After 4 yrs of a realtionship I felt like my guts were on fire and were gonna fall out. You ever been there? How did you kake that go away?
2006-09-06 19:20:50 · 19 answers · asked by TRIXY 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Once. A long time ago. It took me a few years to get over her. I wouldn't date for awhile and every time I drank I kept thinking of her. It was like some old shitty country song that kept playing over and over. One night I got piss-*** drunk by myself and I started thinking of her. Well the old daemons came at me. I wailed and slammed my head and punched my wall locker until I was exhausted and bleeding. The next afternoon when I woke up, I was over her. From then on I decided never to allow myself to be so wrecked after a failing of nothing. And, trixy, that's what it is NOTHING! Don't waste your energies on the assholes its not worth your emotional disparity.
2006-09-07 05:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Go! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there, it feels like you can't breathe and like the whole world is going to come to an end.
But it doesn't. Life keeps moving on, and you have to move on with it.
After a broken heart, you have to have your mourning period. After all, it's like a death.. almost.
The best thing to do is to examine the relationship and decide what went wrong. You have to take as much of the blame as the other person (sometimes). Then you take those lessons and try to better yourself and your relationship strategy.
Most of all, you need support. Friends, family, etc.
Good luck. And remember, you were probably too good for them anyway.
2006-09-06 19:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by BadWolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have had my heart broken two times. Once after a 5 year breakup, and a second time after a 4 year breakup. Once you truly love someone, you will continue to love them for a lifetime. The love doesn't ever go away. In my case, I have been married for fourteen years now, and I still feel love and the sadness of the breakup for those past loves. I think there are all different kinds of love, and not all loves are good for us. Once you realize that, you too will be able to pick yourself up and move on knowing that they will always have a piece of your heart. Each day gets a little easier, give it time.....
2006-09-06 19:34:50 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have hurt so bad due to a relationship when i was younger. I cried all the time. thought i was going to throw up a lot and was never the same after that. I never wanted to be in love again. We were best friends for 2 years and dated for 3. he left me for a younger girl. right in front of my face. I think that my heart got cold. I don't really love anymore unless it is my family. I just dumped my bf of 2 years. he is taking it hard and i feel the worst about it. I care. but my life wasn't headed down the path that his was. I don't want to talk bad about him but he was very controlling. Point is things usually work out for the better, even if they hurt really bad at first. I believe god has a plan for everyone. and with my X, my plan wasn't fulfilled. Just give it sometime. you should feel better.
2006-09-06 19:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by nicolea0329 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep....I've had the same feeling. Don't worry. Its a good job the relationship is over now than if you had got married and had 10 kids. Just go out, have a holiday, go away with friends, do something that makes you realise life isnt about dating. When you feel refreshed and better, try again.
Thats what ive done!
2006-09-06 19:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by The Special One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have felt that way a couple of times. But please know that the feelings will go away. If they hurt you then they don't deserve you. I know that isn't what you want to hear right now, but it is true. It took me 4 years to get over a guy...and I lost so much in those years. Don't let yourself do the same thing. If he left then let him go and move on....don't lose the 4 years I did. It isn't worth it.
2006-09-06 19:26:10 · answer #6 · answered by Aimee B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, i internalized...then i got mad. Wouldn't recommend it though cause I just ended up hurting myself more, but on the outside.
Hope everything works out for you.
MuChO LuV
Tink
P.S. I know how much it hurts so I'm sending you some luv
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2006-09-06 19:32:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes indeedy! And the only real medicine is time to heal this very deep wound..But I promise..even tho you'll never forget about it....the pain does dull in time...
Blessed Be~
2006-09-06 19:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by Cheppyyyyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I've been there. It's like when you are nervous and get butterflies, but a billion times worse, so it feels like something has it's claws in your gut.
Time will make it go away.
2006-09-06 19:27:19 · answer #9 · answered by specter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and all you can do is stay busy until your heart heals, and move on with your life without your former love.
2006-09-06 19:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋