2006-09-06 17:08:44 · 9 answers · asked by CubbysMom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
contact the adoption agency you used and let them know that if this child ever wants too find you that your willing too meet up with them.
let it be their choice.
alot of children adopted out later in life do want too find their biological parents
2006-09-06 17:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by Ozark American 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are they? I don't know if it would be wrong or not. It depends on the situation. If you only want to find them and not disrupt their lives then I suppose it would be alright. Situations like that are delicate and should be handled with care. If you are discovering that you love your children and want them back you should stop and think about what you have to offer a child. You obviously are finding out that you love them and if that's so you wouldn't want to hurt them or confuse them. If you just want to know where they are and if they are safe then I say go for it but if you are trying to get them back you should probably contact a lawyer before you do anything.
2006-09-07 00:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by buzzbait0u812 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. How old is he or she? Even if it's a very young child.. it will cause a great deal of pain for him/her and the adopted parents for you to even 'try' and look for your baby now. Pain for you too as you should find that you have no legal rights to your baby anymore. I hate to give you such a bleak and hopeless post, but I think you'd be best off to accept what's happend in the past and deal with the pain for the rest of your life. You'll only cause more pain, both within your self and in others, if you go out looking for your son or daughter now. I'm sorry.
2006-09-07 00:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You made the decision to give your child a better life. Locating and disrupting their life now is only selfishness on your part, not love for your child.
If you are concerned about whether your child is happy or not, some adoption agencies can arrange for you to receive photos so that you can see your child grow without gaining information about their location.
There are different registries where you can give your information and, should your child choose to, he or she can find you when they are adults.
2006-09-07 00:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have adopted the child out ... let it go, at least until they are an adult and they can come and found you if they want to.
I know it may hurt but you did the right thing. Now continue to do the right thing.
2006-09-07 00:13:04 · answer #5 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's definately wrong love the children you have otherwise you don't deserve to have children. Love the ones you do have properly and then if you still want to, look into getting more.
2006-09-07 00:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by warren10ca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel--I had a child adopted.
I wanted to find him, but in my heart, I felt it should be up to him to do the search. I knew it wouldn't upset my life, but I didn't know if it would upset his. And yes, I was afraid of rejection.
I bided my time, waited until he was an adult, and eventually he found me.
2006-09-07 00:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do what you have to do.... just be very careful and respectfull....... if you love them that should come naturally tho...... are they older ?? very young ?? if very young they may not understand and be confused....... I know you do not want to hurt them...... maybe find out where they are just to know they are safe and save the rest for later ??? God bless
2006-09-07 00:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the question but I'd like to help if you'd rephrase it
2006-09-07 00:11:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋