I haven't really dated since getting saved. We chat in church, but I think I may have given him the idea that I wasn't interested. I just don't feel comfortable umm umm flirting (for a lack of a better word) in church. When we chat I always talk about the sermon or something like that. It's funny because before I came into relationship with CHRIST this would have never been a problem. Help! He really makes me nervous! It's so refreshing to know a brother my age (26) hungry for the Word of God! I want a Godly solution.
2006-09-06 17:33:50 · 21 answers · asked by peacantancarmel 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
you should be stoned to death for speaking in church
2006-09-06 17:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by jsjmlj 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It depends on how you define flirting. You can act interested in the guy, you can act like you like being near him, that's perfectly O.K. I would definitely avoid physical contact of any kind, that would not be appropriate. I think what some of the girls said is right, he should do the pursuing. But he may not even take a chance on you if he doesn't think there is a possibility there. I am a single guy, and there is a single woman in my church that totally avoids me altogether. I know that there is attraction there, but how in the world am I ever going to get a chance to talk to someone who is too shy/afraid to open up and let me in? I say all that to say, you need to give him a chance. And depending on how much you like him, you might need to give him several chances, because there is an elevated chance that he feels as awkward and shy as you do. Just be friends with the guy and let him get comfortable with you and you with him.
2006-09-07 00:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by firebyknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join some kind of group related to your church, such as a volunteer group or choir--then invite him to join your group, or participate in some event that the group is organising (e.g. a charitable event or music event). Also, you might consider telling him how much you admire his interest in the Word of God. You might even want to invite him to go to a Christian bookstore with you, just to browse around. The more you are around him, and the more you two can talk, the more likely you will become friends.
2006-09-07 00:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by MJQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be completely honest with you, just keep doing what your doing and let him make the first move. I know this sounds really old school, but I really believe that the place of the man is to pursue and the place of a woman is to be pursued.
Coming from my own experience, I told a few guys that I thought were great at church That I liked them, but they were not the right one for me. When my husband came along he did all the pursuing and God set it all up no problems!
2006-09-07 00:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by Lilat180 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be straight forward with him. The truth always worked for Christ and I bet it will work for you too. It may be a little nerve racking but once it is out in the open I bet you will feel much better. Also pray to God for guidance and understanding of the situation
2006-09-07 00:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by dillonsdream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take the simple route: Ask him if he'd like to have coffee after church sometime. That will give you the opportunity to talk about all sorts of different things. If nothing else, get a group to go--it's still something where you can get to talk with him and get to know him outside of feeling any obligation to be confined to a certain subject.
2006-09-07 00:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by angk 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say be a little forward--If he is hungry for the word of God ask him if he'd like to do a Bible study over coffee--or even get him to go to a group Bible study --I would try to get to know him a little better-- If you have a young adult or singles group it is a good place to get to know people.
2006-09-07 00:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this is what your "church family" is for.
Find out who you have in common and talk to her and see what she knows about him and if he is even into dating at the moment or still growing and learning Gods word (newer Christian).
If she knows you are interested and she knows or finds out that he is available, you will be surprized at how easy it will be to find yourselves invited to certain things together.
I know with my son and his wife, for a while we thought we were going to have to lock them in a room together until they could admit that they had deep feelings for each other. No, we didnt end up doing it, but they did end up together and now married in their second year and counting.
good luck and may God bless your union if it is meant to be.
2006-09-07 00:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to church to listen to the word of God and to be fed spiritually. After the service is over, ask him to go to Cracker Barrel for lunch. Simple as that.
2006-09-07 00:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by blaze 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl a man is a man is a man. Jesus is a man, and he'll understand and won't mind you flirtin up in the church. As long as there is no fondling in the pews. Invite him over for bible study, (make sure he isn't married) ask him out for drinks and it doesn't have to be alcoholic. Smile!
2006-09-07 00:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by kweenameena 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Christian Lady 2001.... Philippians 4:6-7
~GOD BLESS YOU AND LEAD YOU~
2006-09-07 01:02:31 · answer #11 · answered by wordman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋