How do i move on when i feel that i don't want to move on.well me and my ex are broken up, she is supposed to be moving out but she hasn't yet. now it seems like we are closer in a way but not together. she broke up with me. she is pregnant with our child. at the initial stage of our break up, i was trying to make things work out but she wasn't hearing it and i was irritating her. now that i have decided to let go completely, she shows another side. we have had moments of romance, we talk more, and now i am able to give her hugs and hold her alittle. last week, she was hating me and told me that she didn't want me to be apart of her life and the baby's life. I want to be there for her and the baby. i still love her but i try not to let my emotions show, i just enjoy the moments we share together, i look at this as closure but i dont konw how she feels. Does she want to work things out or is this her way of saying good bye?
2006-09-07 04:45:07 · 12 answers · asked by drew46759 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is part one of the question i just asked: i just got out of a relationship with my ex. She dumped me. I still have huge feelings for this girl but she shows none for me. i need to know how to get over her. she is pregnant with our child. my ex wont even talk to me. i want to be there for our child and i am deeply in love with her, but i am also killing myself because i still love her so much. What do i do?
2006-09-07 04:45:28 · update #1
More Detail: Well me and my girl have been dating for 4 months now and she is pregnant, with our child. I kept talking to my ex when i should have let her go in the first place. My girl felt like she her feelings were put 2nd to my ex. My girl was not comfortable with me taking to my ex but i did anyway and hid it from her. she got upset and wanted her space, i didn't give her the space she wanted so she broke up with me. i truly love her with all my heart and i want to be there for her, but she is telling me that she needs to do what she wants to do like i did what i wanted to to. she said that i keep crying about the relationship and she is tired of hearing me cry about it. i don't know what to do, because i have said sorry for screwing up, i told her that i was stupid for doing what i did, i don't want her to give up on us like that, i feel the we have real love and we shouldn't let that go. She is very special to me and i have been hurting over this for a while, i need answers
2006-09-07 04:45:51 · update #2
don't understand something. When i was trying so hard to work things out and was feeling depressed over everything, she hated me. Now that i have fully decided to let go and let her know that i have let go, she is being nicer, and shows signs of how we used to be when we were together. is she playing mind games with me? I take this weeks events as a sign of closure to our relationship and not really getting my hopes up, but is she doing the same or is she wanting to work things out because she figured that i wouldn't move on and that i would just sit around and be depressed over her. you know what they say, you never know what you had until its gone. i learned this lesson, is she learning it right now?
2006-09-07 04:46:13 · update #3
I love her with all of my heart, i want to so much tell her but this is something that she doesn't want to hear from me, i am trying so hard to let go but this is killing me inside. I don't know what to do?
2006-09-07 04:47:23 · update #4
OK so let me tell you I am going threw a similar situation with my x. I am 4months pregnant with his child. We broke up about a month ago, not because I didn't love him but because he was always gone, and we would fight alot, and were in alot of debt.
Let me tell you she doesnt want you to give up on her. She may need her space because she is going threw major changes and is probably very scared, especially if it is her first child.
My boyfriend gave up on me, and now has a new girlfriend. This just killed me, because he wasn't willing to work on anything and just let our family go. Please don't do this to her, be there for her as whatever she needs you to be at this time. Friend, or lover, she needs to be your priority.
2006-09-07 05:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by Angie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her now while things are good just be careful how you go about it. Don't push to much while your talking and don't act desperate in any way. it should be a talk about closure and what you want in the future. Surely she can't be serious about keeping you out of your unborn child's life. The last thing she needs is to see you stressed as it will in turn stress her out. try play it cool, but show her you still care.
2006-09-07 11:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went Thur this my bf ( we worked things out). He wanted us to break up and for me to move. We fought for a month with moments of romance. I finally said I can't do this and started setting things in motion to move on and he asked me to come back. That was May and things were hard at first. But things are better know. Just work at it. If u can't handle the on again off again stuff THEN DON'T. Let her see what she stands to loose.But let her know u still love her.
2006-09-07 11:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by raynemarie03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See needs understand no matter what she says feed her and pamper her, I went through that when I was 4mos. pregnant I hated my boyfriend then when our son turned 2mos. I begged him to get back together. Being pregnant can be hard on a relationship but with some love and understanding you guys can make it, don't let her leave stay by her side until the end.
2006-09-07 11:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is stubborn there is nothing you can do. I have been there to. Nothing is right for them . If you gave them a 10 million dollar cheque they would complain it was dirty. You just have to stay civil as a child is involved. Stop having sex with her. SHe has to come to you now. Stop chasing that thing you had when you first met. Thats what most people think of when breaking up, the first month of the relationship.
2006-09-07 11:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you got yourself in a mess dont you?.... so you have a girl who is pregnant an your ex is pregnant... you need to slow down an think about everything... talk to both of the women u are dealing with... explain everything.. an think before you say something... dont cut them out.. be respectful.. pregnant women are very emotional, so watch out an be nice as possible... all of what you wrote is very confusing but try to work things out an tell your babies mommas you want to be a good father an be in thier lives... im sorry to hear about this it sont sound to great.. hope things get better
2006-09-07 11:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by whitney 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
2 ways she could be thinking.
1. she is just playing with you.
2. she is relieved that you have excepted that the relationship is over and want to move on, therefor she is able to feel more comfortable around you.
Ask her what it is she wants, and if there is anyway round your problems.
2006-09-07 11:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by doodlepol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling through your EAP at work ASAP. That's my best suggestion to help you move through this. You're going to need help making sense of things. Trust me.
2006-09-07 11:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by sweetypie9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep in touch with friends and family that will help you move on.
2006-09-07 11:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND SHE WILL MISS YOU EVEN IF SHE DON'T LET YOU KNOW SHE DO.
2006-09-07 12:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋