the guy i was seeing and no joke am in love with has been keeping a girlfriend on the side for about a month now. I found out through myspace but i dont know how to confront him. im scared hell get mad and call me a stalker. It hurts like a b***h and why doesn't he just tell me straight up? You think i should tell him i know or he should admit it? in the meanwhile, how should i act around him?
2006-09-06 16:40:29 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just dump him and tell him u know, remember once a cheater always a cheater
2006-09-06 16:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it love when it's not returned? Yeah probably.. but is it the love you want? Seriously.. why do you want to be with someone who will not be totally yours? If you want to share your body, mind and soul with anyone and everyone then you need to be single. If the guy you are with is talking, seeing, flirting etc.. with another girl he isn't yours anyway. Regardless of how he feels about you finding out about his cheating ways, it will be a reflection of how he reacts when he is caught. When you drive too fast, and the cop pulls you over, do you get mad- no because he has power,(but you don't have power-so he will get very angry) but do you lie about speeding? Hell ya.. why ? because you don't want the ticket. It's the same thing. He will lie because he doesn't want the "one way ticket out the door" He will call you a stalker and much more.. however the best defense is always the best offense. Meaning... we always lie to not get caught. We blame others because we don't want to admit the truth- because the truth makes us admit what we've done wrong. Get rid of him! Do you want to wake up in 2,3 or 4months knowing you've wasted that many months when you could have already been over him and maybe found someone who will respect and care for you? The sooner you get rid of him, the sooner you will be over him.
2006-09-06 17:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by junebug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come when you're the victim you're scared of making him mad?
Just dump him, you will never feel secure in that relationship. He will not tell you right up because he likes having two girls, maybe he needs something to make his insecurity feel less. Probably you're the nice girl, and the other the hot one, or I don't know what else. If you confront him, he'll tell you it's a lie, a prank he made on the internet, or whatever he thinks you would believe.
From my experience, the sooner you'll break up, the better.
2006-09-06 16:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by Roberto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I am truly sorry. Nobody deserves this kind of pain. I think you have to tell him and be honest about how you found out. First of all if you are sleeping with someone who is sleeping around you are at risk for AIDS or STD. Secondly, the relationship has been over for about a month...it was over when he cheated on you. Make your plans and good luck.
2006-09-06 16:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been on both sides of the issue and it is no fun. Take care of YOURSELF! Protect your own life, from AIDS and other STD's, tell him why your are leaving. Get tested and when you find someone SPECIAL for you, you wont have to worry about it. DO NOT take off with the first guy that comes along and please wait a while until you know what you are looking for in a partner. Good Luck
2006-09-06 17:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by brsdb3381 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely confront him and leave him - If he would hurt you like this then he doesn't deserve you. Guys think that they can have the best of both worlds by having two women. Get rid of him and find someone that will treat you right
2006-09-06 16:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by lucky*star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how you define your relationship towards each other in the 1st place, any commitments or just a 'playful' thing,u know...then you dont have any rights to confront if no formal engagement for each of you, you say, u were 'seeing' , so i guess its just merely a fling between you, and he means no more attachments more than that for you,as you know, men think otherway than us girls, most of them are being ruled by plainly logical reasoning towards every circumstance, while we, being the softer female counter parts, when we're with them , we alwsy assumed to ourselves that they do feel the same way we feel, care and thought that they love us the way we loved them too, but,.......its not too late at all. and the truth alwsy hurts and cuts like a knife, but you better act by now till you found yourself being taken for granted till you loose even the least respect you have for yourself, i may sound a lil counselling here, but like you am also a girl so i can deeply identify with how you feeling, and i sympatise with your plight........but you have to wake up and rise up girl!
2006-09-06 19:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by candee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I think you should tell him you know. He'll probably deny it or tell you your paranoid, or have an overactive imagination. Who cares if he gets mad. How should you act around him? Why would you want to continue seeing him knowing he is ban*ing someone else? You should cut him loose.You already know he's a liar and you think he's an ******.
2006-09-06 16:49:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a call to the girlfriend. She probably doesn't know about you, either. Make plans for dinner with both of you and make sure to invite the boyfriend. Make sure he thinks he's only meeting one of you. That should cook his goose real good.
2006-09-06 16:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by organic gardener 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't tell him, see if will come to you I know that's a hard thing to do.But you are a step ahead of him. Play your cards right. Brush him off when he come around make him jealous men hate when they don't get your attention make him feel like he making you feel right now.
2006-09-06 16:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by Wan R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you found it on my space then he wasn't hiding it very well. He might have wanted you to find it so you would do the breaking up. He is a cheater and a coward, let it go and move on.
2006-09-06 16:47:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋