i earn more and sometimes if i talk about money.. he gets upset.. i say.. so upset pissed off .. as he hates me..
2006-09-06 20:33:09 · 16 answers · asked by Tina J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol tell him to grow up and if he don't like it then find a better job cause what the hell does he want you to do get a job at McDonald's tell him to except it or kick rocks
2006-09-06 20:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by khissmyputtytat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then get rid of him ,money should never come between two people who love each other ,and why would ot bother her any way ,he has his own money dont he or did you pick him up off the street cos hes acting as if thats all he worries about ,you can not buy love or friendship,it cost nothing and is free and at the end of the day you will probably get on so much better without even mentioning money ,its got nothing to do with anything if you are in love ,
i have loved my husband who i meet when i was 19 ,for 13 years now ,money has never bothered either of us so long as we have each other ,its a killer you know is money and the worry and stress it can bring ,if you organise your life right in the first place and get your priorities right you will see you dont need that much money ,as all the best things in life are free ,but im affraid if hes treating you like this ,then you either need to sit him down and talk or dump him ,he will destroy any faith in true love that you are ever likely to find,
and i find it very selfish and silly ,how would he feel if you were to be gone tomorrow would he still be bothered about money then or would he wish he could give everything up just to have you back with him? ,,
my husband and i have a saying ,we would live in a mud hut, other than be parted ,
get it sorted sweetie or you will always be misserable.
all the best wishes ,,,kat
2006-09-07 03:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by whitecloud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, yes, it does matter. Few relationships survive when the woman makes significantly more than the man. He probably gets self-esteem issues of various sorts. And the woman usually loses respect for him as well. He probably finds it embarassing if not downright humiliating when you pay for something for him.
Shrug, I would just not bring it up, let him pay for something now and then, and do your best to encourage him to get a better job.
Alternatively, you could just dump him and find someone not so insecure and/or richer. But I'm sure there's that whole love issue to deal with.
2006-09-07 03:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sinai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes money is definitely an issue for a man. I think it makes them feel insecure and it deflates their ego. I think it's because traditionally the man earned the money and the woman stayed home, it gave them a sense of providing and security - This was their primary role as a man. Know that he's anger is about himself not about you. Find ways to make it easier for him and assure him that you love him and see him as a "man" in every possible way. ...Or encourage him to excel and start earning more than you...Good Luck....this is a difficult one!
2006-09-07 03:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by Issabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are in a casual relationship. In a committed relationship all money is "our money". For the first 7 years of our marriage my wife (committed relationship) made more money than I did. It didn't matter because we both got to spend it. When my income passed hers she was happy. Because she got to spend it too. She told me to go out and make twice as much money as she did. So, what with the commitments she made to raise the kids, I managed to do that too. No problem. With "our" money, she took me to Australia, Iceland, Ireland and The Netherlands.
It is not and has never been a problem with us. Today is our 37th wedding anniversary.
Bottom line... if he gets pissed off about something as trivial as who has more money, what is he going to do when something important comes up? What is he going to do when his boss is female? I thought I was marrying June Cleaver. Wrongo. I married Xena. Sooner or later he will have to get used to it. If he gets used to it with a chick with a lot of money, he is ahead of the game.
2006-09-07 03:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by pytiii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who in the heck wants to go out with a girl that makes more than you, and then to make matters worse, talks about it? I can hardly think of anything worse.
In my opinion, it is serious and places you in a position of wearing the pants.
I have a concern as to why you're talking about it, and I'm not convinced that you don't enjoy the superior position, or that you would not regard it as sort of an "ace in hole," secretly.
2006-09-07 03:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont even worry about him coz dats normal he feels that ur the one dats wearing the pants now just coz u earn more and he feels like u gonna think ur bigger than him just coz he earns lesser than u try not to talk abt money when ull together...
2006-09-07 03:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, who cares about money! money isn't the MOST important thing in relationship, It doesn't matter who earns more.
2006-09-07 03:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It dosen't matter if a girl earns more, It does matter when she begins to brag about it in front of him just to put him down.
2006-09-07 03:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by joseph s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with the guy,only a pleasure if you earn more, i would let you spoil me
2006-09-07 03:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by clutch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋