I have a 12 and 10 year old and a huge family that cares much for us. recently my husband got a job and we were forced to move 3 hurs away. the schools seem horrible and the area equally as well. I want to leave my husband wants to work this job. He is a good man and I care for him much but I feel as if the kids should be with there family in schools wjich they were happy. Please help........as of now I am planning to not be here within the year. What should I do??
2006-09-06 19:24:06 · 6 answers · asked by lliitteme 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should tell your husband that his family should come first and his job last. There are a lot of family's that are in the same boat you are in and the way most family's handle this, is that if the husband really wants this job because it pays so good then he should travel the 3 hours each way to and from his family house.
Some of the guys either car pool or stay in a motel for the week and come home on the weekends.
2006-09-06 19:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by greg76991 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband and children are a family now and if he is a good man and you truly care for him, then you should stand by him. He is trying and you want to leave and thereby discourage him? How do you think that will set with him?
I suggest the two of you sit down and plan a set of goals for yourself. Start with where you want to be six months from now, then a year, two years, five years. Work with him to make these goals happen rather than deserting him because life is tough. Many families have worked very hard to raise themselves to a better life and they did it together. all you want to do is run back to mama and daddy.
Even the children can learn good family values with the four of you working together and becoming a close family with character and grit.
Come on...don't be a spoiled brat. Show some character, dig in and help him make it happen.
2006-09-07 02:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you got married a long time ago, you never really moved out from under your parents' wings'. Living in the past is preventing you from making new memories.
It sounds like you are spoiling this for everyone. I'm not saying that things aren't bad, but you have to move past missing your family and make a new home and future for your family. Get involved with the schools and your community and slowly you can work with your neighbors to make it better - do you think they all want to live in a crappy place? If you fail to move away from your family, you will set a very poor example for your children and they will have a hard time adjusting to college and thier own married lives.
2006-09-07 02:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if there is some way to compromise? Perhaps the kids could live with grandma or Aunti during the school week and come home on weekends? It is hard to move to a new place, give it a while, it might grow on you.
2006-09-07 02:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by rera1397 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All new places can seem horrible at first when you are leaving behind loved ones that were in your life on a daily basis. You need to give it more time. keep in contact with the ones you are missing via phone, internet. Best wishes
2006-09-07 02:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by Kismitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up, woman!
2006-09-07 02:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋