I find it very hard to find someone not just out there for there own greed. don't they realise that security doesn't excist anymore ??
2006-09-06 23:05:36 · 15 answers · asked by wonbari2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wanting security is not the same as being greedy. It could even be argued that a female seeking security is a biological instinct. Now of course there are people who are just gold-diggers. But wanting a man with a stable career or at least a stable career in the makings is not being greedy. It's being realistic, especially if marriage and a family are being considered.
Love is beautiful, and I wouldn't want to marry without love. But love doesn't pay the bills. And I want a man who is responsible and realistic and can handle being head of a household.
For me, love and trust are absolutely connected to a man's desire to care for me. How can a man say he loves a woman if he is not prepared to care for her? If he doesn't at least make all efforts to help her achieve peace and stability? That isn't love. That's just wanting to get all the advantages of female companionship without living up to your end of the deal...
Whoever thinks that women who desire such a thing are unintelligent must have a superiority complex or be in some sort of denial. So does that mean anyone who is a housewife or a stay-at-home mom is unintelligent? I'm sure you can tell by my writing that I am intelligent. And I do not mind working. I simply don't want to feel that I MUST work (in a marriage). I think it's best if the options are open for the woman, if she is to be a mother and homemaker as well.
Contary to popular belief (especially here in the states), making a lot of money... or making money period... does not make you inherantly more intelligent than someone else.
2006-09-06 23:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Daisy... I'm extremely independant and I don't need anyone's money or security to be happy in my life. All I want is someone understanding and loving to share my life with. You've obviously met the wrong women. I don't think it's so hard to find someone that's not just out there for their own greed... I think it's rare for a person to be open and trusting enough to discover what a person truly wants so they just assume the worst instead of putting themselves out there to get hurt.
2006-09-06 23:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Theres a difference between wanting money and security and wanting to be secure and fulfilled within life. I earn my own money, am quite happy to fend for myself - but yet when I meet a man I will expect him to be able to support himself - I mean in this day and age you kinda need to know you'll be ok money wise should something happen!
As for security - I think you maybe mistaking security for a sense of belonging and happiness.
2006-09-06 23:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay...wanting security isn't greedy...it's pretty normal. Wanting to make sure you're not living in a cardboard box under the overpass (interested in money) is also pretty normal.
Let's see...so you're looking for a woman who doesn't want a home, and doesn't need food, clothes or medical care. Hmmm..you may want to try a monastic life.
2006-09-06 23:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kaia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
security excists if u have enough money. and i was amaized to read that there re so many cheap women out there - they don't need a man with money, they re going to provide him with theirs. seven thumbs down. im independent and wealthy enough woman i would never ever go out with a man who can't afford to take me to a nice restaurant and pay for both of us even if i can afford to pay for both of us i don't want to. or a man who can't afford to give me nice expensive presents -the ones i would buy for myself because i can afford it. i want love AND money AND security. i don't think it is greed. if u think it is greed - go find yourself cheap girl who would agree to pay for u. it seems there re plenty
2006-09-06 23:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a woman out there that doesn't want money and security. The thing you should be asking is whether they want it ready for them or are willing to work for it themselves.
I believe any woman who wants both, should go out and make it happen.
Relationships have nothing to do with money and security, except maybe being secure in your partner's love and trust.
2006-09-06 23:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by nikimag1975 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There are girls out there who value other important things in a relationship than just money and security. You just have to get to know the girl first before committing to her just in case she's not what you're looking for in a girl. Even if nowadays people are giving more importance to external factors in a relationship such as money, status in society, etc., there are still some out there who still value the more important things like love and trust.
2006-09-06 23:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's not that women are greedy, its just that that's the way that they are wired. They need to have a man who can provide for the family, so it is natural for them to seek financial security. It's their phychological make up, so don't be too hard on them. After all, you you want to marry someone who could not provide for your family(if you were a woman)?
2006-09-06 23:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
money is the last thing on my mind when exploring a potential relationship. You are obviously having a bit of bad luck if those are the only woman you are meeting.
And as for security, of course it exists. A secure relationship is one built on trust, honesty and through love.
Keep lookin for the right woman, she is out there somewhere
2006-09-06 23:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by beanie 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Im an independant woman and the only thing I want from my man is love and understanding. You are obviously meeting the wrong kind of women. Good luck
2006-09-06 23:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by Daisy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋