have u ever just been so sure that u were meant for someone but they didnt agree with you? i say this because I feel almost certian that I am supposed to end up with matt. But he doesnt feel the same way for a couple of stupid reasons. he wants his relationship to be perfect. He strives for that perfection so automatically that cuts me out. In the past he has said that I was everything he always wanted. That was in the beginning & every once in awhile he will say something like that. He says that I need to be 18 well thats in 9 months & need to be fit & I am working on that. I know that I will be the size I want to be by my senior prom, not for him but for me. Although it would be a major plus if I got him. Im just afraid that while these changes accure that he is going to find someone that is ready & in his mind, is perfect. Call me selfish but I want him to think Im perfect & want me just the way I want him.
2006-09-06 16:04:18 · 13 answers · asked by Kristen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess it just sucks to want someone who doesnt want u. I love him so much you know? It sucks to love someone so much that when u think about them ending up with someone else, you cant breathe & u cry. I started crying a couple of days ago because i was thinking about this.
I just want to quit doing stuff with him for awhile but so scared that if I dont give it to him then he will go somewhere else & this fear will happen sooner than what im ready for, as far as him finding someone else.
It just sucks cuz I didnt tell that many people because he asked me not to because of the whole christian aspect which I totally understand.
Im just so over whelmed & I really cant talk to him about this without him getting affended.
2006-09-06 16:05:55 · update #1
I am afraid that Matt has a very big problem that needs to be addressed with a psychotherapist before he gets into a serious relationship. He has major issues of other peoples perfections. He doesn't seem to understand the reality that no one is perfect. But at the same time he seems like he believes he IS perfect and deserves another perfect person to make the so called perfect couple. PLEASE, for your own happiness and contentment, get away from this guy as fast as you can. While you are waiting for him to find you perfect, you may miss the guy who believes you are his dream girl just as you are.
2006-09-06 16:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought i had some1 my senior yr. We dated 2 yrs. Just this yr he cheated on me. U dont know if Matt is the one if he has an attitude. Is he ur man, or a pal and u have a crush on? Dont go doin all this to get ur hands on him. U never quite know when ur in love. My parents were 29 and 33 when they got married. Dont rush things. One other thing is, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. All have a few problems, maybe not major ones, but they r problems. Even Dr. Phil has a few.. (lol... its a good show though) Im 20, and im still not sure if i found the one. Ur in high school. U have plenty of yrs down the road. Hell, i do to.
2006-09-06 16:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by Artsy 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like maybe this is one of those situations where love may not be enough. This Matt guy sounds a little old-fashioned and a little too demanding of you. I know how much it hurts to feel like you're not enough for someone, and for them to agree with you. But trust me, you will get over it. Sometimes certain things just aren't meant to be. You're young yet, and this will end up teaching you what you want from future relationships. Good luck.
2006-09-06 16:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by spanishmarlena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OHHHH NO! Girl u don't need a man who wants to mold you to fit his specifications. You may get him and then wish you hadn't! You are young and perfect the way you are. You will find a man someday that will love everything about you! You will consume his thoughts and be everything he desires. Don't rob yourself of that amazing experience of having a man totally fascinated with YOU! You enjoy your time with Matt. Let him learn his lessons as he matures but DO NOT miss your own life experiences! You could end up married, strapped to a man you resent for trying to make you fit his "Perfect woman" picture. Be young and be patient for your "MR RIGHT" Stay strong girl!
2006-09-06 16:13:17 · answer #4 · answered by annaslifetoday 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication (with him) is your best strategy. I'll keep my explanation simple:
The word communication comes from comune, meaning to come together; to become one. When you are communicating with him you and he are on the same level, and when those periods of being on the same level become non-verbal it "feels" like love. The more often you share these feelings the more often you will want to share these feelings. Hopefully he experiences these communions the same way you do, and so when you engage communication with him he will feel the love and that will remind him how nice you make him feel. This is simple human chemistry. unfortunately most people are totally unaware of it's functionality and preset processes. This is one reason why so many people are single, and the main reason why many people are depressed, seeking salvation in legal and/or illegal drugs and/or religion.
The best freedom is found in connection and cooperation.
2006-09-07 00:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by Bawn Nyntyn Aytetu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him sweety, if he's trying to change your appearance now, just be aware when youve given birth to his babies or put a lil weight on, he will probably criticize you and make you feel so much worse, you will find someone who loves you for YOU not what you look like.
2006-09-06 16:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should just tell him never mind that he will get offended or something you just have to tell him...how you feel, ...everything, its worth a try because if you dont you might end up being more hurt... and if it doesnt work out, theres plenty of time to move on and find someone else...(just a suggestion)
just be honest to him...
2006-09-06 16:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by Lia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want you.. then move on. You will never be perfect for him. There will always be faults with you and anyone else he sees. Don't put yourself through this misery for a guy that doesn't want you anymore.
2006-09-06 16:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by pink9364 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy told me that I had to be "this" and I had to be "that"....NO WAY!! You think you're in love. Move on. You can do better than that. If someone loves you they wouldn't tell you that you had to do or be a certain way.
2006-09-06 16:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hun, sry. i cant give u a sucess story, --a relationship must be expressed both wath( so im told) so amm find other ways to get noticed, or more connections, or hint, wear clothes guys like, like camo,, and hoop earrings, so sexy
2006-09-06 16:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by brian p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋