Curiosity overtook me. My bf had a video disk sitting out. I popped it into the video camera and to my regret, it was footage of his ex doing some adult things. I became angry, scratched it up and put it in the garbage. He says its over because of that. Would you have done the same thing? After all, it was just sitting out, in the bedroom, on the floor. I'm sorry that i did it now because i may have caused the demise of my relationship. I'm trying to find a way to get it repaired. I love him alot and i don't want to lose him. I knew he would be upset, but i didn't know it would be to this extent. Please Help!!!!
2006-09-07 04:33:00 · 11 answers · asked by kb'sgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would of done the same thing you did. If that video was the reason for them breaking-up why would he of kept it, if he was so mad at her making that video then it only makes sense that after he found out about it he would of broken it. I don't mean to sound so harsh and i apologize but does he have the video because he likes watching her, does she still turn him on. If you were his priority and he loved you more than her then he shouldn't be so upset at you for trashing the video he should be trying to make it up to you. I think you did the right thing and should not try to fix the tape to make him happy. I guess you can have the tape fixed if you want him to look at his ex and jerk off to her. I am so sorry I know i am probably hurting you a bit but i suppose you want hones opinions here. Don't repair the tape and if he can't get over it then it's time you get over him. He would be loosing a great lot. Good luck, and don't repair it:)
2006-09-07 04:58:53 · answer #1 · answered by ange!s26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf is that selfish that he'd end the relationship because you found this video in question that concerns his ex gf then maybe he should be alone with his own guilt you don't need some jackass like that in your life. you shouldn't feel any quilt yourself the video was sitting out in the open and after you viewed its contents it understandably upset you tho your actions may not have been the best , other woman might have done worse so count your self lucky that you now know he's been keeping things from you (which he shouldn't be doing) and has no right to be that upset with you . I say move on with your life and forget the loser.....
2006-09-07 11:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by wildone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, he's upset because you destroyed a porn-like video of his ex? Why in hell does he have it sitting out? To watch it is my guess. I would've done the same d*mn thing. There is no reason at all why he should be watching a video with his ex in it when he's with you. That's totally disrespectful. I understand you didn't want to lose him, but how could you stay knowing he's watching that and (I'm sure) getting off to it? Let his *ss go. Let him worry about repairing the d*mn thing and find you a man who isn't getting off by watching his ex.
2006-09-07 11:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, I can't say that you watching the movie is a big deal since it was out in the open. But was he actually cheating, b/c if he was you shouldn't try to repair something that is so messed up and broken in the first place. Now if it was just your simple curiosity that killed it ask for forgiveness, Jesus asked for forgiveness so if we do it that we are basically nobody shoot it doens't hurt that bad. Hell, talk to him I hope everythgin works out well. God Bless
2006-09-07 11:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you may not have done the right thing or the mature thing he needs to understand that it was out of shock and rage, and should you have thought about it more rationally you would have prohbably acted more mature and talked it over with him.
2006-09-07 11:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah i would 1st of all he had no right to have that and 2nd what was he thinking that you werent gunna find it? i give you a high five and 2thumbs up if he is going to have footage of his ex than you deserve better dnt fix it for him leave it the trash were it belongs. he needs to learn that if wants to have a relation ship he cant have it with something that invovles his ex
2006-09-07 11:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah he left the video disk out for the taking.You must have been devastated.Sounds to me he is still interested in her to care more about the disk then to give a crap about you.Unfair dissmissal you should of been the 1 dumping him.There is plenty of fish in the sea.If you really wont 2 try and resolve it.I coulld only recommend counciling.But he hardly sounds worth it!!!
2006-09-07 11:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by cowgirl angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u will have asked him about it
cus u guys are not married so u dont have that full control over him till u are married
if u guys were married u will have every right to do that
but u are just his girl friend not even a fiance
try apologising and see if he changes his mind
2006-09-07 13:35:04 · answer #8 · answered by maku d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No No No girl if he is that upset about a movie with his ex than screw him.....If he wouldn't rather you made a movie for him to watch instead then wake up!!! the man has issues and your issue is you diserve better!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-07 11:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by Sandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he aint worth your time.. he is f'in stupid... you should have broken up with him when he started to get mad... he souldnt have kept things from you an he is stupid for that... an yes i would have done the same thing
2006-09-07 11:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by whitney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋