When my bf of a month broke up with me, his reason was, "You're too good for me." Why did he say that? Am I really too good for him, or did he just say it to make me go away?
2006-09-06 22:15:53 · 20 answers · asked by gummy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't have sex with him. And I couldn't clarify anything because he avoids me.
2006-09-06 22:24:52 · update #1
You may well be too good for him because he has just spun you an excuse. The fact of the matter is that if a man really wants to be with you, he will do everything within his power to be with you. NO WAY would he do anything to risk losing you especially if he thought you were too good for him. He is just not that crazy about you. Harsh but true. If a man wants to be with you, he will call even if he is shy, call back after a date, want to be around you constantly after only a month and thank god for being so lucky if he thought you were above what he deserved.
My man used to say that i was way too good for him, but he was gonna take it, feel blessed and not ask questions.
2006-09-06 22:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possibly. It could be a self-esteem thing. He may feel that you're out of his league and that puts pressure on him, in his own mind, to be something he's not. You could try to reassure him that you do like him the way he is.
There is also the possibility that he thinks that you think pretty highly of yourself. Perhaps you've given him the impression that he has to "earn" you.
Or maybe he's just a tool and doesn't have the balls to say how he really feels.
A month isn't a long time in the scheme of things. I would use this as good practice in learning how to get over relationships, even when you can't work out why they didn't work. I can tell you now, most relationships, 1 month or 10 years, don't end in clean, easily understandable circumstances.
2006-09-06 22:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime a Guy says that "You're too good for me." he's trying to let you off easy. Now, if he was sincere and meant it he would've followed the statement with an explanation on why he feels that way and what changes he should make to fit you Perfect mold.
Long story short most likely there's someone else he had eyes for. Sorry, that happened but, you'll be okay! Askme922
2006-09-06 22:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by Askme922 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to be honest, that phrase is used a lot my both men and women. It's kind of a nice way of letting go. It could have been worse, if you would have been together for more than a month. Just take it to heart and move on, maybe you are better than him, find yourself someone that will be equal with you. Good luck sweetie!
2006-09-06 22:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by LM 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 23:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was just trying to be nice, I hate to say this but there was probably an underlying reason. Either that or he felt that you were too much of a goody goody for him...Either way I don't see it being a positive thing at all..Sorry for the bad news...cheer up...he prob wasn't good for you anyways.
2006-09-06 22:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by Don't stop! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably said that because because that's how he feels. He doesn't feel worthy enough to be with you. It all depends on your attitude and his. You maybe one of the few were opposites attract, and he finally realized that you are from a higher ground, and he couldn't deal with that.
I'm not saying that this is true, but it might be how he feels. I would just talk to him and ask him what he meant by it.
2006-09-06 22:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry...but i dont think he meant it. Mostly, the kind of excuse is given when the guy doesnt want to hurt you. If a guy truly believes you're a good catch, he'll be saying, gee im lucky to have you.
2006-09-06 22:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by Beachy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no. What he meant was that you aren't the right person for him. Which means you are too good.... like... too nice... to prudish for him. Not you're too great for him. Sorry to burst your bubble, but he dumped you because you weren't bad enough for him. He was looking for a gal that would do more things with him.
2006-09-06 22:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet that for the month you were together you didn't have sex with him so what he's really saying is that he wants someone who will have sex !!
2006-09-06 22:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by that b puss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋