ADD, ADHD kid is agressive at times and not calm at all, there is not enough money to put him on any sports. The school doesn't help much or at all and doctors don't either, it is not good to give them pills he's not wanted as a vegetable just a normal kid who feels comfortable and is safe and healthy. Kids in school don't like to be around him much he is friendly but since he doesn't do so good in school academically his peers dislike him what to do??? He needs to have a better self-esteem.
2006-09-06 17:41:39 · 10 answers · asked by nell 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Yes i go to church I pray for him and he's had swimming classes, he was great and we just went to observe a karate class and he seemed to be interested thanks a lot everyone. Oh by the way i'm his sister but I understand my mom's frustration and the whole family, My mom is a single parent, that really affects him a lot.
2006-09-07 08:50:16 · update #1
Personally... I have no freakin' clue. Umm... maybe you can provide playdates... always inviting his classmates over for a lil get together..>? Maybe you can have a movie day or something... bring them to the park (bring ur own equipment and ask them to bring theirs for ball games or soccer games).... Uhh.... Best thing you can do is always ENCOURAGE him... let him know things will change as he gets older, that kids just don't understand, and he'll eventually make friends. But yeah start making GET TOGETHERS... maybe call his classmates parents and tell them ur situation... let them know u just want to help ur child in making friends... maybe they'll invite him over to play... who knows? but yeah... KEEP encouraging him and maybe give him at least ... again AT LEAST an hour of your attention for his homework, so that he can learn and get help from someone that loves him. :) ... Always play "LEARNING" games with him, if he's NOT INTERESTED... look online for games especially for ADD, ADHD kids... probly go to www.askjeeves.com and ask that question... other than that I can't help you... this is all just my personal opinion :)
Just read something and it made me think of this: do u go to church? there are "SUNDAY SCHOOLS" where kids will be.... maybe he could get along in that and enjoy the company of others there? ...
2006-09-06 17:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by sweetsuezq4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're in a real bind. Sports was the first thing that came to mind - it's just a shame that sports cost so much to participate.
Have you thought about swimming? Do you have a community pool nearby? That can be fairly inexpensive. What about running - like track... or just running for exercise.
What about taking up the drums? Perhaps he could use up some of his energy on that and eventually, if he sticks with it, he can try for band once he gets to middle or high school.
How about the arts? Maybe theater arts - look into fun drama classes through community ed or a local theater group.
Is there a local organization where families of similarly behaved children can meet and support each other?
Sounds like you have a tough school and it's a shame they can't do more for you. You might have to get tough with them or the district.
I'm sorry I can't offer more - I know how it feels to watch your kid suffer.
2006-09-07 00:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent of an ADD child, quit making excuses for him. There are YMCA sports and such that do not cost much at all. Whether he is ADD ADHD or whatever, that is not an excuse for poor manners. His peers don't dislike him because of his grades, he is probably very annoying. Tell him to knock it off and explain how and when he can jump around. Look into some alternative methods of controlling hyperactivity. Sugar, other added ingredents, etc. My son was on medication. I don't think it is always the best, but there are times when it is necessary.
2006-09-07 00:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by Chloe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm hoping you live in a house with a yard. If so get him mowing, yes mowing grass. Let him go till he's ready to stop then pour on the praise. chopping wood work really well also. Your child, if he is like me, and it sounds like he is, can't focus his attention on just one thing. What ever you do, don't leave him alone. Oh and stop fighting, THAT REALLY SCREWS US UP.
If you have no yard take him to the batting cages where he can hit baseballs. It helps with the built up frustration, plus you can have engaging conversation so that he can tell you all about it and you MUST listen to each and every word like you care and tell him how proud you are and how well he did. You are right the pills suck. Whatever the activity chopping wood, hitting baseballs, playing guitar, planting garden, picking weeds, YOU ARE THE KEY, and must be as much a participant as he ( as far as he can tell ). Then all you have left to do is pray, It worked for me.
2006-09-07 01:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the primary care taker in a residential care facility and pretty much every one did not know what to do. They also did not believe in drugs, i do but here's what I did. I found work projects I wanted to do that showed a result that I could do with them and talk to them. Like planting trees. After 5 minutes I just talked and watched. They also put racks on the bank of my pond and helped build a deck. Years later they would stop by and mention how good that deck pond or whatever they worked on looked. Self esteam right there.
2006-09-07 00:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's about self esteem... maybe enroll him in some camps or activities in your community that are made for that. The boys and girls club really help with that. If it's not going good at school... give him another place to go with other kids where he will feel good!!! Those camps or activities are an escape from the grim usual and he might blossom there. Also... they might inform you on where to get help with his ADD. Sometime they grow out of it... but sometimes you need some form of treatment... psycology or medicine (in very small doces... not to get him stoned). Anyways... give your boy a place to go to feel good about himself... look for community camps and activities (not for all kids... because kids are mean and they will do just like at school) with responsible people and guides that will help him with his self esteem.
2006-09-07 00:48:58 · answer #6 · answered by Socrate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find the money to get him involved in sports or something. You say there's no money....call around to local businesses...maybe a place you deal with a lot and ask if they'd sponsor your son so he can play sports. My dad owns a gas station and for years he's sponsored a kid here and there. You could also try talking to your preacher if you go to church...sometimes they have money set aside for things like this. I have a lot of experience with ADD children. Get your son in sports...it'll do a world of good for his attention and his confidence level! Please, find the money, whatever it takes...people will help if you just ask. When it comes to making sure your children are healthy and happy, just remember there is no shame.
2006-09-07 00:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by Cy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like that when i was a kid. My parents didn't believe in pills or any of that crap either, they put me in a very good karate school, it wore me out every day, i gained confidence, discipline, and self control, and i was able to focus better in school.
2006-09-07 00:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by jush15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some counsling or your local community center, there's the boys and girls club or YMCA, also try acting classes. There is alot out there that dosn't cost lots of money or none at all.
2006-09-07 00:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-07 00:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by ohsocurious2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋