How do women feel about the "cant date your friends ex-boyfriends" rule?

Question

i know females feel differently about this, what do you think.

does it depend on the relationship your friend had with this guy?
does it depend on who broke up with who?
ect ect...feel free to add your own terms and conditions... and thoughts!

Answer 1

Don't date them cuz there is always drama.... Would you feel comfortable with one of your friends dating your ex?? Be honest no one really is deep down and the ones who claim they are are putting on a front!!!

Answer 2

Ludicrous! I mean everyone has an Ex! If we follow this rule, soon we would run out of potential mates. That rule is brought on my over jealous women who, if the truth be known, is probably the cause of why the man has become an EX in the first place.
I am not ragging on women here, so don't scold me, it is just that sometimes I see such biased and single view point answers that it forces me to take the opposite stance to keep things fair and balanced.
What the woman answering here is saying is... the man is an *** and because he treated me bad I don't want him to ever have another relationship again so this rule my way of still controlling him by telling my friends not to date him either. Get my point here? If you want to stop being part of a guys life...then do it ... don't do it half way.

Answer 3

I think it can be okay depending on the situation. If it was an emotional, crazy break-up, if he cheated on her... if it was a stormy relationship there still might be too many feelings left. But I don't think the rule should be written in stone. I have an ex that I would set up with any of my friends. He is a great guy but it turns out we were not right for each other at all. Situations where it is a totally mutuall break up with no hard feelings would probably make it okay to date the friends ex.

Answer 4

I wouldn't do it.
Usually you talk to your female friends about the man in your life, that would make for one awkward relationship. But, that's just a small part of it. I've had a friend's boyfriend interested in me after going out with her and there's just no appeal there; I'd rather stay true to my friend. She tried to persuade me and joke about it but you could still see it hurt her.

Answer 5

It depends how their breakup went. If they broke up because HE cheated/hit her/gave her herpes/etc then yeah, stay away. You don't need the drama, your friend doesn't need you backing someone that hurt them, and he doesn't deserve your attention.

But if they broke up because the relationship has run its course, and no one was really "hurt" by it, then I don't see the problem. Talk to your friend, make sure she's cool with it of course, but I don't see why it would be a problem.

Answer 6

Rule 1 in the unwritten friend hand-book " Do not date a close friends ex-boyfriend/husband" If the friend is not close it should not matter.

Answer 7

I agree for the main area. in the event that they broke up years in the past and it became mutual, then there is not any reason for her to get mad. it incredibly is merely stupid. yet while that's a incredibly contemporary injury up and she or he became rather harm approximately it then it does look style of mean to circulate after him.

Answer 8

I just feel that it's all wrong.
If they had history of any sort, he's off limits. Sure your friend may say that she's fine with it but deep down, she won't be. Since she obviously won't tell you how she really feels, you're just going to be all happy that you're in a relationship and oblivious to her pain.

Answer 9

I have heard don't date your sister's or best friend's man. I have always lived by that code. It is easy because we have different tastes in men.

Answer 10

depends on how well you get along with said friend.

Care about them like a sister...don't even think about the guy....care about them like an acquaintaince that you really don't do much with personally...get him, take him and find out whether its worth it.