I write for a Christian magazine and my next article is on boundaries in dating. Instead of using sole research, I'd like to get input from others on this topic.
Do any of you think that Christian Dating is the same as Secular Dating, or do you believe that there are different boundaries that should be put up?
Why do you feel this way?
Third, are there any links you can point me to for further readings on the topic?
God Bless!!
Amber
2006-09-07 04:05:06 · 7 answers · asked by ami 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've heard in some Christian circles that as a guy, I should treat the ladies as though they are my sisters. Now that kinda grosses me out so here's what I do. Being that my focus should be on God and to honor Him and I should also be respectful with my date, I try not to do anything that will be less than that. That being said, I fail at it quite a bit but I keep on trying. And yes, Christian dating is VERY different from Secular dating. The focus is vastly different. That's why I've started limiting the dates that I have to girls that are Christians.
2006-09-07 04:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by Tyr_74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am catholic so this is another perspective on which you may use and is my sole opinion. When dating everyone has their own guidelines yet we are thrown into temptation no matter what one believes in if one wants to do something they will do it. Abstinence is hard now and days and even with what you hear about all the things going around i feel media is in blame they either try to scare someone or just give little meaning to something that has a strong value to others everything now and days is so diverse we try and put boundaries but they collapse over time all i feel we could do is set the standards again not just for one but for all give meaning to love again to happiness to joy and all the good stuff that deals with dating
2006-09-07 04:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are definite differences. As far as I'm aware, in order to be "Christian" it's necessary to follow certain of God's laws or creeds (or whatever term you want to use). No exceptions. For example, the belief that man by good deeds alone is not enough for redemption. God's word, the Bible, is the backbone of the moral code by which Christians live by. Non-religious people, on the other hand, do not necessarily have a standard, set-in-stone set of guidelines by which they have to live. Albeit some people are quite adamant about their personal beliefs, they are still changeable without changing who they are.
Sex before marriage is a big issue here.
2006-09-07 04:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a christian my dating boundaries are:
~ Not to have sex until i am married
~ To let the guy be the leader, like askig me out, kissing me, ect.
ya that's probably it. well at least some of it. People who aren't christians usaully don't really care what they do. They go out and have sex & party. Well hope you get what u need from this site!
God bless u too!
2006-09-07 05:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by crazy little thing called love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boundary in dating is that i show my feelings and everyone can see them and that ain't so good as it sounds. the think is that I'm quite shy and when my feelings r showing I'm kinda worried or something like this. what ever
i hope i helped u with that all thing
best wishes
ali shkodrova
2006-09-07 04:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boundary in dating as a christian is no pants off, to make sure I don't cause me or her to sin.
2006-09-07 04:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by kenny_the_bomb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian, my boundary in dating is to not even THINK about sex....
Oh, wait....I'm agnostic....that's right....I **** my brains out! Yay for heresy!
2006-09-07 04:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by Genevieve 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋