I met a man the other week, who seemed genuine and seemed to really like me, etc, though I was quite suspicious of this behaviour as I'm used to horrid men! We arranged to meet the next eve as we didn't have our phones to exchange numbers - it was just a casual meeting as we were both out with friends - I went to the pub, but was 35 minutes late (by accident) and he either wasn't there or I didn't see him (it was very busy)
Do you think he left cos I was so late, or perhaps was just another lying man? And if I see him out at the weekend, should I go over and sound out the situation?
I don't want to blow it with the one nice person I meet, because of all the losers I've met in the past...But I don't want to be taken for a fool either!
Sorry for the llloooonnnnngg question, but I'm a girl, and we sometimes need to provide details....
Thanks - appreciate your thoughts!
2006-09-07 04:33:38 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all my friends will tell u im always late 4 everything, usually a genuine reason, so i can sympathise with u. if u see this man then give him a brilliant smile n appologise 4 being late and that its a shame u missed each other. see if he arranges another date n set your alarm 4 an hour earlier than needed, go with an open mind, not all men r horrible! ive made some really bad choices but wil not give up hope of finding someone special n nor should u.
good luck n have fun!!!
2006-09-07 04:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by noangel3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to weed out the good and the bad, because you never know what you will run into. If the guy you met seemed genuine then maybe he was but if you did not see him the last time you met up then there are number of reasons. If he is a business man maybe something businesss came up and he could not make it. If he left because you were late then he figured you would not show up or made other arrangements, no telling what he was thinking. If he is lying you will be able to tell, one may he won't look at you directly or make a poor excuse. When you do see him again it would not be a bad idea to go up and find out what happened, if he won't talk to you then you know something is definately wrong. I would not to questionate because it make him think otherwise but hope he is not that type of guy. I am sure whatever intentions you have there are good, just go with your instinct and do what you feel you have to but be civil. A little caution on your part won't hurt anything that is atleast until you know something definately.
2006-09-07 04:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its difficult to know his interest level in you due to lack of information.
However, if he is truly interested in you, he would definitely waited for you in the pub and keep a look out for you. So the chances are that he wasn't there in the pub when you arrived, or he left shortly due to other engagement.
But like you said, your meeting with him was casual and it was among friends. He might just wanted to see if you were interested in him and left the pub when you didn't show; thinking you were probably just blowing him off. Again, there aren't enough information to make the distinction on what's going on.
Be open about it when you see him next time, you can casually bring up the topic and just see his response & see if he were actually there on that night. Just take things slowly and you should be fine.
2006-09-07 04:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by thsiung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience if he was genuine he would of wait you would of crossed paths looked at each other and realized he is the one that you been waiting for a hug and kiss probably followed but hey this is not the movies this real life he lost the best person to come into his life and without knowing he let you go some times we let faith decide if we run each other it is meant to be have u seen the movie "Serendipity" we all wish it could turn out like that but in truth we tend to ruin the best things in life and always realize at the last min it only takes a second for ones life to change and if he was not willing to wait someone better then will
2006-09-07 05:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, what I would do is if you bump into him again, just apologise for being late, just a casual, 'sorry I was running so late the other nite, hope you didnt wait too long', You will probably be able to guess whether he actually turned up or not by the answer he gives. if he arranges to meet you again, do it, you might miss out on the man of your dreams (that's if your looking for him).
Good Luck
2006-09-07 04:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by vicki g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, the next time you see him, just say 'sorry I missed you the other night, I was late and as I didn't have your number there was no way to let you know. Anyway, here's my number now!'
Simple!
I understand why you might be suspicious but give the guy a chance (it was you who were late after all).
Also, people will treat you the way you treat yourself, so if you prize and respect yourself, people will prize and respect you too and will be less likely to take you for a fool.
Anyway, hope that helps, good luck!
2006-09-07 04:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably thought, after half an hour, that you were a no show. By that time he would have finished his drink so he probably left then.
If you see him again rush up to him and tell him you were so sorry you missed him and explain that you were unavoidably delayed, and what a pity you didn't have his mobile number...
That way you give him credit for being there. If he wasn't there himself he will feel embarrassed and either make another date or leave it there.
2006-09-07 04:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by granny2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
35 minutes is a long time for a man to wait (sometimes)... but if the man really was serious he would have waited. He might have probabily not come due to one reason or the other. When you see him try to find out what happened. If he left because you were late, then apologize for your lateness.... don't give excuses.
2006-09-07 04:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell him the truth that you where late and u understand if he did`nt wait or you could not find him in the bar but you would like to go out again some where yous 2 can meet with out a crowd like the pictures or for a game of 10 pin bowling some thing to laff at anyway
good luck
2006-09-07 04:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of your past experiences you were probably right to follow your instincts.He might not have turned up you Will never know really but if you see him when you are next out just see what happens ,smile if you do he might well gave an explanation he might just think you are not interested say hello if he ignores you just forget him if not it could be the start of a beautiful friendship.
2006-09-07 04:51:57 · answer #10 · answered by grovette22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋