My girlfriend made me not trust any woman, now I have so many girlfriends, how can I know who has true love?

Question

I broke up with my girlfriend in June2005 after discovering she had love affair with one of my best friends?
After discovering this, I discussed the matter with her, I had no other option rather than dropping her.I felt so annoyed,dissappointed and traited.She was my first girlfriend and we had been in a boy/girlfriend relationship for three years. Being alone made me feel so depressed,streesse and I even started loosing weight. Since December 2005, I have had several love relationships with different girls, but I have been feeling guilt of my self. I dont like this kind of life, I wish to have only one girl,the one I will love,care and we would have a good familly.

But is there any way that will help me know who is the RIGHT GIRL for me?, the person I can put trust and love?

I am a university graduate and working but with lonely heart. Please,please help me! HOW SHOULD I KNOW THE RIGHT GIRL?

Answer 1

1. Your girlfriend didn't "make" you do anything. You have choices in the risks you want to take in your new relationships. You are choosing not to trust because of you're afraid of getting hurt but you are making that choice.

2. Stop putting so much weight on having the "right girl" and start enjoying life along the way. Even if things don't work out with a friend or girlfriend, it doesn't mean that you won't have great times and learn something about life and love along the way. Your happiness should not be dependent on a relationship. If you enter relationships with that expectation, you will be disappointed over and over. Happiness comes from within. When you feel good about yourself and your life, you will attract the "right" people.

Answer 2

Why do you have to be in such a hurry to have a steady g/f or partner? The main reason why you are breaking relationships is because you have not given yourself much time to commit to the right girl. Suggest you take the following steps:
1. Just make as many friends as you can, without wondering too much about the right girl for you.
2. Be sincere and honest with your friends
3. Show concern for them
4. Respect their views and ideas especially if they are different from yours.
5. Just be yourself and not try to be someone you are not
When you take the above steps, you will have a larger pool of girls who will understand you better and you will in turn learn to understand them as well.
Eventually, when there's someone who is most compatible with you, you will know. Then you can discuss and agree on a closer relationship. In this way, I can assure you, you will not have failed relationships again!

Answer 3

You need time to heal and get over your ex girlfriend. Although the break up was over a year ago, you are still bitter and angry with her for what she did and you are taking it out on other girls by dating many of them like some kind of punishment.

Stay alone for some time, have fun with your family and friends and one day when you least expect it, you will meet HER (the one) and all the bitterness will have gone. Only when you have forgiven your ex and let go of all the pain will you be able to move on.

In the mean time, ask God to help you with the healing process. Prayer and time heal all wounds.

Answer 4

all the girls r not the same.i think u should go with ur gut feeling.or if any of the gfs u left still comes back to u then may be she really cares for u.

Answer 5

girls are not to be trusted.