My boyfriend has just moved three hours away. He comes in on weekends, but whenever I call him if I say something that could be taken wrong he starts spazzing out asking if I'm ok or upset...is he genuinely concerned or is he trying to make sure I'm not up to what he's doing? I don't really believe he is being dishonest, I just want to know why he worries so much.
2006-09-06 17:53:06 · 11 answers · asked by the_umbrella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is trying to adjust. He has moved three hours away and a person that he cares about (you), isn't right there for everything. He is probably just trying to compensate for not being able to see your face and see if you are just tired, or had a bad day. Im sure it is concern for right now. It's when he stops asking about you that you should worry about another someone...
2006-09-06 17:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by girl_like_you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be worrying a lot because he may be getting feedback from friends that are putting ideas in his head and that could be making him scared or doubt some things. Long distance relationships bring lots of worry sometimes because they are far away and don't know what is going on and they are left alone to think and question things and that can bring fears.
2006-09-07 00:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by LISA F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me that you are probably a very attractive young lady and he is a little insecure about your relationship. If you truely love each other you need to tell him that you are dedicated to him and only him and he needs to take that to heart and not worry. I also think that maybe it;s not that he doesn't trust you, but maybe the people that could be around you is who he doesn't trust. well enough of my un-helping ramble...hope it might help some though...gl
2006-09-07 01:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by MysteryMan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really about you then... he obviously is very insecure in his life about something. Until he adress this issue (or you point it out to him), he will never stop. To fix it... he has to fix himself and not feel so insecure and scare about whatever!
who knows... maybe he felt lonely or nervous for a great part of his childhood. He learned this defencive behaviour somewhere???
2006-09-07 00:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by Socrate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes just worried he'll lose you, perhaps a little over worried but that doesn't really hurt anyone.
If your having problems with his actions then bring it up with him in person and just reassure him that he has nothing to worry about.
2006-09-07 00:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone probably once told him that when in a long distance relationship, make sure that you never say goodbye in an angry way or leave in a fight. because thats when she/he will do something like cheat. also guys dont like it when they are not trusted.
2006-09-07 00:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably insecure about himself. you are probably attractive and he is worried that you can't deal with long term relationships.
he needs to relax and learn to control himself, that is the only one he can control.
2006-09-07 00:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has some issues and you better find out.
2006-09-07 01:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a hard time trusting you then something is up with him!
2006-09-07 00:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a dishonest person
2006-09-07 00:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by reno_tony_casino 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋