Pregnancy dilemma.......?

Question

I had told my sister that she could have all of my old baby stuff since my husband and I were stopping at 2 children. One month before her baby is born, I have found that we are unexpectantly expecting another child. Do I still owe her all my baby stuff?
Thanks...

Answer 1

Since she is one month away from her due date, it would be pretty rotten to rescind your offer now.

I would explain the situation to her and split up the stuff between the two of you, or arrange for her to use it now and pass it back to you as her baby outgrows the things.

Answer 2

Because you have already indicated to her that you would give her these items, I believe the only polite thing to do is to let her have them. But since we are speaking in terms of family here, then compromise is always in order.

It sounds like the children will be born far enough apart to share baby clothes without much hassle, and with 7 to 8 months difference, she would be less in need of bottles as your child was born, and would have time to purchase some additional over time.

Basically, if I were in this situation, I would consider how much it would inconvenience my sister by my having offered the baby items. For example, if she is so close to her due date, and she hasn't purchased a baby bed or play pen because she was expecting to use the other, then perhaps you could loan one for a few months until things calm down around her house and she can purchase the needed items, and you would still have time to put them to use.

I am certain that she will be excited for your unexpected blessing as well. Here's wishing both of you ladies best of luck!

Answer 3

oh come on....she's your sister....just take your take backs and claim it on sibling rivalry. Watch at your two selves fighting and carrying on like you did when you were younger until mom steps in to fix the problem. *rolls eyes*

jees, girl....your grown now and having kids and still having the same arguements you did when you were 5. She is one month away from birth and no doubt have all ready counted on these items. If you take back everything at this point in time she will be screwed and pissed off having to spend money she already made plans for to pay for formula and doctor's appointments. Do you really want to put her in a bind like that? Would you appreciate it if the roles were reversed and she up and decided, no you can't have this stuff now.

These are just things. You bought them once you can buy them again. Not to mention babies grow quick, by the time your baby is born hers will have begun to outgrow the first sets. Work out a fair share trade around.

Answer 4

No. I think that she would understand if you unexpectantly needed the stuff.

However, she might be expecting you to provide her with some things for a newborn, like a bassinet.

Then again, there may actually be enough time between your sister's delivery and your own where she can use it for 8 months prior to your delivery.

Of course, giving your stuff away good be a good enough reason to have a baby shower for new stuff!

I hope I helped.

Answer 5

The same thing happened to me last year, and I was in the same boat as you. This is what happened.. by the time my sister (cause it was her 1st) had her baby shower, she didn't need much from me. I gave all the old clothes except for some outfits that I really liked and wanted to keep, and I bought baby #3 as much new as I could afford too. She was due in May, I was due in October.. so by the time my baby was born.. her baby had outgrew all the little baby things and we swapped again.

It won't be that hard. Give her a little of what you can , and see what she gets for her baby shower.

Answer 6

Maybe you can work something out with her. Since she is having her baby first, some of the baby clothes for instance will no longer fit her child by the time you have your baby and she'll be able to give it back to you.

As for the crib, high chair and whatever else you might be giving her, you'll both have to sit down and see what you want to keep and what you don't mind giving to her.

Answer 7

Yes, go ahead. How old is your youngest child? The general rule is 5 years for carseats, cribs, swings, strollers, etc. While she uses the items, they might still be "in date," but by the time your baby comes along, they might be "expired." Also, if you have clothes and they're mostly boy stuff, you might have a girl, so you won't really be able to use them anyway. I'd go ahead and give her all your baby items...you're a good sister. :) Besides, by the time your baby comes along, hers will be older and will have outgrown the items, so she might give them back to you?

Answer 8

Ooo, that's a tough one. On the one hand your initial offer was contingent upon you stopping at two children - now you're having another. I would think that she would understand you not giving her the baby stuff under these circumstances. It's not like you're not giving those things to her because you're going to sell them instead. It's a legitimate reason to keep them. But if worse come to worse she gets your old stuff and you get schmancy new stuff!

Answer 9

This isn't really a problem your children will be 7 months apart so she can use the clothes then you can use them. Kids grow so fast I doubt there be any conflict. But if there is, she should get the clothes and you should get the baby shower :)

Answer 10

No, not all of it. I'm sure she'll understand. Give her what you can, it's not like you're going back on your word, but you're going to need baby stuff too! When you are receiving help for a baby, you can take what you can get. I'm sure she'll be glad to get anything for free.