2006-09-06 23:45:46 · 34 answers · asked by No Offence 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Whatever you do, communicate calmly. It solves a lot of problems. Don't become huffy or sullen in an attempt to make them get the hint. If they are so oblivious that they overstay then they won't understand what you are trying to do anyway and they will just think that you are rude. Being passive aggressive never works either as you often underestimate how easily the other person can see through this, and it just comes off as being catty. You need to be candid. Don't say something crass, like you want to have sex, that will just embarass everyone. Instead ask your spouse to speak to them about leaving but make sure that you are present and that you can back him up. Otherwise he may back down making the situation even worse, and your absence will just make them suspect that you are behind it anyway. They will see you as putting him up to it and you will inevitably get the blame if they become upset. Instead, try and have a joint rational conversation when you are all sitting down and being calm. They'll appreciate honesty over subterfuge and accusations. Maybe have your spouse say something along the lines of " This is very difficult for us to bring up(remember it's us -you're a united front) because we are afraid of hurting your feelings, but we really need to get the house back to ourselves. As much as we like you visiting, it it difficult to have any house guest stay for so long." If they have any reasoning skills they will understand where you are coming from and shouldn't take it personaly. if not, i'm afraid they may still become upset but there is nothing to feel guilty about on your part, as you have acted as adults.
2006-09-07 00:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by Christine155 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Only your husband can do that unless you want to look like an b*tch. You can give subtle hints though like don't worry about being a good hostess. Leave the house for a few hours by yourself and go shopping or whatever and don't invite them. I usually lock myself in my room when my in-laws come around because they are a**holes and deserve it. Usually unless people are really stupid or just don't care they know that they have overstayed their welcome. I guess your guests just don't care.
I agree with Krystle. That's a great answer! Get dirty with your husband. Say you have to go out to buy condoms and leave for about 5 hours.
2006-09-06 23:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh the In Laws lovely lovely people really!! Firstly before they come to stay next time put a time limit on their stay (I always make sure I have friends staying either side of the weekend they are!) But this time speak to your other half tell him that though you love his family you want your house back be honest about it you are married he will understand, this gives him the opportunity to speak to his parents (normally better coming from their child than their son/daughter in law) if this doesn't work then be an adult about it. Sit them down and explain that although you love their company because you want to make their stay as comfortable as possible it is hard work for you and your sure it is hard for them being in someones elses home. Play the this isn't you its me card. If this doesn't work and they really are the worse in laws ever then get your husband to take them out and while they are out pack their stuff for them tell them you have a friend coming you need the room and before the friend arrives you need to have sex with your husband as he wont while his parents are there as you are a screamer and laugh as they leave!
2006-09-07 00:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by suzi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scatter a few magazines around that include residential homes for couples and a few holiday brochures for the over 60's or whatever their age is and a few for yourself ring a few resorts and THE DATES for very near future, then go shopping and leave them at home, mother in law will not be able to resist looking through the mags, most likely they will be packed and ready to go by the time you get back LOL
2006-09-07 00:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by Denise W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try; with all do respect, we really enjoy your company, but now is the time our relationship is screaming for some one on one quality time. In other words, we want to make love and it can be quite loud. They will either get a chuckle out of it and go with understanding and a smile on their faces to go home and do the same thing...or they are prudes and will leave with a look of disgust and choose not to come back for a while. Win win situation.
2006-09-06 23:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Out of the blue some old and dear friends ring up and say they desperately need accommodation for a week or two because their house has been flooded and you are the only ones they can turn to - so, sorry ma and pa in law, but we need the room!
2006-09-06 23:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by mad 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you would like to have some time along with your husband.
Turn your guest rooms into something else and maybe they will stop coming and staying with you. When they come and visit they will stay in a hotel or someone else house and are less likely to stay that long.
Tell your spouse how you are feeling and make him/her deal with them. After all they arent your parents.
Tell them you love them but its time for them to go. You have your life and they should have their own life too.
2006-09-06 23:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by larrys_babygurl_4life 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had this problem many times and have decided honesty is the best way to deal with it. Explain before they come you will be pleased to see them but put a time limit on their visit. My limit was two weeks only. It does work and both parties know where they are
2006-09-07 00:02:35 · answer #8 · answered by teddytops 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a good 1, i probably try something like this! first of all i wouldn't ask my hubby to deal with the situation, as i wouldn't want him to think that i was sick of seeing his family! i be a bit conniving, on there next scheduled visit be prepared and buy the in laws a present, something that there interested in obviously, but the trick is to make it something that they can only use in there own house, hopefully they will be rushing home to use it.
2006-09-06 23:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a nice heart to heart chat with your husband ... explain how you are feeling and allow him to handle the situation.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-06 23:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋