I meet a great girl at a freinds wedding, we got on really well and swapped phone numbers, we then went back to the same hotel, but I said I would not sleep with her on the first date to avoid either of us getting hurt, now I think I have blown it and fallen into the freinds zone?
2006-09-07 03:32:09 · 26 answers · asked by Loader2000 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for everybodys kind words, I was being a gentleman like I thought (and now know from the many women who have knidly answered) women wanted. I will continue to stand by my morals in the future. thanks everybody
2006-09-07 03:50:32 · update #1
are you kidding me? Id KILL to meet a guy where sex wasnt the number one thing on the agenda - fair play to you is what I say! I dont think youve blown it - I mean to respect a woman in the way you did is outstanding. In the event you HAVE blown it then shes not really worth the effort.
2006-09-07 03:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now this is going to sound really contradictory but its true
Sometimes a girl feels like if a guy doesn't show, tell, or prove that he is attracted by coming on to her or saying something incredibly corny about how hot she is, She ends up feeling like he was not very attracted to her and her self esteem goes way down. Yet on the other hand if a guy comes on to a girl doing all of the above she turns around and calls him a jerk because he can't keep his hands to himself. I believe that if you make it clear to her that you not wanting to have sex the first date only means that you desire more time with her because you are interested. Interested in her personality and not sex. If she says "okay well I'm kinda busy this weekend" That most likely means that she wanted a one night hook-up with a hot guy to go tell her friends about. You seem like a really respective guy and and if you can't succeed with this chick she's missing out, so Go out there attempt and if at first you don't succeed try try again, with another girl...
2006-09-07 03:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by vanity_luvs_u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you haven't ruined it!? Any girl who blows you out because you won't sleep with her on a first date is worth nothing! And you did right in saying no. People are putting far too much pressure on the sex side of a relationship, rather than the "getting to know you" side of it, which is the most important part.
Relax, call her, ask her if she would like to go out. I know I would be flattered if a guy I met was gentlemanly like you.
2006-09-07 03:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you could have "blown it" is if the only thing you wanted to do was have sex with her/have a one night stand. She specifically gave you her phone number so you guys can talk again; I would be polite and patient, if you show that you are more into just fooling around, she might give you want you are seeking.
2006-09-07 03:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has no interest now, she only wanted a one-night stand to begin with or is not used to being rejected. Make a move on her- an aggressive one- and see what happens. If nothing happens, you didn't blow, she just didn't want anything from you in the first place.
2006-09-07 03:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by Genevieve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you didn't sleep with her doesn't mean that nothing will happen between you and her! Sex does not equal relationship nowadays, though some like to think so. She may appreciate your integrity. Try phoning her and ask her out for a drink sometime.
2006-09-07 03:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by Disgruntled Biscuit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.....If she wanted to go to bed with you on the first date, then she most likely will be back. It's pretty cool and all that you wanted to be a gentleman, but what if she is a woman who knows what she wants and is responsible. She wanted sex, so if she did then you do it. That's for next time.
You haven't ruined it....,but next time just let it happen naturally.
2006-09-07 03:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by HJR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the verge of sex, I have asked several girls if it was OK if we didn't go all the way YET. Every one of them (in one way or another) thanked me for doing that because it made them feel more comfortable me. Just be open and honest. Converse with her by taking her on a journey to your first meeting and ask her if you missed your chance. She will appreciate your honesty.
2006-09-07 03:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Shyguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with starting out as friends? You sound like a fine, upstanding man to me. If she's worth your affections at all, she will appreciate your chivalrous overtures and be happy to let your friendship take the course its bound for.
Congratulations and good luck!
2006-09-07 03:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't blown it, if she doesnt want to talk to you anymore then she is just a ho who was only looking for a one-night hookup. Cheer up and call her in a few days.
2006-09-07 03:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋