I've been dateing a guy for a little over a month, we spend quality time together, and have wonder communication. I actually don't have to throw myself on him to get the attention I like. In reality I know we are still getting to know one another. But he asked me If I would think about becoming his wife. "Yes I want to become married one day" but how long before I say yes or deside I'm ready. PS. dont want to second quess when getting married.
2006-09-07 03:45:06 · 38 answers · asked by deb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is important to see how your potential husband will react to different situations. You may love him now during the honeymoon stage of your dating, but you have to give it time to see where he is going in life, how he responds to certain things and whether the cute things he does now, won't bug the heck out of you over the long term. Just let things progress naturally and give it time.
2006-09-07 03:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by Shyguy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
3 years
2006-09-07 03:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by B Rad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for over 27 years. My wife and I dated for a little over 2 years during college before we got engaged. Even though I felt like she might be the one after several months of dating, I never even considered asking her to marry me, or discuss it, until quite some time later. She graduated from college a year before I did which gave us some separation from one another, even though we were still "dating." By the time I graduated, I was certain that she was the woman I wanted to spend the rest of my of my life with.
You don't say how old either of you are, but I think you should have completed all of the education that you want to pursue and be reasonably settled into some career before you start thinking marriage.
To even utter the words "marriage," or be seriously considering it, after dating for only a month, is real premature.
To answer your question more specifically, I think you should date for at least a year before thinking about taking the next step, which is a really BIG one.
Good luck.
2006-09-07 04:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by RJayKae 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only dating for over a month and already thinking about getting married?
I suppose it depends on the person, but I'd say at least a year for most people. You hit it off with someone, but want to get to know the person and find out their good side as well as bad. I took five years (too long), but I was younger then. Had a one-year engagement. LOL. A long engagement isn't so fine. Even then you don't know what they'll be like when you're married to them.
Since I'm older, one year including a six-month engagement would be fine. A long engagement (over a year) isn't so fine imho. You just know if a person is right for you, but you still want to know their good and bad sides. It could change your mind.
2006-09-07 04:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by callahan 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's completely up to you. I have a co-worker who married her spouse after 3 months of E-mailing back and forth and no dating (he lived out of the country and flew over to propose to her). My wife and I were married last June after 2 years of being engaged in a 3 year relationship. Marry when both feel ready and sure that you want to spend your life together. I'm not religious or anything, but don't take marriage lightly, it won't simply go away with a quick divorce, it'll leave a taste that you won't ever forget.
2006-09-07 03:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? When I was 21 I met someone and within 3 months I knew he was the one for me and after 1 year we were married, it was wonderful until he passed away. So time isn't the answer your heart is although the older I get I realize your head needs to be the answer and not your heart. It worked out for me the first time but I would use more head power being the age that I am now.
2006-09-07 03:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him n realy want to spen life with him no further dates r required you strightly marry or get engaged according to ur convenience. But when you dont like some one from heart, in that case no matter how many dates you make you will never lik him or nevr find ne thing positive about him.. so its you who have to know that how much time do you or say dates do you realy need to understand each other. I would like to highlight some points - to make ne relation beautiful you require three things that is understanding; let going; and tolerance. if you think both of you have all these features in your relation will certainly beutiful. and by adding love to it it will be a heaven.... so decide it keeping some of these points in you mind and provide some feedback.. wish u luck
2006-09-07 03:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by Fraueline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it atleast a year or so before considering. bc right now things are good but the relationship is still new. i was with a guy for four months and at first we talked about getting married bc he seemed to be so sweet gave me the attention and respect i needed but after 3 months it all changed we lived together and he became very jealous (and it seems cute at first but you dont want that it turns into big problems.) all his opinions were right and mine were wrong. give it time to to know each other really know each other and then if you all still want to wedd go for it but make sur you know each other first..
2006-09-07 03:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he is someone you know from the neighborhood, there is no point in getting there for long... for as long as both of you are ready to get married.
If he is someone you came to know, just for that period of time, say now knowing his family or personal background, you need not hurry,
If you are the kind of girl who wants to settle for a lifetime relationship, it is always good to know him personally from his family down the line.
But it really depends in what country you belong.. If you are from the USA, i don't think this is much important to you. But if you are from an asean country.. Family background, childhood, etc, are very important.
So it is really up to you...
Be happy, good luck and God bless.
2006-09-07 03:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by yulnores 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not be in a hurry....keep learning about each other. And engagement is a time of learning....there is nothing wrong with a year or more of engagement. This is such a wonderful time to know each other and bring out the best in each, or perhaps the worst. It is best to know all before you take that momentous step.
2006-09-07 03:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋