what do you think the benefits are to having kids later in life,do you think there is more risks to your health to wait or do you think your body is more mature and will handle in better.also do you think its better to have more time and money with the kids??
2006-09-07 02:09:35 · 14 answers · asked by tracey562128 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I have 4 children, my first 2 are 21 and 18, I had them when I was 23 and 26, then I remarried and had another 2 which are 10 and 9, I had my 10 year old when I was 33 and 9 year old when I was 34, although I think I was a good mother to my 2 older 2, I think maturity as an older Mum made me much calmer and able to cope with the 2 younger ones much easier, there will always be for's and against having children younger or later in life, but to be honest you go with what you think is right, I enjoyed my children , each and every one of them, so I don't think age really matters.
2006-09-07 02:18:05 · answer #1 · answered by hotbabes_tracey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We ar eboth in our early 30's. We've got an 18 month year old boy and since having him we wish we'd started years ago having a family.
Why? simply because it adds so much more meaning to our lives. We used to worry about when should we start, how much money we had etc . Well we found out on our honeymoon my wife was pregnant (totally unplanned) - which mean't finanicially we've been paying back the wedding on one salary as my wife stays at home with him.
In the space of 9 months our income was cut in half, loads more outgoings, you are constantly knackered for the first 6 months but you end up coping - you always do, and we find the money to get by. In fact we have a lot of fun doing all sorts of extra income schemes to make money from ebay to websites, to car boot sales etc.
I would hand on heart recommend to anyone that if you want kids and family then don't dilly dally because of finanicial concerns, get on with it.
In terms of the health issue, I'm not qualified to say there is less or more risk. However you do read that the older you get particuarly as you get over 35 then there is a little more risk of complications. These are all stats though, we know loads of poeple in late 30's and ealry 40's who've had healthy kids.
Good luck.
2006-09-07 02:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by Helping Hand 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can go both ways with this one. i have 2 boys wich i had before i was 20. the disadvantage was that i missed out on alot of "normal" teenage/young adult activities (but i wouldnt change it for the world). also it was hard financially but i never let the kids know of course. i had to work 40 hours a week so i didnt get to see them as much as i would have liked to. i was also not mature enough - i hadnt even figured out who i was yet. the advantage of having them at a young age is that they are now 8 and 10 and i am soon to be only 29. we have SO much fun together and i can relate to them as a friend as well as a parent. we are very close and can talk about ANYTHING. i have tons of energy to do whatever they want. also, if i chose to not have anymore children, i would only be 38 when they are both moved out. i could travel, etc. and have the rest of my life to do so. BUT im trying for #3 :) some call me crazy because i could be 50 before they even graduate high school but i dont see a problem with that at all. im more fianancially secure now and mentally stable and i dont have to work so ill have all the time in the world for all 3 kids. not to mention the help of the older siblings/babysitters lol!
2006-09-07 02:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by tulips♥77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 36 when I had my daughter. My husband was 39, but he has 2 children from a previous marriage. I kind of regret not having children sooner because it took a year to conceive. I never thought I would have a problem because I come from a huge family. A woman's fertility decreases with age. Not to mention I think about the time I missed out with my daughter. If I had her sooner, I would have more of my life to spend with her.
However, I don't know if I would have the patience, understanding and knowledge to be as good of a mother if I had children when I was younger. I am also more financially secure then I was in my 20's, which is a huge concern. Babies cost a lot of money.
Hope this info helps you.
2006-09-07 02:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well from a health perspective, it is always best to do it younger but don't be too swayed by that- I know loads of women who had babies in their late 30's/early 40's with no problems.
I think you should prioritise having the time and money to look after them as best you can- if this means waiting a while, it's probably worth it. You need to be ready emotionally too- make sure you've done everything in life you want before you settle down and have to always put someone else first.
2006-09-07 02:19:32 · answer #5 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can see the benefits of having children later in life most of which you have stated however i have had my 2 children now and i'm almost 26 the benefit of this was i work part time around my children and can spend most of my days with them i am more energetic than i imagine myself being when older and plus when they are grown i will still be young enough to continue my carrer path ok you may say i could have had my career set out before having children but i found this way to be best for myself and my partner its all dependant on the parents at the end of the day no one can tell you what is right or indeed wrong
2006-09-07 02:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a much greater disadvantage to have children later in life. In terms of your physical health the best time to have them is in your early 20s. The older you are the greater the risk to your health, but also to the child's, the risks of deformities such as Downs syndrome increase rapidly the older you are. Having children when you are older not only puts you at risk, but your child.
2006-09-07 02:19:34 · answer #7 · answered by rini27886 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Older women have a greater chance of having a child with Down Syndrome.
Men over 40 are 5 times more likely to have a child with Autism than those under 30.
2006-09-07 02:17:24 · answer #8 · answered by Helen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok here goes.. (In my own opinion)
Let me start by stating the advantages:
One thing:
1) You are fully prepared (physically, financially, emotionally and financially).
2) You get the chance to see your kids grow up and vice versa.
3) They could take care of you as you get old/older.
4) You could play with your grand sons and grand daughters and even go out with them for a party!!! :D
Disadvantages:
1) Couples may have a difficult time having a baby as they get older.
2) (In reverse from the advantages, see above)
I personally think it's better to have more time with kids - Parents must remember that their kids look up to them as 'role models'. No matter what... period!
More money? It's a good thing.... as you can support their needs or even give them better education.
Education is the best gift that parents can give to their children. It will take them very far and no one can ever steal it away from them....
Hope this has helped you....
2006-09-07 02:38:45 · answer #9 · answered by ToX 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
studies over the years have proven that the older a woman is for a 1st pregancy the greater the risk of problems & a greater risk of a child with "downs syndrome" particularly in the 40's
recent studies are claiming the same for men.
having kids later in life lessens the chance of you being around to see them grow up.
reallistically there are no gaurantees for anyone on that score though.
2006-09-07 02:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋