How do soliders go for 12 months without sex?

Question

Do most of them cheat while deployed? I just cant imagine being in a war zone and having close relationships and living in proximity how do they handle it? Not much information out there about this subject and it is really bothering me since my hubby is over there.
He says nothing like that will ever happen to him etc..

Answer 1

I spent 6 months in Iraq back in 90-91 and then I spent a year at Ft Leonard Wood Missouri after 9-11 was home for 4 months and went back to Iraq for a year. I would say that I am somewhat knowledgeable on this subject so I'll pass on what I know. Do most of them cheat? No they don't. Do some cheat I'm afraid that would be a yes. Some people have gave you some good info and some not so good. In Iraq there are not any prostitutes readily available for the soldiers. If you can trust your man here then you should be able to trust him there. If he is in a unit with few females then the odds go down further. Self service is common knowledge amongst the men and tend to even joke about it. I myself as an NCO being in charge of soldiers I was busy enough that I didn't think about it nearly as much. Continue to send plenty of letters and care packages so he knows you are thinking of him and be cautious what you write because soldiers worry about what their spouses at home are doing also. Be careful what you say in your family support meetings because the soldiers hear what is said from other soldiers families. Don't believe everything you hear from other families as to what is supposedly going on over there that their soldiers has supposedly told them. We had a young soldier who wanted it to sound like he was the ultimate soldier in danger everyday every second telling his wife all kinds of neat things that was not actually happening and she goes to the family support meeting and starts telling everyone what he said. Then you have a lot of families thinking that their loved ones is not telling them everything and they start to worrying even more. Just communicate with your loved one and let them know you miss them and let them know what your going to do to them when they get home. LOL. Unfortunately my marriage did not make it through this last deployment and I'm now divorced due to her cheating on me while I was gone so it does happen. Also just want to thank you as a spouse for your sacrifices made by you and your family for our continued freedom. People often forget that it's not only the soldier who goes through hell in these deployments. If you ever have any more questions email me.

Answer 2

DO NOT spend your time worrying that your husband is going to cheat. Think of it this way, the people who cheat over there, 98% of the time are the same ones who cheat when they're in the states. I worried about this myself when my bf got deployed two years ago, but if you truly trust your husband, and never had any worries before, then don't worry about it now. Send him lots and lots of care packages, e-mails, and letters. Tell him how much you love and support him. He's not going to cheat on you. The truth is, the people waiting at home are more apt to cheat than the soldiers. Just trust him and support him with all your heart!

Answer 3

My DH has never done anything like that. I think that if they care about their marriage than they would never do anything like that. Most guys become even closer to their wifes. They call every chance they get and look forward to packages and emails. Try not to let things like that worry you. It will make you crazy. The first time my DH deployed I worried about things like that too. You will always hear rumors about stuff like that but you have to take it with a grain of salt.

As for what they do over there. I think they respect each other's privacy and help them selves out if you know what I mean. *wink*

Good luck!!! Stay busy and the time will fly by!

Answer 4

if your man is going to cheat it does not matter where in the world he is...........as the wife of a sailor we had many periods of being apart often when he was at a high level of readiness andthey are often just too busy or too tired to spend much time thnking about sex, and so I have been told that *wink* a nice long shower after a saucy letter from home often did the trick hahahaha, after a while I even sent one of them covered in plastic so he could take it into the shower with him lol lol

What you need to focus on is keeping things right at home for his safe return, keep up with long chatty letters and care packages and those rare but wonderful phone calls where all you say is I love you I miss I want you...........and best of all saving up for you to have some time alone when he gets back home, I would collect my husband from the ship after 6+ months away, take him either home or to a close nice hotel, run a bath for him have fresh clean smelling clothes laid out, a BIG SOFT towel a cold beer and a favourite cigar and then just let him relax for about 20 mins ALONE...............I was bouncing outside the door but it gave him a short time to unwind and then I went in and we chatted whilst I washed his back.......the rest is off limits but you get the idea.............

Last thought if you are not close to any miliary bases regardless of what service they are, then I suggest you yahoo search a few military wives groups on line where you can really conect directly with others going thru the same thing.

HUGS and prayers for his safe return.

IF this continues to bother you, then go and see the base chaplin and talk it over with him or as a military wife you can go for advice on the base................

Answer 5

Watch the movie Jarhead. It will give you a lot of insight into the every day life of a soldier. I am also sad to say that I know 2 people who were engaged when they went to Iraq and both broke off the engagements before they got home because they cheated...one with a female soldier and the other with a girl he met over there. Also, another friend of mine who was in Iraq said that prostitues travel to warzones just to make money off of soldiers. I don't want to scare you really... Trust your husband. He trusts you to go just as long without him. Just know that he will come home different after being deployed whether he cheated or not.

Answer 6

Many soldiers would never think of cheating, most are too busy to do it and most know the consequences of doing it so they simply do not.
On top of that, our soldiers deployed are likely to be in a hostile area where there would be no chance even if they wanted one.
As a disabled veteran, may I reassure you that 99.9 % of our soldiers and sailors remain faithful during deployments.

Answer 7

I am there with ya but its the same way..I dont have sex for a year..well I did when my hubby came home on leave..Wow a whole 2 weeks in a year..but its not killing me..I like my self respect..I think they worry more about dying then their sex drive..I dont worry about it as i couldnt change it..I can only control ME!! you can still keep the sex going in your marriage just in a different way..write sexy letters..it helps you stay connected..My hubby is on his 3rd deployment in 4 years we have gotten creative!! ;) Its fun!! Personally we both miss hugging and kissing each other the most..

Answer 8

Well, of-course I'm not over there so I don't really know the answer. But my guess it, because the conditions are what they are (pretty sh*tty for them) they are not even thinking about sex. A lot of them just want to get home and be safe and not die like the crew next to them.

Answer 9

In the Philippines there are a lot of brothels near the American base camps. The same goes in Vietnam. I'm not sure in other places, but it's a pretty obvious generalisation.

Answer 10

let me tell you i have a friend who just returned and he says you dont have the time to even take care of this yourself..he says it is not even thought about because of everything that is going on over there.my hubby is gone with the military right now also but not in the sands ..but anyways he cant even take care of it himself because they are always with someone ...they must have a battle buddy even when they go potty.so dont worry about that .also in the shots they are given their is supposed to be something in those to make them not work (if you know what i mean) anyways tell hubby ty for serving our country and to hang in there where are all praying for there safe return..good luck and god bless