are woman realy narow minded and shallow now replacing men in that department?

Question

this is not a sexist question by any strech of the imagination but by personal experience going on dating sites women say they want someone careing loving honest they say looks dont mater your talking to them and as soon as you send a pic they stop talking and dont want to know and that seems across the board am i wrong i dont want answers saying your talking to the wrong hind of women cos i talk to allsorts and i dont want cos your a minger cos i cant help it dont we all deserve some happiness in life ladys are you realy its a question not a statement

Answer 1

There are women who are shallow and there are men who are shallow. There's no need to make gender distinctions, not even in the context you're speaking of (or in).

Answer 2

Dating sites can be harsh because people can reject you at a distance so somehow those decisions become removed and maybe easier to make when you aren't dealing with a person in front of you. As much as we would all like to say it's the personality that counts we all work on physical attraction men women straight and gay or whatever. I'm sure you have known women you have found attractive and some you have not. The great thing is attraction is individual hence the term one man's meat is another man's poison, keep trying and don't be put off but maybe try to meet women face to face as friends first and see what develops

Answer 3

I think it's a true reflection on human nature. We may say that look's don’t matter, but without attraction relationships cant really function. That doesn’t mean that everyone looks for the same type or we all want our other halves to be super-models.
But I think people forget that just because you meet someone on the internet, doesn’t mean you forget what type you're attracted to. You still keep in the back of my mind, if I were at a party/bar/cafe etc would I be talking to this person? If the answer is no, then is there any reason to pursue the conversation further.

Of course, it depends on what you're looking for - but if you are looking for a 'mate' temporary or otherwise you need to at least feel some kind of attraction, no matter what the emotional connection.

Attraction doesn’t have to be, nor should it ever really be, purely about looks, but if you don’t fancy someone, you're never going to have a successful relationship. I don’t know if this answers the question or confirms your belief that we are all shallow, vacuous...

Answer 4

Yes a lot of women ae shallow just like many men. I think it's the way you are trying to meet women is the problem in a social situation you can get over the fact that you are a "minger" if you have personality is good and your dress sense is sharp. Happy hunting!

Answer 5

I don't think women are narrow minded for taking the man's looks into account. It may be to do with having an instinct built in, for choosing a biological partner ,and they are responding to this. Men may be thinking more of enjoying this woman and the woman, whether she knows it or not, may be analysing him as a potential father of her children. If he don't seem to look right, she can't help it. Most women weigh up personality as well as looks.
If she don't like you, count yourself lucky you found out before it was too late.
Look how many ugly men have decorative wives and it is only because the men are rich.

Answer 6

One if you are a minor then you should not be on dating sites for adults. They are probably rejecting you cause you are a minor and they don't wish to be sitting in prison and have their names on the sex offends web site. So they are smart enough to advoid you. Which if you told them your age to begin with they should stop talking to you then.
If you are a minor you should stop getting onto the dating sites for adults and try other methods for kids your age.
Yes some women do stop talking to guys after they see their pictures cause some women are not attracted to that person. Men do the same thing. Its NOT something all women do and its not something all men do neither.

Answer 7

I think there does appear to be a shift which is related to women in the workplace and their earning power. Unfortunately, women like that do not go looking for a husband to stay at home and look after the kids like a man at work does. They go looking for men at work earning more money than them as it is only money they are after.

Shallow or what?

Answer 8

well i think that woman have had to put up with that sort of thing for too long now and now they have started to notice that they can do the same thing and not get dissed for doing it they will but i think this is a wrong way about it i would much rather get to no somone for who they are not what they look like and those that just go for looks are more likely to be parinoid because they no they could get anyone and they like to spend more time in the bathroom than with you

Answer 9

Sorry dude maybe they really don't like the way you look. Yeah, then they shouldn't be saying that looks don't matter. Looks matter to me and I'm not going to hide it. It is not my main criteria though. Maybe you should learn how to read those ads. Like they say, if an ad about selling a car says "Runs great" it means there is a dent on the car, if it says "Looks great" means the car doesn't run.

Answer 10

I know that most women and men are narrow minded in this regard but as much as you may not believe it, a few of us are not. I am one of those but because my tastes in looks are not the norm, I am called a freak by my male and female friends. Whenever i mention that i like the way a non conventional guy looks, my friends always tell me affectionately that i am not normal, yes but you are a weirdo, etc etc.. I know that this is true.
I am considered to be very attractive but i find that attractive people just don't do it for me. I think they are extremely boring and look like a bunch of cardboard cutouts. Because i am considered to be a good looker, its thought of as extra strange that i am this way. I honestly find ALL people attractive in different ways. I like big noses, crooked teeth, love scars, big, small, fat, skinny, acne, lined faces. It is nothing in particular but there is usually something in a person that i find attractive and it seems that thing is never attractive to the majority of other women and men. I am this way when it comes to men and women.
My point is that although i believe we are all physically attracted to others, there really are people out there that find the different attractive. The look that is normally considered to be attractive is very dull and uninteresting to people like me and I know that I can not be the only one out there.
It is true that I find peoples personalities attractive but I do not claim that is all that is necessary. I do like physical attributes aswell and I am attracted to some and not others.. its just that for me, its not the regular buff, square jawed, brad pitt types that do it for me. Seriously... keep looking, we DO EXIST!
My man is a big fella with red hair, a beard, a big belly and lots of scars on his face. He says his whole life, he was told he was ugly and yet i find him absolutely gorgeous!!! He really is sexy to me and its his looks as well as his wonderful heart and sense of humour. He always says that he cant believe a girl that looks like me really loves a man that looks like him and it took him a long time to accept that its the truth but he does now. And no... he isnt rich either. He was broke when we met so it aint about that. Keep at it. This subject is a big thing for me because i am constantly defending myself when people are stunned at my taste in looks. All people are beautiful to me, except the beautiful people.