I've been listening to you guys for a while, questions answers etc. There are some attractive christians and non-christians outhere, we all have urges and at times opposites can seem to attract.
I'm a committed christian, not boasting, but i have no T.V., no HiFi, no Radio, no Music, i don't go clubbing, could you live with that?
2006-09-07 01:35:08 · 45 answers · asked by HOPE 4 THE FUTURE: 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
bible thumpers need to calm down and live
2006-09-07 01:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Takafushi 5 · 1⤊ 8⤋
My wife is "born again" what ever that means. I am an Atheist through and through. We have some interesting discussions.
I'll grant you, we haven't been married long, only 35 years with 4 children and twice that many grand-kids.
So you tell me, is it possible?
BTW, we have TVs, radios, listen to music, drive cars, and my wife actually wears slacks to work. I think she might disagree with your posture. Just because it was invented after the Bible was written doesn't necessarily make it bad. You must exercise your faith as you see fit and I would never argue that with anyone but is your sacrifices really a part of your faith, simply a personal preferance or is it something you do to impress others? You say nothing about a telephone, or God Forbid, that evil computer. Sorry, I have shifted into "a discussion with my wife" mode. See how we live? It really is terrible, I really doubt we will stay together for more than 20 or 30 more years.
Good luck finding a gal. Just remember, you are with her because of what she IS, not what you can MAKE of the raw material.
2006-09-07 05:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
(First off I'm married with baby on the way & also a Christian)
When I got together with my FANTASTIC wife Jo-anne, I was not 'quite there', but was essentially leading a Christian life, but the non-christian thing was still a bit of an issue.
It can work, although there are divided loyalties and difficulties eg cannot go out carbooting, I'm at church etc. Indeed, In situations where one of a non christian couple starts going to church and there can be issues of not understanding.
My personal advice is to try and put yourself in situations where you will meet other christian singles. There is the organisation called Oak Hall that organise Christian holidays (In Christian circles it is the closest thing to an actual dating agency!)
Another thing I would ask you to think about is why do you not have a TV etc? Are you part of a strict church like the Breatherin? If not, have you actually considered trying these things?
I have many Christian friends that do all these things, and enjoy them, but it is all done within a christian context eg - They would avoid offensive TV programmes, would not listen to certain bands etc.
Not doing these thing may make it harder for you in general and in fact could mean that you miss out on a lot of stuff, there are some fantastic Christian Bands out there eg Delirious?
Also, there are is some very good Christian TV out there too.
2006-09-07 02:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by David 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you found someone who isn't interested in all those things, then yes you might have a chance with them, but you can't expect anyone to change what they are.
You are probably better off with someone who understands what you believe and believes it too. Otherwise there will be too much conflict in the relationship.
I knew a couple who were both christians, but she was much more devout than he was, she felt she must put God before him, and he couldn't understand that. There relationship was doomed from the start, but it dragged out for a year before she eventally made her mind up and let him go.
2006-09-07 01:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by Nettle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi - I think how you live your life is great, it obviously suits you (altho having neither a TV or HiFi is a little drastic....after all, you can choose what to watch and listen to, but hey!) However, when youre in a relationship (of any sort, whether friendship or romantic or whatever) it has to be a PARTNERSHIP, with both parties getting what they need from it so you have to be open minded that the other person may want to keep their hifi, TV, whatever. So, I guess what im saying is YOUR views are just that, YOUR views, any one you chose to have a relationship must be able to express themselves in their own way.
Take care, Bxx
2006-09-07 02:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't see why a committed christian couldn't have a relationship with a committed non christian. I don't, however, see the link between being a christian and having no tv or music etc, Surely you are simply making yourself more and more unavailable by creating unnecessary issues about yourself. God never said no music, and if its anything to do with worrying about outside influences, then it begs the question; is your faith that strong to begin with?
2006-09-07 01:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a Christian and I can do without clubbing but prefer to have some of the luxuries. it's difficult to meet person with that kind of values at present times. P.S . I cannot live without comp, books and good music. Music is important part. What is it aloud in your life? How came to you to put all that aside?
2006-09-07 01:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by Everona97 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"Can two walk together except they agree"? This is a Bibilical point of view. In life, it is quite difficult for two people with divergetn views on most matters to go togther. It is therefore not possible for a Christian to have a fulfiling relationship with a noe christian. If there is a relationship at all, it will be frustrating for both parties
2006-09-07 01:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by Andrew O 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hmm. But you have the internet.
You have none of these things mentioned exactly because...? It makes you a more committed Christian?
Back to the question. I guess you could have a relationship with a non-Christian, but being that you are so committed, why would you want to?
2006-09-07 01:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont believe these things you claim to have or not have is what is supposed to define a person as "Christian"...I am a committed Pagan and live very happily with my Christian mate. We get along by respecting each others beliefs. It isnt as hard as it seems to be for some who visit this site.
Blessed Be~
2006-09-07 01:44:47 · answer #10 · answered by Cheppyyyyy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I couldn't live with that - I would need my TV and radio if only to stay in touch with the modern world (I hate reading newspapers). I also enjoy mindless violence in computer games, could you live with that? I think tolerance is the order of the day, if you want to live with other like-minded people the same as yourself then perhaps you should join a monastery ;-)
2006-09-07 01:45:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋