I have been with my boyfriend for five year's. Lately all we do is argue, he stay's out all night , he's constantly on the cell phone off whispering in a corner somewhere, and he's taken to snooping around reading my thing's and asking other people where I am and what i'm doing. I have told him over and over to just leave me if he's not happy with me and he doesn't.It seem's like he doesn't want me anymore but he doesn't want me to be with anybody else either. I work and go home to our kid's everyday,nothing is ever enough for him. I just can't understand why he can't say what's wrong with him or just leave me. After we argue and i'm all upset he seem's like he's alright then.I don't support him, i don't pay his bill's or anything so why doesn't he just leave,we don't go anywhere ,do anything together, we don't even have sex not in a couple month's. SO WHY IS HE STILL AROUND!!! Yes I love him but i'm not happy with him at all, and I told him this and he's still here. WHY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-07 03:53:50 · 20 answers · asked by Ms. Bossy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He ain't gone nowhere and neither has you. How do you walk away, you walk away.
Nobody can make you stay in a unhappy relationship, if they don't walk away you have two legs unless your disabled and even then you can get away from a unhappy relationship.
If it is your place alone then you have legal grounds to remove him off the premises legally.
Now if the home is in both names then you might have to take legal recourse for him to leave the property whatever it is, you have a God given right to be happy and live in a healthy environment for your kids and the choice is ultimately yours to choose not his.
As they say, action speaks louder than words.
2006-09-07 04:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I hate to say this but my guess is that he's got someone else. He's picking fights so that you'll break up with him, therefore HE doesn't have to be the bad guy...look at the clues - you're NOT having sex...he stays out all night, he's on the cell phone whispering...and he's snooping...cause he knows how easy it is to cheat and there's a part of him that's wondering if you could be doing the same thing.
My advice - end it now...you deserve better. He just doesn't want to be the one doing the breaking up - he's wanting you to do it.
Good Luck, Marilyn
2006-09-07 10:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not want you but he doesnt want anyone else to have you either so thats why he is so nosy and still there. Its a controlling thing. Get out as soon as you can maybe a expartation order. Im scared he may go a little crazy if he feels you are actually on the verge of kicking him out so be careful
2006-09-07 10:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by patrick b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to sit down and talk to one another. Tell eachother without yelling or screaming what you feel and what you think should be done. If you feel it will not work out then both should agree to it and move on from there. Tell him what is on your mind and he should do the same. IF you are not happy then let him know it. Tell him t o leave if thatis the case.
2006-09-07 10:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by LadySonia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest it sounds like he may have someone else.you have to do whats best for you and your kids. If he don't want to leave then you leave. It sounds like to me that he is having his cake and eating it too. Don't let him take advantage of you. It is unhealthy to argue in front of the kids and if that's all they see with mom and dad then it affects then in the long run. Just be smart about it and just leave him.
2006-09-07 11:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by oneluv804 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest that you spend some time apart so you can think things out. Let him know that you are seriously considering moving on with out him. Distance in a relationship can help a lot.
2006-09-07 10:59:57 · answer #6 · answered by CreakingUniverse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is certainly wrong. If the two of you can't talk things out and come to some sort of middle ground, then it's time to get out and get on with your life.
2006-09-07 12:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sharing a place maybe he is worried he wont find a place or cant get a good one on his own....who is on your lease? if it is him you need to leave if its just you then kick him out. either way tell him you dont want to be together anymore. it will be hard and werid but you have to do what you have to do.
2006-09-07 10:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With your legs one step at a time
2006-09-07 10:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by Emiliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still love this guy. Sounds like YOU have some serious ISSUES.
2006-09-07 10:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋