When a man that you've only been dating for a few months but not really "in love with" tells you he loves you, how does that make you feel about yourself and about him? Is it a sign of weakness on his part in any way? Do you lose a little respect for him? Is it better to hold it on or let it out when you know she probably doesn't feel the same way?
2006-09-06 17:37:29 · 18 answers · asked by CKApple 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't say its a sign of weakness, it's just a showing of honesty. As long as you can use the l word in relationships (in the beginning) without any expectation - because the other person might not be there yet - it's okay. If that's what you're really feeling...always be honest about that. I respect a man who can communicate well and feels secure enough with himself to share his feelings.
2006-09-06 17:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the level that the relationship is at... I mean if you've been dating for 2 months but have ony seen each other four times then yeah I mean that is nearly impossible to create love. However we fall out of love when our partner does not comply with what we ask for...love cannot be just thrown around...those 3 words say so much...dont overuse the word love either... like i said love is a long drawn out process...in reality we would know for sure that two ppl were in love if they have been happily married for 10 (I'd say) but remember the hormones go away and then the real test of Love begins, once you see the person for the person. It does make the girl feel good but agian it depends on the girl...
2006-09-06 17:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by "Chanel-o" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not over-emotional. But my wife died. Guess what? I cry every day. I have good friends - both men and women - who get it, and let me be. Someday, I won't cry every day. Before this happened, I bought the idea I wasn't supposed to cry, that I had to be all together all the time. Be a man. Well, I'm busy being a man who loved his wife, and still does, and misses her more than words. Ladies, there's your man showing emotion.......and it doesn't take trust - it takes something that matters enough to a guy like me, to not care anymore whether anyone thinks I'm weak because I cry. I lost the most beautiful woman in the world - what the hell do I care if anyone thinks I shouldnt be crying?
2016-03-27 01:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These days I think too many people play around and misue the term "Love". If it is said too soon by the guy the girl will : not believe the guy, feel suspicious and feel that the guy wants something from her (probably sex) and she would definantly lose respect for the guy. I know becausee I talk from experience. After ony 3 weeks of dating, my bf told me that he loved me but I didn't believe him, b/c come on 3 weeks, we barely knew each other! I lost respect for him and even told him it was weird and our relationship went downhill from there. He also told me the L word when we were kissing how insensitive!
Just remember that a girl waits her whole life to have her guy say those 3 magical words to her, so don't screw up. Wait at least 6 months to say it not sooner or the girl might freak out. Also where and when you say it, is also very important. Don't say it to her while you're kissing or having sex. Take her to the beach watch the sunset or something romantic like that.
Good luck:)
2006-09-06 17:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by sweet kisses 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know she doesn't probably feel that way.. why would you say anything? You don't want her to say it just because you did. That isn't love. You are demoralizing what love is. It's a sign that he is immature, not weak. A man who knows what he feels and willing to share it ,shows strength not weakness. However, telling a lie, is a weakness. If I knew he didn't love me, I would be curious why he felt like he had to lie to me. What was the reaction you were looking for, and what is your motive?
2006-09-06 17:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by junebug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it shows weakness, but it may show confusion. Dating for a few months is hardly the right time to start professing love. I would be a bit skeptical of their motivations. I would still respect the person (assuming I respected them in the first place) but it may cause me to reevaluate the relationship if I felt like they were moving to fast.
2006-09-06 17:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Us women can be quite stoosh with the 'L' word. Myself in particular.
When my last boyfriend said it - I flat out told him he couldn't be.
He said 'but what if I am?'
I gave him all the reasons why he wasn't really in love with me - and he had the nerve to say it only made him love me more that I said that!
So frustrating. Grrr
It took a few months of daily doses of that sentiment before he cracked me.
Honestly, I thought it was manipulation. Like a cheesy pickup line "Oh god, you're not going to play THAT card are you? What is it you want from me?"
But I suppose, a few times in a lifetime, it's honest.
2006-09-06 17:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by lucy_shy8000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only had one guy I actually like tell me he was in love with me not long after we began seeing each other. It's my boyfriend now. I still haven't told him I am in love with him yet because I don't know if I am. I thought it was weird at first and I didn't/don't see why he is in love with me, but I don't know how I felt. Eventually, I just started to overlook the fact that he said it. It wasn't a bad thing though. I knew that he cared about me.
2006-09-06 17:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think a few months is to early let days go bye until u know for sure the other person feels the same way u do
2006-09-06 17:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by Roxy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to know how the two of you relate....i mean how did you feel when he told you....did you already know it deep in your heart and did you feel the same way OR were you completely and utterly shocked and taken back by it.....depending on YOUR reaction to the words should tell you how you should feel about him telling you that....
2006-09-06 17:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋