I read that women shouldn't make themselves too available to guys and shoud selt the bounderies for dates as far as when. If you say you have a lot of free time that makes you look like you have no life and can bend to their wants whereas I read men's oppinions that they are turned off by women who are always "too busy" to meet. I am not talking about being unreasonably unavailable, just not giving up all your free time for them to pick. How do you work a guy around your schedule and what works best for you and at the same time not appear to be putting him off? How do I make myself available but not be too available? I have an odd schedule so my hours are always different and some guys think I am making excuses. I never get a weekend off but some guys don't believe me.
2006-09-07 03:21:21 · 10 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand what you are saying. You always hear that it's better to make yourself seem busier, yet it's hard to figure out how available to be. I just heard that you should never say yes to a guy at the last minute, like if he calls you and says he's on his way to come pick you up right then. That shows that you were kind of a last thought to him, instead of him having something planned with you further ahead of time. I think it's a good suggestion and makes sense. Although I guess some people might like spontaneity, and would go for it.
As for the ones who don't believe your work schedule, who cares. They obviously aren't worth your free time anyway.
2006-09-07 03:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make yourself TOO available and don't seem TOO busy, as both are a turn off. A guy likes a woman who has her own life, but can easily feel rejected if you're too busy. Without knowing you too well, they'll just move on to the next woman. If you're asked out for a Saturday, explain that you have to work, but also offer another time, say, for example, a lunch. That way, you aren't blowing him off, you are making an effort, plus, you're not seeming desperate by offering an entire free day. With a lunch date, it's fun, quick, and offers just a glimpse of yourself, so he's bound to want more.
Luck!
2006-09-07 10:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by kellerman83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy asks you out and you decide that you want to go, but it happens to be on a day that you are working, then tell him, "I can't on Friday, but what about Thursday?
Granted you may not want to always give him your plans or your whereabouts on a regular basis but if you have a crazy schedule you cannot expect him to figure out what time is best for you. You could even drop hints by saying things like, "Wednesday and Thursday will be the first 2 days back-to-back that I have had off in a long time."
But you are right- I tend to not bother with women who are always busy because I think that we all make time to do the things that we really want to do.
2006-09-07 10:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are all messed up in your mind about yourself first and also guys. Just be yourself. Meet a guy you want to meet, for what ever duration you want to be with him and whenever you want to. Forget about the airs and the myths you mention. People can see through such nonsense. And what do you mean "too available" - either do something or dont. You meet a guy or you dont. being too available is falling all over a guy to express your availability.
2006-09-07 10:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I hadn't had a weekend off in 2 years since I started it. I go on dates only Monday-Wednesday when orders aren't that much.
I think just be natural about it. If you are really busy just turn down the date, otherwise just go unwind. You never know what will happen.
2006-09-07 10:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by Baby_Apocalypse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't high school so just be available. Some idiots like to be kept waiting but most guys just want to know what's up and don't like wasting their time.
2006-09-07 10:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When girls try to play me like that I say see ya. But I just like seeing a girl once a week maybe twice, so I don't ask for much time.
2006-09-07 10:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by joe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Judt make sure you see your guy often enough to keep him interested.
2006-09-07 10:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a life but don't always be there, enjoy you time with your GF, but time foryouself also
2006-09-07 10:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by IndyMM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a prize. be special.
2006-09-07 10:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by fourplums 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋