Me and my sons father get into it all the time about his mother. She has other grandkids that she is always doing stuff for and she says the only reason she don't do for my son is because he doesn't need for anything. Thats not fair...or am I being petty. I feel like if you do for one you do for all. My son will be 1 on 9/11 and she has bought him 3 outfits and thats it in his whole life. She has never kept him either. The funny thing is my mom lives in MI and I live in FL (where the other grandma lives) and my mother sends a care package for my son (toys & clothes) at least once a month and my son has gone to stay at my moms house twice without me.!!!! The other grandma sucks as a grandma.
2006-09-07 04:54:02 · 12 answers · asked by oneluv804 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is not that I really care if she buys him something but she always has her otner grandkids and my thing is if she has a problem with me don't take it out on my son. We don't get along but it wasn't always like that. Its fine if she doesn't want to buy him things but she never ask for him to come over and I don't think it makes her a difference one way or the other. This is fine for now but I am sure when my son gets older and he wonders why grandma does more for his half brother than him then thats when I think there will be problems. If my son comes to me and wants to go over her house I don't have a problem with this but the minute he tells me he doesn't like going over there I will never force my child to go somewhere he doesn't want. When kids act like that it is for a reason and the reason may be that she mistreats him. I don't think she would but I don't but nothing past anyone when it comes to my child and she doesn't like me
2006-09-07 06:31:07 · update #1
Kind of petty if you look at it from the "fair" perspective. If she doesn't want to get your kid something, that's her decision. You don't have to go out of your way to be with her either....that's your decision. Put in to the relationship what she puts in and don't kill yourself trying to do more. It won't be appreciated.
2006-09-07 04:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by mooretw33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not fair, but nobody ever guaranteed me things in this world would be fair. In fact, most adults went out of their way to point out that life wouldn't be fair--and they were pretty much right. If they gave you a guarantee when you were growing up, then you need to check the warranty and make a claim.
How are you being damaged by the unfairness? You feelings? Your pocketbook? Do you want us to sympathize with you or suggest remedies? Getting into an argument about fairness with a woman who "sucks as a grandma" doesn't look to be an attractive prospect to me.
2006-09-07 12:11:05 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she doesn't suck as a grandmother. It makes sense that she gives more to the grandchildren that need more. I'm afraid you're being petty.
The only time that this would be an issue is if your son is aware that his cousin's get more than he does. But the only way he'll ever find this out is if you tell him. So don't, and there's no problem.
2006-09-07 12:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be more concerned about how she treats your son, and how much time she spends with him. She is not required or obligated to spend money on you or your children, but the relationship between a child and his grandparents is important. If she is cutting that off for any reason, that's not fair to your son.
2006-09-07 12:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your being petty maybe the real reason she doesn't do anything for your son is because you expect her too. Just be happy she got your son 3 outfits, be thankful for what you get.
2006-09-07 12:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her that it hurts your feeling that's she doesn't do for your child as she does the others..maybe somewhere along the line her feeling were hurt or she thinks you don't like her..be honest..its the only way to know for sure if she is a bad grandma or not..good luck
2006-09-07 12:03:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you are not petty!!!!!!!!!
The grandmother should treat all her grandchildren the same.
Shame on her.
Your husband should say something to her.
I would not bring my sons over there unless there was a change.
Children know when they are treated differently than the others.
Honey I wish you the best in this
2006-09-07 12:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by Sonya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't pay too much attention to this.
Of course it's not fair, but what the hell.
If your mother is fine, and she does pay more attention to him, then leave your husbands mother.
Maybe one day she'll regret.
2006-09-07 12:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by Alice_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little "out of balance" but you can't regulate a giving spirit...it goes where it will.
2006-09-07 12:01:54 · answer #9 · answered by westgaliberty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are right in your feelings, i would not have anything to do with your mother inlaw
2006-09-07 12:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋