my girlfriend broke up with me but im not mad at her and i thinking about her still but everytime i think about her are happy thoughts i can't think of the times she gave me hard times i just think of the good times we had together why is that?
2006-09-06 16:11:36 · 6 answers · asked by Big Boss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really need a good answer on this or someone to tell me how can i get over that because i think of the good time and i just want to forget because it hurt thinking good things about someone and not being able to share them with that person
2006-09-06 16:23:48 · update #1
Your feelings of happy thoughts are similar to what one feels when a loved one passes on. The end of a relationship sometimes creates feelings one would feel as if that person had died. The girl you loved is not dead but the relationship is "dead." You remember the good times you had with that person much the same way you might remember them as if they had died. Ever have a loved one pass on? You remembered the good times not the bad, right? It's a coping mechanism we use when we're in mourning. My advice would be to move on as quickly as possible. Keep yourself occupied, make new friends. If you sit around and wallow in your loneliness you will only drive yourself into madness and depression.
2006-09-06 16:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by microwaved-brain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep down inside, you are probably regretting the break-up and hoping to get back together again. Am I right?
Call and apologise to her and see her reaction. If she's prepared to accept your apology, then try again. Sometimes we over-react to minor or non-issues, and might said or done something we regret later on. This happens very often between couples.
2006-09-06 23:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww, maybe its cuz ur a sweet guy and not a jerk who holds grudges when a relationship doesnt work out...? just a guess... different ppl respond differently in different situations. some other guy in your place could just be thinking about the bad stuff. i think it's just how different ppl respond, just an opinion.
2006-09-06 23:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by Hollz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind and it's easier to see the good in people that you love. Maybe the bad times, just weren't that bad in your mind.
2006-09-06 23:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Suki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are trying to create the romance in your head. You want her back so you want to remember the good times so that you want her even more. :( Love stinks
2006-09-06 23:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by coco_k22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are an adult. Look forward to your next relationship.
2006-09-06 23:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by shomechely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋