Are women intimidated by very tall guys? Is there anyway to be less intimidating?

Question

I always heard girls like tall guys. I'm 6'8" tall and I have a lot of trouble finding a girlfriend. Many of my friends say that girls feel intimidated by me. I'm really a geek, w/ a grad degree. I'm not jock-like and try to be gregarious and friendly. Once girls get to actually know me, I think they’d like me, but I can’t actually get to that stage. For example, this one girl at work actually makes a point to totally ignore me and will actually contort herself to not look at me. I try to say “hello” when I see her, but I don’t go out of my way to say hello or anything. I have no idea how saying “hello” can be intimidating. Any advice?

Answer 1

Well my husband tops me by a foot even, so I would say I like tall men. (5'4" to 6'4") :-D

First of all, stop trying to be anything. Just act naturally and be yourself. Any kind of forced behavior can come across as stiff and insecure.
When you see a female you want to talk to, just smile and say hello in your own natural voice. If she doesn't respond, then go on with your life and forget about her. Focus on the women that say hello back. If they make eye contact, even better.
The first meetings and introductions should be warm, friendly, but a little more reserved. Don't try to be her new best friend, just try to be a new acquaintance.
If you are out somewhere when meeting the woman, talk to her about her likes and dislikes. Get to know her the best that you can. It shouldn't be 20 questions, but the conversation shouldn't revolve around you. See if you have any common ground to build on, even a dislike can turn into a positive conversation.
Always make sure that when you get a woman's number, email, etc... you contact her the next day. Thank her for such a wonderful time and let her know that you would love to see her again. Manners are one of the biggest attractions for women, most men have forgotten how to treat us well.
Dress for your body and be well groomed. A sloppy man is not a turn on. Since you are a more professional sounding kind of guy, business casual would probably work well for you. (If you don't know what business casual is, a short explination. Dockers type pants with either a button down or polo.) The shirt should be tucked in, with a nice belt that matches your shoes. The waistline breaks up your height, and the matching accessories are a big plus here. It makes you look stylish and sophisticated. Women love it.
Overall, just be yourself and Miss Right will come along and love you for it. Don't settle for Miss Right-Now. It won't be worth it in the long run.

Answer 2

I will tell u the truth that i think heighth is something pretty cool. I see alot of tall guys r good lookin. This co-worker sounds like a little b-tch. One day a woman may come around. I was my exs first gf and we were in 12th gr when we started. I think smart guys can be attractive in that state of mind, and if u look smart u might start to get chances, and hey, a grad degree is good.Someday one girl will show up. Give it time. I know im on the web now, but dating online isnt a good idea, if u've thought or've done that. Forget that co and wait ahead.

Answer 3

Well stop trying with that girl obviously. It's too bad she's so rude, I am sure you've heard this as long as you've been tall, it's not your problem.
Do you have a deep voice, if so speak softer maybe.
If you feel you are geeky looking, play it to your favor, a lot of girls like the geeky look, and geeks age the best and treat women the best.
Just be yourself, don't try to be greagarious, be honest to your own personality, otherwise they'll be turned off by the change.
Stand tall and proud, don't exude that you feel awkward we pick up on that at a level that's subliminal.
Good luck!

Answer 4

Tall guys are fabulous! I used to dream of having a big tall man to hover over me as a young woman. That girl at work probably has other issues! Get out in the world and meet some good girls (churches, clubs, community events like fairs etc.) You'll find miss right who may in fact be close to 6 ft herself (you never know). Come to think of it, you might check out some women's basketball games! lol I am 5 10 and it was hard finding my husband! I always seemed to be taller than most of the guys! lol Height is not the issue in great relationships! It's who you are inside that tall guy! Good luck to you!

Answer 5

I love tall guys, but it is true that they can be intimidateing especially to short girls ... think of the heels to make it work... lol. I would say just be yourself the right girl will come along eventually, and once they see how outgoing you are it will be alot easier i am sure. Also try greeting her from a sitting position or a lower position ... sometimes that helps a little.

Answer 6

Partly true, I did fall for a guy that's tall.....but apart from there, there's always more to look forward too, like personality and attitude.
From your explanation of the girl in your office, I feel that sometimes girls react in such way to cover up themselves for their feelings towards a person, in that case it will be you...... OR maybe, sometimes you're unaware of certain characteristics that this girl may have. She may be somewhat weird or just arrogant who refuse to look at you and find your height intimidating in a way....... you might not know the real reason until YOU get to know that person!
In this case, my advise is just let her be, if she started to look your way or behave friendlier or maybe vice versa, then maybe you have the opportunity to know her more, by asking question's about her. For instance, if she behaves badly or ignored you, just ask " You look kinda Upset/ Unhappy, what's bothering you?" ......Hopefully that way, you'll be able to get some hint/ information about the kind of person she is, good luck!

Answer 7

Maybe she doesn't like you for some other reason...I love tall guys. Keep trying. I guess you could act bashful or something...but 6'8 is really tall. Sit down when you talk I guess....do a lot of bar hopping too.

Answer 8

Date tall girls?

I had no idea tall guys had this problem. I've always thought the taller the better! Of course, I'm 5'9", myself, so I've intimidated a few guys in my day. But I kind of liked it.

The secret to making women comfortable around you, is to be pleasant, clean, courteous and kind.

Answer 9

Just be friendly. Maybe she's ignoring you because she doesn't want you to think that she likes you and thinks you're an arrogant narcissistic person as some tall men tend to be. Just be yourself. Make women love being around you for who you are inside. That's what counts.

Answer 10

The trick is finding a girl who looks for that type of guy. I'm 6'1 myself and i only date really tall guys. Some girls might be a little scared of someone with that kind of height, but i know plenty of girls who love tall guys. Be proud of your height and smarts, girls are always attracted to a guy who is happy with themselves.