advantage/disadvantage to having kids young??

Question

do you think there are benefits to having kids early on in life.how about strain on a body that has not fully matured,cash flow,education etc.im not judging anybody just wanted a few oppinions on the subject.

Answer 1

I think the one benefit is that younger parents may have more energy and relate better to their kids. As far as financial matters and education, those things don't always matter on what age the parents are. There can be older parents who are just getting by, with no more education than high school, or younger parents who have gone to college and just started a good paying career. Or it can be vice versa. The advantages and disadvantages vary from person to person, it can't be a stereotypical thing.

Answer 2

It is difficult to have kids young. I had my first child at 20 and my second at 25. I find that cash flow was a bit difficult the first time around. I think that as you get older you get more patient. I am lucky as I am mature and sometimes seem a lot older than I really am and have always been like that. I have often been told that I was born to be a mommy! If you are thinking of trying for a baby and you are young then my suggestion is to wait until at least you are financially secure and emotionally able to cope!

Answer 3

I'm an older mum. 1st baby at 35, second baby at 38. I've done things and been places a lot of people could never even imagine.
I have wisdom and strong social values.
I have no regrets about leaving it until later. I didn't realise how old I was chronologically!
I have more patience than I used to have, but I do find I tire more easily.
My children are well adjusted and still think I'm the bestest mummy in the world!
That may change. But at least I'll still be constant. I'm not still growing up and I know myself very well. Ditto husband.

Answer 4

i had my son at 24, my daughter at 26 and i wish i waited until at least 27 to have the first one. you give up ALOT having kids and i just wish i gave myself a few more years to do what i wanted. i TREASURE my freedom to go and do things, to travel and such and being a military spouse without my family right there to depend on it was all on me......and it was hard. i personally think many people who have their kids younger than i did don't really know what they're getting into but that's just my opinion. i know a lot of people who had kids by 19, 20 and they all struggled financially, they depended too much on their parents for help and babysitting, they don't have a college education or true finanical stability. many young people today think that having a job for 6 months or so means they are "financially stable" but really financially stable means sooooooooooooo much more than just that----at the very least! most don't even have an emergency fund (which is at least 3 months worth of income) more or less a decent sized savings account among the tons of other things it takes to truly raise a kid. also not to mention that many in their teens and early 20's are not mature enough to raise a child. this isn't to say that no teen has done it but i am just saying many are not. i know many young parents that are just emotionally unstable and maybe even a little resentful of having so much responsibility so young. i don't understand why so many people rush into it for........

Answer 5

a very difficult question as i think it deopends alot on how emotionally mature you are and not your age i have 5 kids i had mine at 19,21,23,26,29 years of age. i got married at 18 (still married to same guy) and i had a good job ect so did partner.but i had my third baby 13 weeks early and partner lost his job due to time off(daughter on life support could die any minute and work wouldnt give him compasionate leave she was like this for 2 months). i feel it is how you feel emotionally i am glad i had mine at a young age as i want to be able to see them grow up and be an active parent in thier life also would love to be a younger grandparent.if i had a baby at 40 i would be maybe 60 by the time i had grand kids or older i want to see grandkids and great grandkids and be able to still play an active role in thier life take the to the park ect (not saying that 60year olds are not active )

also when my youngest is at full time school next year i will only be 33 so i have plenty of time to re establish my own career and still young enough to be considered for good jobs

Answer 6

Having my children young is good because
I have a strong sense of purpose
Lots of energy
My life is starting postively with work/family balance
My children should have me around hopefully for a long time
My pregnancies have been lower risk and thankfully all three safe
When my children grow in my forties i'll be more independant, mortgage paid and able to support them.

I'm not discrediting older mothers, its worked well for me.

I do work
I'm 27
I have a 4 year old disabled son 2 year old girl and another baby due in 9 days

Answer 7

I wanted to be a mum by the time I was 25 because I figured being a young mum means youll have more energy to play with your kids, be more on their wavelength, that sort of thing. Im 26 now and still hoping lol!

Answer 8

I had my first daughter at 19 a son at 21 and my last daughter at 23. I'm glad I had them young. I can keep up with my kids. My mom had me at 18 my brother at 21 , then my sister at 37, another sister at 38 my brother at 39 lost two weeks after birth and my youngest brother at 40. She has a hard time keeping up. It's kind of neat to have brother and sister around my kids age. My son is two and my brother is three months older.

Answer 9

My mom had my sister when she was 15. Now that was to young. Then she had me when she was 18. People think that our mom is our sister a lot of the time. I had my first when I was 22. I am glad I had them early. I think kids are closer to there parents if they are born earlier. At least I am!

Answer 10

I have 3 under 5 nightmare, but i am young enough to deal with them when they get older i will still be young enough to activities that i still want. it is difficult but i had for my first child at 22 and i am 27 now. No more for me. I can also get my career back hopefully.