After he expressed his liking for me, I dived into this, knowing that he has a girlfriend. It hurts so much when I imagine how his girlfriend is by his side while I'm stuck here missing him. But receiving his texts and emails everyday warms my heart, and this is how I get by everyday. I know that I am going to be the one getting hurt in the end, yet I can't stop. Please advise, I don't know what I can or should do anymore?
2006-09-07 02:51:40 · 25 answers · asked by aerialfawn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Slowly find some other outlets to occupy your time. Find things that will take your mind off of him and slowly things will get back to the way they were. You have to be strong and break yourself away from this as much as possible. I can speak from experience because I have been were you at right now. It's so very hard especially when you two are in-love. However, this guy is just tagging you along believe it or not. Yes, he may be a great guy, but he has done nothing to show you that he really wants to be with you. If he cares about you so much why hasn't he left his girlfriend yet? Do you really want a man that is doing this to his current girlfriend? It's going to be tough but your going to make it out of this. You need to change your numbers on your house phone and your cell. You also need to maybe get another email address that way you don't have to see his messages in your in-box everyday. That is a start and slowly things will die out. You need to surround yourself around other men so that your mind is taken of him as well. For your sake do this now before it hurts you a lot deeper then it already has.
2006-09-07 03:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite obviously, you are not thinking. I have preached this over and over again, yet no one ever listens to me; though I have been proved to be right each and every time when all is finally said and done.
Listen to me as I, once again explain the rules to a good, loving, lasting relationship:
1. Do not enter in to a relationship with someone who is farther than a 20 minute drive away.
2. Do not enter in to a relationship with someone who has ended a relationship in the last 6 months.
3. Do not enter in to a relationship with someone who is already involved in a relationship, be it a marriage or a dating relationship.
YOU WILL NOT WIN IN THIS SITUATION!!!
4. Do not enter in to a relationship with someone who has been married more than twice, or who is displaying evidence of any kind as having trouble making and maintaining long term relationships. This is to include friendships as well.
5. Do not be stupid, i.e., do not be fooled when he or she claims to love and care for you by way of instant messaging, telephone calls, email or snail mail when they are 500 miles away and either have never met you or your meetings are few and far between or your only face to face is exchanging pictures over the Internet.
6. Love and respect yourself and your own feelings first. No one else will if you do not.
7. Do not enter in to a relationship with someone who has different religious, moral, ethical and political views than you.
8. Someone who is separated, but not yet divorced is still legally and morally married and should, therefore be considered off limits. Your relationship with a person who is divorced should not have started until at least 1 year has passed since the divorce was finalized.
All of these rules should be self explanatory. If you have any further questions, feel free to contact me through yahoo answers, I have enabled the messages option. Think about what you are doing to yourself, and then make the necessary changes to ensure a happy, healthy love filled life.
2006-09-07 10:31:23 · answer #2 · answered by bowtierodz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot bear the pain you must be feeling in this irreconcilable triangle. Yes, you will be the one hurt most, but this man's girlfriend is also being hurt. She is not receiving his best. How much of him do you think is left for you? Not enough to stay on in this painful situation, I'd bet.
You and the girlfriend are being used by this guy and would be wise to quit him right now, if you hope to salvage your self-respect. Learn to love yourself and enjoy your own company and then you'll learn what it means to be loved. You are a special creation in God's eyes and there is a great purpose for your life.
I pray someday you'll see that staying on with this man is going to keep you in a self-made prison. Set yourself free and I'd bet you'll find someone else.
2006-09-07 10:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do so many women stay with men who have girlfriends? I just do not get it. Doesn't anybody understand that "YOU" wont be the one to change him. If he does it to his current girlfriend he will do it to you. Just think, even if he left his girl, when you two finally did get together, wouldn't you always wonder if he was texting and emailing somebody else. It would probably always be in the back of your mind. Then it wouldn't work anyway. Trust is a big issue. Find somebody else who will put you first. Who will be by your side.
2006-09-07 09:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babe... what are you thinking?? You don't have him. Neither does she. If he cared for either of you then he wouldn't treat you and/or her like that. He is selfish, and thinking of only his needs. What you have is nothing special! Special implies that it is expectational, or unlike others. You have the typical scenario "guy using girl" and you are letting him. Be a woman, and stand up for yourself. Have some self pride. Some self love. If you can't respect yourself and love yourself, and demand more, no one will give it to you. You can find any guy out there to treat you with disrespect, and or use you and have him live close to you, so he can do it all the time. So what... he calls you, big deal... do you think he doesn't call her? You don't think he tells her the same thing? Cmon.. You are fooling yourself. He is eating his cake, licking the icing, and asking for another piece.
2006-09-07 10:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by junebug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already know what's going to end up happening to you. Trust yourself! You will end up hurt. You are second best right now and that's never a good thing. Cut him off and find someone else to warm your heart...there are many more men out there that won't put you in this position. If he did this to his girlfriend now with you,what makes you think he won't do the same thing to you? MOVE ON QUICKLY!!
2006-09-07 09:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the rest of them. You need to get out of the relationship now. Why do you want a man that has another girl? He just wants the best of both worlds, and you are letting him have it. If I were you, I would tell his other girlfriend what has been going on. She deserves to know too. Because even if you dump him he will continue to cheat on her. I know you are probably mad at the other girl or even jealous, but remember, it isn't her fault. She probably doesn't even know about you. This guys sounds like a complete jerk... Leave him while you still can
2006-09-07 09:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by collegebusygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want this guy? He's already cheating on his present girlfriend with you, so how long do you think it would be before this scumbag would cheat on you?
The best thing to do (I know, easier said than done) is to dump this loser and find someone you can have all to yourself.
2006-09-07 09:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is too kinky and too likely to hurt you. If he is that close to his girlfriend why is he emailing you every day? He is playing one or both of you for fools. Stop responding and get a life with someone local.
2006-09-07 09:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
smartest thing you can do is change your email address. You are a sucker and if the other girl knows about you that's 2 suckers
if your old enough for sex he is having on hell of a time
2006-09-07 10:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋