit above in mind at all times. try to become friends with his family and try to see the value in them. dont just tolerate them. they already have to tolerate u. your husband married you, they didnt.
2006-09-07 05:35:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, next time your sister in law acts like that you might just have to get real ghetto with her and tell her off in front of everybody. Sometimes, you just have to do stuff like that. It may change her attitude and it may not, but I guarentee, she will treat you with more respect, and back off.
2006-09-07 05:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by sheila c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i do not speak to his family for treating us badly when we go around. it's crazy, we've been married 16 years this month and still they think he shoul be with someone from his past. screw them. i treat them like they do me. my husband stands beside me in this decision to only see them if they happen to be where we are. good luck to you
2006-09-07 05:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by notyours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares don't let them get to you you are better than them because your husband chose you he didn't choose to have her as a sister he just got stuck with her.
2006-09-07 05:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by 98ta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you find a good answer to that question, let me know.... I have that same problem with my sister and mother in law!!!!!!!!!!
Till then, just dont let them get to you.... Its easier said than done, I KNOW!!!!!
CONGRATS ON THE NEW BABY
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2006-09-07 05:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋