if u're with somebody who never offers u anything, even on u birthday he finds it difficult to even offer u a natural flower thats not bought with money.
Do u think he loves me? or is he just playing me.
2006-09-07 03:37:02 · 24 answers · asked by hottest 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He could really love you but be a big cheapo, but even giving you a flower that didn't cost him anything is just too much, much less having trouble with that!
I think love should make you a better person, and that means more generous as well, whether its your time or affection or money.
Maybe you should start talking to him about this, and if he doesn't change for the better, move on! You can find someone who will love you right.
2006-09-07 03:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by marchcalf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he's playing games with you. Some people feel like they don't want to spend money on a person unless they know the relationship is going somewhere or you two are really close, but if you have been seeing this guy for quite a while and he hasn't done anything for you then it seems to me that your not special enough for him. He could atleast give you something for your b-day. Love does not look at how much money someone can spend on you, but when occasions call for it like b-days and such then it should matter. This doesn't sound like love.
2006-09-07 10:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before we can tell you whether he loves you, I say do you feel loved.
Now unless for religious reasons your boyfriend doesn't celebrate birthdays, I would expect a decent gift from my mate to show they acknowledge my birthday.
Now if he never gives you anything that is a token of the relationship you have and your giving everything getting nothing in return, I would question whether your relationship is love.
I can't say whether he is playing you without knowing whether your getting played by being the giver and he the receiver with offering nothing in return but you can stop that by not giving and then he can't receive anything and see how it feels to be on the receiving end of not being offered nothing.
2006-09-07 10:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he shows his love in other ways like fixing things around your house, giving you moral support, or just saying nice words. Some guys are not into gift giving but show their love in other ways. Pay attention to the other little things he may do for you and listen to your instincts. Do you feel loved? If you don't feel loved find someone else who will give you the love you deserve. Remember, love is not about material things, its how you feel when you are with that someone special.
2006-09-07 10:50:00 · answer #4 · answered by sunshineasd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you love somebody, you do your best to make them happy, to see the smiling. But ask yourself this question: Even if he does love you, are you happy with this situation? Do you feel complete?
I don't know all the facts, but have you tried to talk to him about what you need/like/love? Tell him what bothers you and see his reaction. If he cares, he will do something to make it up to you.
But then again, if you are seeing each other since last week you cannot expect too much.
It's obvious that you need more attention, everybody does, it is normal. My advice to you is to talk to him.
You can say something like: You know, i care about details etc...
Or better yet, to see his reaction, just tell him: You know, X gave my a wonderful white rose for my birthday. So thoughtful of him, don't you think?
Try this and you will see if he really cares.
Good luck!
2006-09-07 10:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by Dr_D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, he will tell you or show you in some way even if it is not the way you want it to be. So be tolerant and patient.
There are many answers to this question.
- He could genuinely be absent minded. My dad's a great guy, but he is horribly absent minded. Sadly absent mindedness may be interpreted as indifference.
- He could be just indifferent to a lot of things in life and looks at relationships differently.
- He may love you but may not be in love with you.
It takes time to find out. Hold on buddy.
2006-09-07 10:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although this may be hard to accept, even if he "feels" love for you or thinks he does, he doesn't act toward you in a way that you perceive as loving. He doesn't take your feelings into consideration. This is a very bad sign in a relationship. I would talk to him in a very straightforward way about how hurt you are that he does nothing for you, and if he doesn't respond immediately with more loving behavior, walk away. You deserve better.
2006-09-07 10:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by Teddie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys just dont like doing the gift thing. I would look to other areas of his attitude toward you to make the judgement. Some guys are dumb when it comes to that stuff so ask yourself, does he treat me with respect, is he there for me when I need him, does he express how he feels to me often, does he treat me like a woman that he loves even around his friends??? good luck!
2006-09-07 10:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by Bistro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly he sounds like an insensitive jerk. Instead of worrying about whether he loves you, I would urge you to ask yourself if you can put up with that kind of crappy treatment for the rest of your life? Don't you deserve better?
2006-09-07 10:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you have to ask then you already know the answer. Kick him to the curb and get someone to respect you... and yes he is just using you, he is not even playing you. You deserve to be treated better.
God bless
2006-09-07 10:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋