I still care about him, and so does he. But,......we got along great the other
night , ate at a restaurant. Conversation was great. Then we went to a big
dept. store. And basically things went downhill from there. Over stupid stuff !!
It gets like that every so often. We end up splitting up, then getting back.
I'm just sick and tired of arguing. I feel like ..mm...I don't know, like I want to
dump him, forget about it. But we still want to keep working it out...WHY ????
I want to know...what would U do............???????
2006-09-06 16:13:28 · 15 answers · asked by CraZyCaT 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yep....He hurt my feelings, and I
don't talk to him about how I feel.
Maybe I don't feel I can trust him w/
my feelings ? Thanks so much
for the insight.....It has really helped
me clear my head.
2006-09-06 16:52:33 · update #1
try to talk with him and tel him that somethings need to change andlet him really know how you feel. Boo you are beautiful so dont settle for no bullsh*t.
2006-09-06 16:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by cupcake 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From experience, I know that relationships require a lot of effort on the part of both people. The thing you have to decide is if that person is worth the effort. If not, then you need to get out before you get any deeper into the relationship. BUT if you decide that the guy you're with is worth whatever it takes to make the relationship work, then you need to find out what it is that's triggering these arguments. Usually there's a common denominator in these conflicts. It doesn't have to be a topic, but perhaps it's a reaction taken the wrong way, or a misunderstanding?
The other thing you need to do in order to help the relationships is stop with the breaking up and getting back together. The emotional roller coaster that something like that puts both of you through will hurt the relationship in the long run. That needs to stop. You two need to resolve whether you're going to fight for the relationship or call it off. In my opinion, any good relationship is worth fighting for. Best wishes to you and yours!
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2006-09-06 23:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lumburger 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. It's nothing like having a piece of mind. It's sound like he pick an arguement with you so you can break up with him. That way if you caught him with someone else it's not cheating, because you dump him and when he's tired of being who he is with he comes back too you. That one of the oldest trick in the book. Stop being his Door Mat. Take a stand you will be happier in the long run.
2006-09-06 23:22:38 · answer #3 · answered by Wan R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the real problem is never about the little stuff, it is probably that you two have created so much damage from all of the fighting and arguing that it is near impossible to repair it at this point. It might be time to cut your losses and find someone who will treat you much better and you will be happier with them. I know that you love each other, but sometimes love does go wrong.
Good Luck and you know you deserve to be treated better, because you are worth it. Relationships shouldn't cause so much drama.
Take care
2006-09-06 23:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you two arguing constantly about? First, discuss it the problem then make a decision. Learn to compromise, both of you! You two seem to have good conversations so that means communication is not a big issue, which is great! If you are still frustrated and its like one big loop of arguments then just end things.
2006-09-06 23:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by *SaL* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
one thing ive learned about relationships is, there has to be very good comunication ,and alot of mutual respect , you for him, as well as him for you. Try sitting him down, and tell him how your feelings about cirtin things, if its something he says to make you feel bad, or a comment that hurt your feelings, and he needs to let you open up to him, and if hes not willing to sit and talk about the problems that are making the relationship hard to even want to deal with then, as hard as it is, id suggest either trying to make it work or leaving it , and hope something else will come along.
2006-09-06 23:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should break up with him and stay broken up with him. Aparently you guys cant seem to get any better so maybe your better off finding someone else. Thing is, you need to not get back with him. When you break up, dont talk or see him, make it a clean cut, it will be better for you and help more with getting over him. Find a rebound guy, it always works!
2006-09-06 23:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by suzjm98 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would seek a relationship counselor. a middle unbiased opinion is what you need. that person will get answers from you both that you will not tell each other and get each of you to elaborate on what bothers each of you about each other. also i would start limiting the amount of time you spend together for a season, it could be you each feel smothered and dont realize it. as for a counselor you will get better more sensible from a Christian counselor even if your not a Christian yet.
2006-09-06 23:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by riosmoving 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart..the chouce must be yours because it a decision that will affect you.Do the bad times outway the good if so move on..If not, then try to work it out..
2006-09-06 23:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by prettycoolchick38 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're in high school so just break up with him because it won't work in the long run anyways.
2006-09-07 13:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by Yen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋