I return back to my house after 12 hrs (job+travel). My husband returns 2 hrs after me. We have 2 children aged 8 & 2 between us. I have to do the cooking+taking care of children+laundry after my work. My husband does not understand this and expect me to do things more quickly but does not lend a hand due to his busy schedule. During weekends, he loves to visit his friend/relations. He says this he does for keeping up his social circle. I get very tired and iritated and show my frustration on my children by beating and shouting hystriacally. I am trying very hard to find a maid but this part of the world maids are like hot cakes who keep jumping house-to-house. I love my husband very much but how do I make him to understand that house work is as much a part of man as full time job is for a woman? Through out the week myself and my children suffer and during week ends my husband is back to the square in visiting his friends/relations/games etc.
2006-09-06 16:55:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just ask him 2 help U out it's not hard he can lend a hand as well after all you both work so he should understand this.My Husband helps out alot.I guess I'm Blessed Lol.Good Luck
2006-09-06 16:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, sit down and tell him you need help - have a list with tasks and dates you want him to do. If he says yes, make sure he follows through. If he says no, go to step 2
step 2
Stop enabling him. Stop doing his laundry (tell him first), say, I'm sorry, I don't have time to do all of the laundry, you'll have to do yours. When he runs out of socks, he'll curse you.
Same thing with food and cooking - make enough for you and the children - and he can fend for himself.
Get a babysitter for the kids every once in a while and go out with the girls - get a manicure or a massage or just go window shopping - he's making you feel like a serf.
2006-09-06 16:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and tell him he is free to go and visit after the both of you have got the house in order. Tell him he needs to consider that he has responsibilities at home too! Or trade him in for one who can afford a maid.!
2006-09-06 16:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by Elwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing the work. My mother always talked and complained about this. When my father and brother and I said we'd do our part, she'd still catch the excess. Soon enough, one person wasn't doing anything and she did all their work and the others soon never noticed a change even when they didn't do anything. Its best to tell him to mind his own clothes, then NOT CATCH WHAT HE DOESN'T DO HIMSELF. Otherwise, not only will he never take you seriously about him EVER doing this work, he'll never understand how much you do. You've got to teach him a lesson, even at his own peril. BTW, those excuses are crap.
2006-09-06 17:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by valoriousblue777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on strike for a weekend you leave him there to do. Until he get a chance to walk in your shoes he will never uderstand what you are going through. I know that might be hard to do but it works, if not for you do it for the kids they are suffering more in the long run.
2006-09-06 17:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by Wan R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋