Has anyone asked their ob doctor if they know of any women that are pregnant and are planning to give up their baby for adoption? I read that doctors can coordinate this type of thing...of course with legal & other fees involved...but anyone hear of this or do this?
Serious answers only, please.
2006-09-07 03:30:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am asking because my husband and I are looking to adopt.
2006-09-07 03:44:38 · update #1
Geez, people, seriously. This is in response to some of my "answers". No, I don't think I'm the first person to think of this. I read that someone else did it this way. No, I am not asking every pregnant woman to give me her baby. I KNOW I need lawyer, which is why I said "LEGALLY". I just wanted to know if anyone has heard of discussing this with an OB or if anyone knows someone that has done this.
2006-09-07 03:50:00 · update #2
I have an answer now. It is something that IS done...in Texas. Texas is NOT an agency only state. My husband is a RN and spoke with three other nurses, at his hospital, that HAVE done this and only had to pay legal fees. (No, I'm not kidding.)
Thanks for all of the serious answers, and to those who gave me idiotic replies...well...what can I say.
2006-09-08 04:52:28 · update #3
Yes. I used to be a professional nanny for 2 doctors and they adopted 3 children that way. The first one was from a mother that had 4 kids already and didn't want another. She was a patient of the male dr. and she went to see him close to the end of her pregnancy for a bladder infection and she started crying to him about how she didn't want this baby and probably was going to leave it in the hospital after it was born. He told her not to do that and to call him later. Well, long story short, they went to their lawyers and they brought the baby home 2 days old. All they had to pay for was the attorney, her hospital bills, and all the court fees.
Their 2nd and 3rd, was pretty much word of mouth. With both of them being doctors, they were able to tell all their OB/GYN friends and co-workers to let them know if any pregnant women who didn't want a baby came around. There again, they had to pay for the hospital and lawyers fees and bills. So, it works if you know who to talk to.
2006-09-07 03:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by brittme 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your Doctor can advise you of a good adoption agency. He can coordinate this because he deals with this on a regular basis. If you are pregnant and want to give your child up for adoption, then talk with your ob-gyn. If you are giving your child up for adoption, you will have no legal or other fees. The families that are adopting bare the burden of these charges. Your doctor is the best place to start, and he can recommend the best people to talk with.
Have a good day.
Robert
2006-09-07 10:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by Robert B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt for legal reasons an ob/gyn would keep your contact information on hand to give to someone. You never know - and I suppose there is no harm in asking - but don't think you are going to walk into some ob/gyn office and ask for names or women interested in pursuing adoption. Do you think your the first person to think of this - and if you could just do it don't you think a licensed therapist or adoption counsellor would do the same thing. Private adoptions happen between couple and birthmothers but ...this is not the way to go. Also - never ever ask a women if she would consider giving you her baby - even if you know she is seeking an adoption. It happens and its not cool. Instead call an agency to find out more - Lutheran Services or Catholic Service are great resources
2006-09-07 10:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by jodimode 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Doctors can act as messengers for couples interested in legal adoptions, but they are just one professional in the process who needs to be involved. It never hurts to discuss the matter with your personal OBGYN. Chances are you are not the first to bring it up. However, many doctors may or may not wish to be involved with such matters because it does not profit them at all.
Remember that doctors must keep patient confidentiality and will never divulge any knowlegde when you first broach the inquiry to them.
Beware: do not agree to pay the OB expenses of a potential birthmother until you have a finalized adoption (baby is YOURS and the window for reversal is past). This is a nasty truth but someone may make a ruse that they are considering adoption just to get a kind couple to pay the doctor bills for her.
2006-09-07 10:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Aubrey C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just so 1950s. Really if you are seriously considering adoption and raising a well adjusted healthy child, you need to check out some modern books on adoption and educate yourself. Go to free adoption agency open houses. I've worked with pregnant women considering adoption and also with lots of post-adoption birth mothers, not a single one I know arranged their adoption through a doctor. What a pregnant woman considering adoption wants is an agency that will treat her with respect, give her choices of adoptive parents so that she can pick the best parents for her baby, and provide post adoption counseling and support services to help her recover and get back on her feet. Wouldn't you want that yourself if you were in their shoes? If you want to know the agency in your city that places the most babies, call all of them and pose as a birth mother. The one that treats you with the most kindness, respect, and gives you correct information up front about the adoption process is the one that is placing the most babies!
2006-09-08 11:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by genxmum 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doctors may be able to connect you with a potentiall mom-to-be but you will ultimatley need a lawyer to finalize the adoption. There are a lot of great agencies out there that can help you also-just make sure the agency is licensed. You can also find out about adoption through adoptuskids.org
2006-09-07 10:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in Illinois and I've never heard of that, but I think it's probably just because I never really thought about it. I'm sure expecting moms consult with their OB re: adoption agencies and that sort of thing, so I don't see why what you are asking is so out of line. Once you find out, let me know. I had my tubes tied after my last child, but would love to adopt.
2006-09-07 16:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to know the truth?
Get a hold of a YellowPages and along the Abortion section, you'll also find adoption services. Ask any of them around your city. Yes, doctors can help, but they'll be mainly working as middle man. There are agencies for that. Look up a local one.
2006-09-07 10:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by Mario E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd do through an agency....doctors aren't usually involved in this sort of thing and they would have no idea about legal fees.
Your doctor is also not allowed to discuss other patients with you due to HIPPA laws.
There is no short cut to getting a baby, it takes a LONG time and patience.
I'm an adoption social worker.
2006-09-07 10:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by jm1970 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Actually, that is how my parents adopted me 33 years ago. My Mom's OB/GYN asked around and I was in their arms 10 months later. I would ask your DR. And see what he/she says. Good luck. And God Bless.
2006-09-07 12:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋