Help me out.. since my dad lead a busy life.. he doesn't talk 2 me much...so when i started drinkin.. i told my mom..she is cool abt this issue.. and my age is 22.. i am matured enough.. and i drink for occasional cases like parties and socialising...bit now my dad know it.. i told him that mom know it long time back.. my dad kept too much faith in me and he have praised alot to others that i wouldn't drink and stuff..but nw he is very sad and cried 2 my mom..he thinks that i ahve broken his faith...
2006-09-06 17:05:35 · 22 answers · asked by jep 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
as far your age is YOU SHOULD STOP DRINKING.
2006-09-06 17:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by prince 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian. So my answer is based upon my moral views. Drinking is an area of MUCH confusion even amongst the most conservative people. Is it wrong? Is it right? After much searching through the Bible (KJV) I have found one thing to be true without a doubt! Since it is such a controversial issue I know that I do not want to take the chance that it may be a sin to drink. So I have chosen to abstain from drinking all together. It is always better to err on the side of good when there is a question about right or wrong. About your Dad...it is never a good idea to keep things from one parent and not the other, but that cant change now so... You have probably lost some trust in your Dad but if you choose now to deny what your flesh wants to do and do what your heart tells you is right then you can tell your Dad your sorry for hiding this but you have decided to abstain from now on. Let me know what you think about my answer if you would like. God Bless.
2006-09-07 00:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by Ryan H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are an Indian...All the above answers are based on Western culture but in India it is different... No father will ever like his son drinking either at the age of 22 or 42 in India...You have done wrong act by breaking his faith...
It is just a lame reason that your mum knows and she did not tell you any thing...She should have stopped you!!! Initial occasional drinks might turn into regular...I AM TELLING YOU WITH MY OWN PAST EXPERIENCE ...the dirty habit once embarrasses you will not leave you so easily...
Now your father is upset and too you... hence you may opt for having one or two pegs...slowly you will feel as if you are getting some momentary relief through three or four pegs ...it will go on and one day it will start ruling you...
I consumed for almost 25 years (now I am 45)...with great difficulty I came out of this bad habit...Had I spent the money (that I wasted on drinks) I could have purchased two flats here...I could have bought three cars...Now there is no use in telling all these
Hence my dear You live for yourself and please come out of even the occasional drinks once for all...I hope you will listen to me...Good Boy...
2006-09-07 00:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by NUPAKRY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father loves u very much and has lots of expectations on u.
He wants u to be an ideal son who is very ambitious,has lust to come up in life successfully and all other good qualities.He does not want u to keep up any bad habits like drinking or smoking, you have the habit of drinking, this has upset him.So if u have the same affection towards why dont u quit it?
When ur father is so caring towards u why dont u care him?
Its better if u talk to ur father and assure him that u would overcome this habit which is good to u.
Now the decision is in ur hand whether to continue or stop but it may be the same in future bcoz there r every possibility that u may get addicted to it, so decide quickly before proceeding further.
U r matured enough to decide wht u ought to do.I am sure u r a responsible son so will quit drinking.
All the very best
2006-09-07 01:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by pooja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing your dad is probably a bit embarrased. He has told other people about you and how you would not drink - - only to find out that he was wrong. He also probably feels sad because he did not know what was going on in your life. Even fathers who lead busy lives still care about their daughters.
My suggestion would be to sit down and talk to your dad. Ask him why he feels you broke his faith. Since you are 22 and not 13 (as one commenter posted) you should be mature enough to talk to your father and get this sorted out before it becomes a problem in your relationship with him. Find out how he feels and then perhaps you can explain to him what you are doing to make sure you drink responsibly. Good luck!
2006-09-07 00:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try talking with him about it to find out why he's so upset about it. He may have lost a family member a long time ago due to drinking, and he may be affraid the same might happen to you.
I'm assuming, when you do drink at those parties or other social events that you do not get fall down drunk or drink so much that you are driving over the legal limit for your area?
2006-09-07 00:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by JSalakar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry, pat your dad's back and hold his hand. Get him to a local bar, get him and yourself a drink. If he won't drink, just encourage him to have a few sips. On your way home, hire a cab so that you won't trap in any legal issue of drink and drive. If your daddy doesn't like a wine, get him a beer. Enjoy the life man, buck up your dad! Your are not under 16 anymore.
BTW, were your dad also upset when you lost your virginity? ;-)
2006-09-07 00:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by omair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're dad sounds like he's the one who has a problem, you need to tell him you are an ADULT, and to show you the respect that you deserve for making a decision about your life. Perhaps he is too busy with his own life and his own issues to talk to you about important things going on in your life as well as allowing you a forum to talk openly and honestly about your life. This sounds like you and your family have a lot of boundaries that need to be broken down and this isn't just about alcohol at all is it?
2006-09-07 00:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by nickp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him- he can trust u- u r in ur limits- & if wanted u could have gone for smoking or drugs- but u care 4 him & thats why u just went 4 drinking- that too occasionally
2006-09-07 00:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by jay Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason your dad is against Drinking,besides breaking his Faith.I can't tell you not to.Question is how much do you respect and Love your Dad.Which is more important in your life.
2006-09-07 00:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by Rather be dead than red... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your father is correct he told every one that you don't drink and all but drinking is a bad habit if you drink you just can't stop it later and it the age to stop if not what abt your wife and children you will marry after few yrs then you won't be able to
2006-09-07 00:17:44 · answer #11 · answered by krutika lodaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋