A family member of mine who i was extremly close to died 2 years ago. I dont think i was able to accept the fact that they had died and recently i have been having terrible nightmares and these have been making me feel really down. I feel like my life it completey crap and my mind is not right for creating these nighmares. Can anyone suggest something that could help me out ????
2006-09-06 22:02:38 · 25 answers · asked by CHAZ 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Dear Chaz
I know what you are going through because about 3 year ago i lost my nan and it was a dreadful experience. What you need to do is go to your G.P and asked to be refer-ed to a counsellor and they will help you though this. I have had counselling and it has helped me. As for the nightmares you could explain this to your G.P. and see what they say
YogiYarmouth
2006-09-07 03:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by yogiyarmouth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there why not try a trip to the Dr and tell him how you are feeling,grief is sometimes very hard to come to terms with,especially when they were so close to you,there some councilors for those that have been bereaved by someone they loved,try looking in the yellow pages or just ask your Dr as i'am sure he or she will be of great help to you,your life is not crap you are just depressed,and that can be treated,i wish you good luck
2006-09-07 05:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by amber_xx66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like some kind of depression, in my NON-PROFESSIONAL opinion. I think it would be good to look for some professional help - you can be surprised at how small things you never thought of can help.
For a quick remedy... read Pollyanna. I loved that book, it saved me from the onset of a depression. Before that, I was depressed for some time and didn't think of getting help - I truged through and came back up, but I think there could be easier ways.
Also, try helping other people. It's cliche, I think, but it still helps. Knowing that you've done something good for somebody else feels very good - it helps the feeling that one's life is crappy, at least. By comparing it with the life of another person you can help.
Another thought that held me through some bad times was that when I look back at my problems 5 or 10 years from now, I will think them ridiculous, just as when I look now at earlier problems they just fail to move me.
Good luck, I hope you get a way to recover quickly. It's no fun without help, but people have survived depression, keep your hope up. Btw, I also had nightmares, when I was depressed...
2006-09-07 05:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking about it to someone you can trust would be a start. Nightmares can be a sign of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, so I would suggest seeing a psychiatrist to help diagnose you if there is something like that going on. Other than that, grief is a long process. There are classes that specialize in losing people close to you. Usually available through your healthcare if you have it. If not general hospitals do offer things similar. Its just about finding the right people you can trust to talk to. I'm sorry to hear of your loss, and I wish you hope, health, and help.
2006-09-07 05:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of the good times that your family member was involved in. Forget any of the bad things. Think of the advice that that person may have ever given you, especially if you've had a rough patch before and if they gave you any advice related to how you feel. Nightmares for me are usually linked to my day to day stresses, as well as any issues I might have. I think what you should do is if and when you have some spare money and time is go away to somewhere you've always wanted to visit, like say you live in England but you've never been to London. Learn how to play piano, anything that you may have thought about as acheivable but you haven't gotten around to it. I reckon that could help. It's just line of thought for you. Good Luck
2006-09-07 05:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss. Often times we convince ourselves that we are "alright" all the while going about our business after a family loss. But, the truth is, we need to let ourselves move through all of the feelings that associate with our family member's departure...I have had this happen, a delayed response that outpictures through dreams and depression. Talk to a professional whom you feel will help you grieve your loss through. The following two links may help you -- sometimes when we read about the signs and symptoms, everything will fall into place. All the best.
2006-09-07 05:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by magnamamma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go and see your doc, tell them whats been going on and ask for a referal to a grief counsellor or similar, no one can really diagnose you properly otherwise. It is hard when you lose some one close to you and nobody except you can understand fully the feelings of loss that you have because everyone is different. Go see the doc and get referred hons. You also need to take time out for yourself and remember the good things that this person did for you and with you and remember them with fondness and a smile in your heart.....
2006-09-07 06:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by tracy r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your GP should refer you to a therapist ! There are waiting - lists
but make your case urgent to get seen faster ! Maybe you can go private . You need to tackle that problem, maybe talking about the death with another family member who has known the person in the meantime .
Good luck !
2006-09-07 05:17:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going thru a grieving process although people vary on how long they grieve for a person it sounds like you are truely having trouble coming to terms with it you need to go talk with a minister/priest or a counselor and let the sorrow and pain you are feeling out so you can start healing i'm sure if your family member was here he/she would tell you the same thing. god bless
2006-09-07 05:13:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kinda of agree with the other answer you need too talk with a therapist or if you cant afford one maybe someone in a religious capacity who Can at least lend you an ear for you too talk too.
my suggestion personally would be too try to remember the good things that this person did and what he meant to you as family.
as for your nightmares , i don't really know other than too say that is what they are just nightmares and try not too dwell on them.
i hope you find the answers you are looking for, my sincerest condolences for you and your family.
best wishes for you !!!!!!
2006-09-07 05:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by lesdrake2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋