I am middle aged and feel like I have lost me somewhere. Now I want to change but cant seem to make that first step. What is wrong with me?
2006-09-06 17:55:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I use to be happy go lucky. I use to know how to laugh. Now I am embarressed to go anywhere or say things to people. I have very low self esteem.
2006-09-06 18:09:28 · update #1
First you need to make up your mind to that it is you want to change. Then you should sit down write out a few short term goal to get you there. Along with what is you long term goal is. That way as you start making the little changes you can see them and how there are working for you. I know how you feel I am a middle aged and I am working on changing. I am going to college to learn a new career.
2006-09-06 18:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by wagg62003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
However hard it must be for you, you must make the first step forward to gain the control you once had. The 2 hardest things to handle in life are failure and success. Dont find fault with yourself, find a solution. Many of lifes failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. Many of our fears are tissue paper thin and a single courgeous step would carry you clear through them. If you want the rainbow you gotta put up with the rain. The harder you work at it the harder it is to surrender. If you can accept where you are right now at this very moment you can never find yourself again. First of all change your thoughts and you change your world. Your own personal destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not something to be waited for, it is a thing to be acheived. Set goals for yourself. Get out there and do some type of exercise for 30 minutes a day for at least 3 days a week. How is your diet? Diet and mood go together. Its choice not chance that determines your destiny. Changes need to be made and until you take that first step change will be just hanging there. Find a hobby or a project to do around the house. Keeping yourself busy will focus your mind on goals and reaching goals, no matter how minor, how will give you a sense of success. It is hard to get started and you have to push yourself for a little while but the more you involve yourself in self worth and not self pity you will relish the things that you do, however small they might be. OK, this is what works for me. I have been bipolar for quite a while and I too had my period where I was not myself, did not enjoy life at all or activities that I once loved. Re-discovering these things have brought the light back into my life where there was once darkness. When I come to the end of my rope I just tie a knot and hang on. Find your spiritual center. What helped me do that was a long hike in the forest all alone and I was amazed with what I found out about myself. And last but not least, you will know you are successful when your name is in everything but the phone book.(thats suppossed to make you laugh). Good luck to you in your quest, you can do it, I know you can.
2006-09-06 18:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by diaryofamadblackman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a mid life chrisis. While it is most common in men it has been known to occur in women as well. Change doesn't happen all at once. Rome was not built in a day. Try setting some goals. How do you see yourself? How would you like to see yourself? What things are important to you? How can you help others? Try to think of why you want to change who you are.
2006-09-06 18:15:51 · answer #3 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already made the first step by realising there is a need to find the real 'you'. The next step involves learning about ways of being that match 'you', so you need to find out about different outlooks and so on. You can do this at the library (self help books), through classes, through courses/leisure activities, volunteer work...just about anywhere.
Today is the beginning of the rest of your life - enjoy!
2006-09-06 18:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by suzanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all,nothing is wrong with you.Sometimes we need help from above to do the first step.Have you ever thing praying to God? for the extra help to do the first step.If not its easy to do it.With simple words start talking with him and explain to him,what you really need to change, and invited him to came and to live in your heart.I'm sure that he will be there for you......Its sound religion but it the reality our God is real and he is Alive.God bless you
2006-09-06 18:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by anonumous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friend you cant do it with out GOD but it has to be the real religion assembalies of GOD christian religion there are others but it has to be a christian religon jest ask jesus the son of GOD into your heart and ask him to help you change
2006-09-06 18:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by polkahaunis 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
can u give more details please? What do u want to change?
2006-09-06 17:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋