Lets say she lives at home,has a good job.Of course you love her but on a christian level, should you make her move out?Realy need some good advice.This is so important to me.
2006-09-06 18:08:03 · 21 answers · asked by .. 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
She's been a christain on up to around 2 years ago.
2006-09-06 18:09:59 · update #1
I do love her so much,We have talked about everything calmly,and she says its her choise, that I didn't raise her wrong and that it wasn't my falt. She goes to Church,but still living the lifestyle. I had my suspitions 2 years ago. but she denied them until now.I don't want to make her move because we are close and I love all my children dearly.I also know that 2 wrongs don't make a right.I feel so drain with this.She was not raised like this.
2006-09-07 00:29:51 · update #2
Continue to love her, don't leave her out for the wolves to continue to take hold of her. Tell her what this is doing to you (or the family) Most of all Pray.. continue to seek God for her life. God had spoken words over her life and you claim whatever He has spoken over her life to come to pass. We all know that God said "Let there be light" with his mouth alone, He did not had to do anything but just spoke those words and the darkness did not understand how light can shine in the darkness.
Remember our children are covered from head to toe by the blood of Jesus. Don't give up on her. Don't put her out... communicate with her on why she has made this decision. And you do your part as a mother and God will do the rest. Continue to show her who God really is, it may not look like she needs God now but one day she will.
Read psalm 57
2006-09-06 18:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by Donovan J 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd say give her your love and support. If you do not want to alienate your daughter for life, do your best, as much as your mind will let you, to follow your heart and love her no matter what. Also, don't necessarily restrict her from bringing home girlfriends for you to meet. That will just open a chasm between you that will probably result in her leaving if you haven't kicked her out or at least strained tension instead of a loving relationship between the two of you for the rest of your lives. What a sad ending to what sounds like a good relationship.
2006-09-06 18:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by Ally 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is she disrupting your home? If she said she was a kleptomaniac or an alcoholic, would you ask her to leave? Are there younger brothers and sisters that she could be a bad influence on? Is she flaunting her lifestyle or bringing her "friends" home?..Is she destroying your peace? Personally, lesbian or not, I would hope that a child of mine with a good job would move out anyway by age 22. I 'm sure it's a heart-wrenching problem. I will pray that you make the right decision.
2006-09-06 18:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by Cee T 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Make her move out? Hell no. Im sick of Christians contridicting themselves!!!!My father is a minister and he does that all of the time too!
Step one - accept her for who she is, be there for her every step of the way because chances are, society wont.
Step two - realize the fact that she can still be religious at the same time. She cant help who she is attracted to and should not be judge by anyone on this earth for it especially by her own mother. I know alot of gay people and not one of them has a good relationship with God I think its because society instills it in their minds that God dont love them even though He does! I am very religious but I do not get how the bible says its wrong to be with the same sex, but some were born like that.
Step three - let her stay there, love and support her and dont treat her any different. Her sexuality is just one aspect of the plenty that make her up as an individual. Dont let this get in the way of learning other things about her! One's sexuality is personal, you know her as your DAUGHTER, she knows you as her MOTHER....that is the connection. Do a good job in your role!!!!!
good luck :)
2006-09-06 18:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Be happy that she's not an axe murderer! Come one, she could be a whole lot worse! When was the last time that she asked what was going on in your bedroom? Would you rather see her live a lie with a man she doesn't love? Get over it & hope that she finds true love and happiness in her life!
Just because it's not right for you,
Doesn't make it wrong!
2006-09-06 18:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by Helzabet 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
the best thing u can do is try to point out bible versus that speak against that kind of lifestyle, and pray, but i wouldn't kick her out because then that might make u lose a daughter or at least have some bad blood between ya. i know most gays and lesbians believe that they were born that way but i don't believe that i think its a cop-out and i believe it is a choice because God don't make mistakes, so just try to hang in there and maybe u can persuade her to leave that lifestyle behind, but u can't force her to change but if she doesn't change then out of respect for u, she should keep it away from u. i don't know if this helps or not but good luck to u.
2006-09-06 18:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No don't kick her out, just love her that's all . Some times these things are a phase and sometimes they are not. She is at an age where there is a lot of experimentation going on. Also right now its kinda trendy to say such things , it gets attention from guys/people. Even if she truly is a lesbian , just love her.
2006-09-06 18:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by primamaria04 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Love her and when she finds a partner, love her as well.
Learn more about the Metropolitan Community Church (maybe it's the Metropolitan Christian Church). It's an accepting Christian Church, with mostly gay members. You and your daughter may find the kind of religious and spiritual support that you need there.
All the best to you.
2006-09-07 15:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by wicked64 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Say "oh, okay."
It's important to remember: you're not just a christian. You're a human, and you're a mother.
Part of being a decent human is not imposing your arbitrary subjective beliefs on other people.
Part of being a good mother is not senselessly harming your daughter.
A good mother and a decent human being would accept her daughter for who she is - she would not harm her because of private religious beliefs.
2006-09-06 18:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by extton 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you have had a CALM QUIET CONVERSATION with her and can survive her decision I would expect it best she remain with you for now.
I would not let friends stay over night --but other wise..like is as usual.
Try and find--without prying--what made her ""change her preference""..
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2006-09-06 18:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by whynotaskdon 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋