I met J @ the party ofhis bff Brendon. I didnt know Brendon or J before that party.J and I fall for each other & spent evening cuddling in front of everyone. Before i actually started talking to J..i chatted with Brendon &talked about school and basic nonsex. things. i Never lead him on. I am totally unattracted to Brendon. I am crazy about J. However..today J told me that he cannot go out with me because his best friend Brendon has a crush on me (and today brendon texted me and called me to hang out!!). and that he likes me and im awesome but his best friends are like his family and he doesnt want to hurt them. so what i have to do in order to go out with J is to find B a girlfriend or somehow make sure that Brendon stops liking me and doesnt get hurt. thats what J said to me! if i do that..then J will go out with me however he added..."he is not actively seeking for a gf"BUT when wehang out we are all over each other. and i know he wants to be with me but he is torn! what to do???!
2006-09-06 18:34:25 · 9 answers · asked by Feodora 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont know if brendon saw me and J getting cozy. I think that brendon doenst know that me and Jay are actually into each other so much. J also said. that he just met me and his friends are forever his men. and its like guys before hoes ..you know what i mean. obviously right now im not as important as brendon. but this self-sacrifice is not fair to me?! what should i do? how do i make this work? what should i tell brendon? im not really comfy doing this. Is there a nice way to show brendon im NOT attracted to him ever...
2006-09-06 18:39:27 · update #1
this this for real...or is this a joke?...i mean...come on!....i know teens are dumb like this...but this is tooo over the top....some bored guy is having fun...right?...man o man.....if this is real...i dont know.....I just dont know.......
2006-09-06 18:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by blacklion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give b and J some time. Don't plan or say anything bad about Brendon. J told that B is like family to him and he really means it. Things will get clear after some time.
2006-09-06 18:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell J that if he really wanted to be with you, he would. Tell him you don't even know this Brendan guy. Tell J to tell Brendan "If you don't want me to go out with her, find me another girlfriend." Brendan is cutting in on J. Tell J that. Tell him that if Brendan was a real friend, he wouldn't be trying to cut in on you two. You have had nothing to do with Brendan, he is nothing to do with this. Tell him that you dont know Brendan from a bar of soap, and that he has a nerve asking you out when he knows you have been hooking up with J.
But in the end, if J really liked you, he wouldnt care about what his friend says. J got with you first, Brendan hasn't ever got with you at all, so J has first priority. Tell them that you are not a piece of meat and it is up to you who you choose. And besides, if you want to go by the rule of first in best dressed, J wins there too.
They are acting as if Brendan was with you first and that is so far from the truth. Tell Brendan that he is pushing you further away from him by doing this. Tell j, "I dont even know this brendan, Ive spent hardly any time with him compared to you."
Good Luck! and dont let those guys push you around and tell you who to get with. Crazy, huh?!
2006-09-06 18:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by NurseKaia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a very controlling couple of Boys, you do this for me and I'll be your FRIEND...Horse Pucky...What will it be next time they want something... Sweetie there are a lot more fish in the sea...I don't think you need these two codfish in your life...So throw them back as to immature and get someone with more manners
2006-09-06 18:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by E. L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly if he really wanted to be with you I dont think he would say he couldnt because of his friend, if he likes you why would he back off to give his friend a chance with you? Think about it. Maybe he is sexually attracted to you but thats all he wants. It doesnt sound like he wants you as much as you want him, sorry but thats what i get from this. Good Luck to you!!!
2006-09-06 18:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by TAWNIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell brendon that and if J is stupid enough to pass you up again although you have spoken to brendon about it, his lose
2006-09-06 18:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be up front with both guys face to face otherwise find someone else to be your boyfriend. If they are good friends like you say they are probably they won't let you come between them good luck
2006-09-06 18:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jamie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both to get lost.
2006-09-06 18:42:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn high school drama.
2006-09-06 18:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋