I am deeply in luv with guy... and our relation was rocking in the starting.. we r in luv since one year and from the past few months he fights with me for nothing... he is a bit intro and i am an outgoing person... today we made a list of points we fight on..
He finds it difficult :
1) With my outgoing nature
2) he don't like me moving around with friends ( he don't suspect but feels uncomfortable)
3) he don't like me being ambitious in life (he likes more traditional women who stay home)
i was trying to take care of the above things but its not working.. he finds out something else wrong in me... he is abit short tempered... he made a point of all these from past few days.. and we end up with a fight for every 2 days... and i am completely fustrated with this... i can't live without him and our relation is going worst day by day... what should i doo?? plzz suggest me.. I really need HELP...
2006-09-06 21:43:30 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
forget and let us be friends
2006-09-06 21:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by doctor asho 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Keep yourself cool, you are a very good girl and i appreciate your concern about your Boy friend.
Don;t worry give him some time, basically he cares you a lot and has a feeling of insecurity.
Pls. make him sure and feel comfortable on this point, I will tell you he loves you a lot and if your really want to know whether he loves you or not.
Try this :
1) Just leave him alone for atleast 7 days time, No phone calls, No SMS, No replies & see the differance.
2) Let him dominate U for sometime, stay cool & calm i.e u need to act diferently.
Kindly excuse me for Point No.2, I can make out from your above lines that u r little aggressive. But still, l would stick to my point no.2 . [ coz rest of the life only 99.9 % wife dominates there husbands].
2006-09-09 06:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by Vijaypappu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you seem like you got a real problem on your hands!
First and foremost it's good that you two admit that there's a problem to began with. Second, is that you two also communicated on the issues you've been having. Third, and most important is that you two are being honest. These are all good signs of a Friendship.
Now Relationship wise you two do not seem to be compatible at all. You want to accomplish goals and aspirations while having a little fun with family and friends. And he expects you just to stay home and have babies- If that's not something you want to conform to then don't change for him. Any change you make has to be based on you wanting to change. And if he can't accept that then, how much does he care about you and having a future with you.
Now I know you love him with all your heart, but maybe you two need to take a break to see if you two are really meant for eachother- Hey- it's better to see if he miss you and is willing to accept you for you, then two stay together damge a potenially good friendship and end up hating it other guts.
Right now it might be the best course of action to take a breather and see How Much He Loves You.. Good Luck-Askme922
2006-09-07 05:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by Askme922 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not tell yourself "I cannot live without him" yes you can.Before him there was you and then came him.If you are in fact fed-up then why stay in this relationship to only make yourself go grazy.This from the notes above clearly states that there is no room for improvement.Looking for faults and constant fights and then hippertheticly he might hit you.It sounds like he has the proplem,and his making you think you do.If you trying to make all this work out ,what is he doing?Something else is going on aside from you and him ,you should consider that he might secretly have interest somewhere esle.This conflict is not springing from just your relationship.Woman get a back bone and let him go.The help you need is support from friends to be around while you are recovering.Save yourself ,no man who loves will put you through drama and contant fights.Get out before you loose yourself in it.All the best to you and from a woman to a woman stress causes wrinkles and heartache and it will start hurting other people you love and who love you.God bless you in all things,goodnite.
2006-09-07 05:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by goose 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to like this but my advice is to split up with him. He is trying to change you and that means he doesn't love you for who you are.
There are many fish in the sea, and a lot of these men would appreciate an outgoing, ambitious lady.
Your current BF is possessive, controlling, and insecure.
You seem to be apologizing for having good qualities...DON'T!!
Don't wait till he has eroded all of your self-confidence to realize that he's not allowing you to grow as a person. Not only can you live without him, chances are you'd have a BETTER LIFE without him.
A break-up is never easy or fun, but get on with it... the sooner the better in the long run. Good Luck!!!!
2006-09-07 05:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him and don't want to end it so soon try being apart for a week or two. You know that saying 'absence makes the heart grow fonder', well it's true if there is true love. Maybe if you're not around for a little while he will realize that he shouldn't be so critical of you all the time. Some people just get complacent. If nothing changes after the 'time out' then it's probably time to move on.
2006-09-07 04:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u can't live without him just talk to him about how ur relationship is abot to break.You say that u have listed the points on which u fight.Talk with him on those points. Work out a compromise point.if he comes up with new point do not reply imidiately .let him cool down.give him time to cool down.once he is normal talk on that point , just as i said earlier.but if he does not want to make things easy for you by compromise than it clearly means he dosn't love you. dont waste your life or time.i am serious bout that. if want any more help mail me to coolestguyrutwij@gmail.com
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2006-09-09 10:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by Rutwij K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its great to learn that you are outgoing person a nd very ambitious too yet sad that you engaged with a man who doesn,t seems to understand you , in short , he is not worth for a great person like you and you shall not cry over the to be broken relation , move out of his life , good or bad , all for the best
2006-09-07 06:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by fermino f 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No 3 is a good reason to break up. No 1 n 2 i can understand him. I personally dont like men who thin of women to be less... u gatta be ambitious coz its not definate he will provide u with all u want/need. let him go...find someone compatible.
2006-09-07 04:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
these people have no good advice for you. so let me help. DO NOT CHANGE WHO YOU ARE TO PLEASE HIM! if anything he should love that you are ambitious, and outgoing, and he should admire your intellect for at least that much. Never give away your power to anyone. Once you lose it, you can't get it back. remember the old saying "if you love someone, let them go. if they come back, then they're yours, and if they don't, they never was" its sooooooooo true. people really don't realize what they have until they are gone, so maybe time apart is what the two of you need, for him to realize what he really has.
2006-09-07 04:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by Shuggah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well,you love him but ask your self,can you cope up with his demanding nature...can you give up all that he is asking,basically he is asking you for your freedom and space,right now you might feel that you can becos you are blindly in love but later when reality hits,it hurts and you get trapped!!
if he trusly loves you he has to accept you the way you are and if he doesnt then you need to ask yourself all the above questions and reconsider your relationship!!think wise,this is not the end of it,try have a chat with him over this and tell him clearly that these issue might force you to part ways,see if he is ready to compromise or else,i suggest you move on.....good luck!!
2006-09-07 04:51:21 · answer #11 · answered by country_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋