2006-09-06 19:54:12 · 16 answers · asked by abcd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
arrange marrige to be in january 2007
2006-09-06 23:28:33 · update #1
Hmm what made you agree to saying yes in the first place. Even if it is arrange marriage, if it is the right person, there will be a spark soon, and if it is not a right person there will be no spark for a long time. Marriage is so hard already, making your wife/in-laws happy, and its harder when you dont even love the girl, so make sure you feel you can love her or feel the spark for her, work it at, or.....better say no...then to get into a marriage and regret your life and she regret hers...but if you do get into the marriage, then you need to be fair with her and make her happy.
2006-09-07 08:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by MC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear No Spark!!!!!! Your question is itself confusing.. Arrange marraige in "january" when? It was already in 2006 or going to get in 2007?
So if u r already married then confess that u had some love affairs before marraige which u could not bring in front of your parents when they were deciding/arranging your this marraige with full cosent from u. why u became afraid that time?
and if u r going to marry then decide once again, talk to the girl, if your society permits then go arround with her see she will be able to create spark and love in you.... dont worry in life, problem comes to solve it..dont get confused and dont make others confused.... hav a nice time ahead.
2006-09-07 06:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by partha c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage are for TWO people who are in love and who wanted to be with each other for the rest of their lives, it is the union of TWO people who decided to love each other in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer.......it is meant to be a bonding of TWO persons not just one...so why will you settle for anything less? If you are a male and have eyes on another, go after whom you love and you will never be wrong. Is the marriage inevitable? will it kill your mom if you do not marry the girl? what are the consequences of not marrying this girl? You have to weigh everything as it is to be your future. Tell your parents about how you feel. They should know and they have the right to know since they are the ones who arranged the marriage, I suppose. Look at their reactions. If your decision is going after "the love of your life" (if there is) - then you also have to take the risk of not being accepted. It depends if you have the will power and the strength to fight for your love and what you believe in.
2006-09-07 03:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by yunesa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's an arranged marrige and you don't love her then you're screwed unless you just say 'no' at the alter in front of everyone.
2006-09-07 03:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by ctwrabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you agreed to this and are your parents consenting?
Sometimes it works out ok, just have respect for each other. The other part may come. Americans will not be able to understand this and accept your situation. They are not raised with these traditions. Don't try to get a good answer here. They will all just go nuts about how unfair it is. Talk to your religious counselor. They will be able to help you to decide what is best for you both. Good luck.
2006-09-07 03:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by buddhafuldreamer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to analyze what made you say YES. Arrange marriage is different from love marriage and spark may not be there from very beginning. It may grow with time and effort.
2006-09-07 04:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by empty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are already married. then sit down and talk to your partner and talk about it of divored and how you feel about the marrige,
if you are not married. then do the same thing talk about this situation.
it well work out one way or another. what ever the situation is. also follow your heart
2006-09-07 03:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by jwtaz1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET THE DIVORCE PAPERS NOW. WHY ARE YOU GOING THROUGH WITH THIS?AREN'T YOU BIG ENOUGH TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF AND SAY NO? FOR HEAVEN'S SAKE THIS IS 2006. YOU ARE JUST GOING TO BE MISERABLE, AND START HAVING AFFAIRS, AND SHE MAY REALLY LOVE YOU. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. IT'S HARD ENOUGH TO MAKE A MARRIAGE LAST WHEN THERE ARE "SPARKS". DO WHATS RIGHT FOR YOU
2006-09-07 03:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by LEJIANE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to visit her alone and see if there could be something between you both. It takes a lot of work but ask her if she could love you or is her heart with another?
2006-09-08 11:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by sarell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't marry some one you don't love marriage is hard enough with some one you do love.
2006-09-07 03:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by gj_peters 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋