Serious question - Would you adopt?

Question

I don't think I could do it. It's hard enough to love your own blood. What do you think, though? I would be very interested to hear your opinion on this. Thanks in advance.

I mean hypothetically, of course, if you wanted kids and this was the only way...

Answer 1

I guess it depends on your outlook on many things....
I would like to adopt at a later time. (I am a widowed mom of a five year old, and you're right, there are times when it's hard to handle.)
I work with runaway and homeless kids as a career. I counsel them and help place them in loving homes, or when homes are not available, we provide as many consistent adult role models as possible. You wouldn't believe how much neglect there is in your own backyard. These kids are NOT generally mentally ill, or suffering from fetal alchohol syndrome, unlike the popular misconception. They're just kids, many of them have had to learn to survive very horrible situations.
It's not all sunshine and licorice to adopt though. Like one of the above answers talked about, many kids have some things to work through... often the only chance they will ever have to do that is within a loving family.
Of course adopting a newborn reduces the amount of exposure the child may have had to abuse or neglect, but as with biological children, one must be prepared to deal with whatever could befall that child throughout life.....
Personally, I plan to someday re-marry and adopt at least one child, along with maybe having one of my own....and I have dreams of fostering more children once I have raised my own. I know that it is very expensive to adopt and support a child, but I feel that i would gladly sacrifice having that nicer car and that larger house to create a loving family and help a child. (Again, this is sort of a personality thing-- I'm not as interested in monetary gains as some-- no right or wrong there) I think that the financial disparity in this country is more severe than we realize, and I have seen time and time again that troubled kids, even kids already caught up in gangs, can be pulled back with loving support.
Kids are being thrown away-- literally, at young ages, right here in the U.S.!! Most of the population is ignorant of this situation. Then we wonder why we have such problems with violence and lack of education.....
Adoption is not for everyone. In fact, I would go so far as to say it's not for most people. So, I think that if one feels something stirring in them that they could help a child, they should answer it.
For those who feel that they want only their own--- feel proud of your children. It is natural to want to have and nurture your own babies!!

Answer 2

I am an adopted child.I found out when I was 11 so this is a very sensitive subject for me.My life could NOT have been any better if I were brought up by my biological parents.My parents[the ones that raised me]raised me like a princess.I was spoiled and loved more than any other kid I ever knew.People that didnt know would always tell me how lucky I was to have parents that I do.I had the chance to meet my biological parents when I was 18.I refused,thinking that that would only complicate things for all of us and upset my mother and father.I love my parents more than anyone else in this world[besides my children and husband]and wouldnt change them for ANYTHING and NOONE!!I think the real mother is the one who raises you and not the one who gives birth to you and thats the God honest reality!If I couldnt have kids of my own I would most certainly adopt..no question.So many kids out there that need a loving home.Imagine what its like being raised in an orphanage with no mommy or daddy.Its the worse thing ever.Think about it and dont be quick to judge!

Answer 3

Lucky, lucky Firefly, deluded into thinking life is so wonderful. Not every adopted child has a perfect life. I was adopted as an infant. Worlds most wonderful adoptive mother, worlds biggest scumbag as an adoptive father. Mom divorced scumbag when I was 11, thank god. I doubt very strongly I'd be able to bond with my own flesh and blood, much less an adopted child after what I've been through.

Answer 4

I am on the fence about this question. Some people can love anything and anyone. I find it hard for me to bond with anything. I don't think I could adopt. Even if it was the only way for me to have a child. How fair is it for me to adopt a child I will never truely love? Might as well leave adoption for other people.

Answer 5

If I wanted kids and adoption was the only way, then yes I'd adopt. I would probably not adopt from within the US though; the various rules and regulations about birth parent rights and open adoptions make me nervous. I'd hate to raise my adopted child for five years and then lose her/him to the birth parents because of some loophole that lets them change their mind. I'd probably adopt a child from Korea or Vietnam, since they are generally healthier than those from eastern Europe (better prenatal care).

Answer 6

Yes, I would. In my country, the law says, for single-parent adoption, you should be atleast 30 Yrs of age & in case of married couple, the relationship should be atleast 5 years old. If I remain single till 30, I will adopt a child, before I turn 31. In case I get married, I will speak with my wife and would still adopt at the end of the mandatory 5 year period.

Answer 7

I wouldn't, but it's a special calling in life. In a few special people, God places this desire on their heart. I know a guy who adopted 4 children who would have otherwise went to Social Services, and love them as their own. I was shocked to find out recently that all of these children were adopted, after knowing him for a year, because he always called them his own.

Answer 8

I did. It was a very difficult decision to make but 3 years ago we adopted a 9 year old girl. It has been rough but we love her. Many say it is the same as loving your own child but we do have one biological child and I do have to say it is different. But to me the difference is that we didn't have those sweet and innocent years with our daughter when the strongest attachments really take hold. We started right in the middle of childhood with a child who already had to learn to survive. We do love her very much - just as much as we love our son but it is different, more like a marriage- lots of understanding, forgiving and overlooking lots of baggage; lots of work.

Answer 9

I believe I would adopt.I think it takes someone with a lot of love and I have that.I have a medical condition and I can't have anymore children .I have a nine year old son and I would like to have more children.My husband and I have thought serious about adopting.

Answer 10

Adoption is ok, it gives disadvantaged children family and love. It's a noble thing to do. You can have your children but still adopt.