My first child was a boy and this one's a girl... they will be about 18 months apart.. and i've heard from some people to go ahead and have a shower b/c it's the opposite sex.. and then i heard it's not right.. does anyone know what's the right thing to do.. should i just have a house warming party when she arrives home..??? what should i do...
2006-09-07 02:01:35 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You should definately have a shower! You only have boy clothes so you'll need clothes for her. Plus its always fun getting all the girls together for a party!
2006-09-07 02:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Tracy O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back in the day it was a no-no to have more than one baby shower no matter how many babies were born into the family.
Nowadays families have a baby shower for each baby, same gender or not.
I think it depends on the circumstances. I would probably say no to this question if you were going to be having a second boy. Only because your new baby could use the "hand-me-downs" from your first born. Unless there was a huge time gap between the two.
With your babies being this close and of opposite gender, I don't see an issue with having another babyshower. This time around though it would be more for clothes and stuff like that. I wouldn't request anything more only because you probably still have the big stuff like the infant seat, tub etc. As an outsider, I would assume that you do. And if you don't well there's nothing wrong with putting them on your wish list, but don't be surprised if you don't get them because most people (like myself) will assume you still have them.
Good Luck with your decision!! And Congrats!
2006-09-07 02:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by my_lil_buttercups 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette says no - you only get 1 shower no matter how far about your children are and no matter what their ages are. (Unless it's with separate fathers - 15 years later or something - I'm guessing there would be an exception to the rule).
My children are 15 months apart Girl - then Boy.... I had all of my bigger items (i.e. swing, infant seat, bouncy seat, etc...) I had to purchase another crib, but I made sure I bought one that would convert into a toddler bed to save money later.
All of your close friends, family members and sometimes even churches get things for the new baby.
I have heard of people having a "diaper shower" after the new baby was born. You throw the party yourself - serve mints, cake, etc - just like at a regular shower, however, the object is just to receive diapers. (May not be a bad idea as you are probably going to have 2 in diapers).... I wish I would have heard of this when I had my son, because I definitely would have done it.
If you choose to go this route, you still get to visit with family and friends, etc (you can always exchange excess diapers for other things you need) - and every one gets to meet your new little bundle of joy.
2006-09-07 10:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not at all appropriate to have another shower. The only time I think a second baby shower is even remotely acceptable is if 10 years would go by between first and second child. Most of your close friends and family will bring you a gift after the baby is born anyway. Grandmothers live to buy kids clothes, especially little girl clothes. Also I would be amazed if friends or family would not be willing to let you use/give you hand me down clothes. My first child was a girl (however I did not know she was going to be a girl and have all yellow and green newborn clothes which I will use again), and I am now expecting a boy, and my sister in law has been collecting boy clothes for me from friends for me to borrow, and I now have so much stuff I barely know what to do with it all. Of course I went out and bought new things myself as I dont want my kid in all used clothes.
2006-09-07 05:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by sooz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people would say no, but I say why not? If you have a bunch of friends who want to get together and host a shower (you should never host your own...that's bad manners), it would be a good way to get "girl stuff" for the new baby. And if you decided not to have a shower, a celebration for the new baby after she arrives would also be appropriate. Your friends probably know you already have the "major" stuff from your first baby still around (since he's just over a year), but it couldn't hurt to have more things for the new baby, particularly since it's the other gender. There are some essentials you'll likely need two of as well, so I wouldn't say it's inappropriate for your friends to have another shower.
2006-09-07 02:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by medrecgal1973 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck yes have a shower!!!! lol - thats the best part - is there someone to throw a shower FOR you? i will! i LOVE baby showers PLUS its a girl! no but seriously, definitely have one. you can get all new GIRL things. i had 2 boys -22 months apart - and i had two showers! dont worry about the "right" thing to do - go with what you want. having a house warming party when she arrives home will probably be too overwhelming. congrats and i hope im blessed to have a girl too :)
2006-09-07 02:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by tulips♥77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a shower. I had a boy first and then a girl and my mom through me a second shower b/c i was having a girl. usually you are suppose to have one showe, nut there is no rule about that and most people loving going to showers, even if they came to one 18 months ago. It is fine to have another shower since this time you are having a girl. If you were having another boy I wouldn't suggest it, but its OK, either way. there are no rules on how many showers you can have. Good luck and Congrats!
2006-09-07 02:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by awesomemommy05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm pregnant with my second child also and it a little girl and I have a 17 month old little girl and I'm have another shower I really don't see anything wrong with it or you can do a meet and greet when the baby is born there is alot of other things you can do if you don't want another baby shower. But I would have another one because your having a little girl and you need girl stuff.
2006-09-07 04:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know people who have had a little girl and are having another little girl and they are still having a baby shower but they are calling it a Diaper shower. Where people bring what they want to but mostly like Diaper and wipes and stuff like that . Most of your friends and family know that you are having a baby of the opposite sex so naturally they are gonna bring you cloths and diapers think about it...
Go AHEAD and plan another one if they think it is wrong they wont show up and if not they will be there to support you.
2006-09-07 02:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by Nena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not proper etiquette to have another shower - especially to throw one yourself. If your mother or sister wanted to give you one for just immediate family and best friends, then that might be okay. However, you should have all the essentials now, so you basically need clothes. Your close friends and family will probably buy a gift for the new baby. Since this one is a girl, you will probably get more clothes than you expect. Everyone loves to buy baby girl clothes - believe me! I made the mistake of telling everyone I was having a girl and for my shower I got mostly all clothes. I had to end up returning half of them so I could get the necessities. Congratulations!
2006-09-07 02:13:33 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a shower. Just because you had a baby 18 months ago doesn't mean you can't have one for this baby. I have 2 girls 15 months apart and still had a shower for both.
2006-09-07 03:58:10 · answer #11 · answered by ♥mommy of 4♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋