How do I know what God's plan for me is when it comes to marriage. I really want to meet the man that God has chosen for me and settle down. I have had two long relationships, married once and I have two children. My first child from my ex-husband and second from my live in boyfriend of six years. I have only been a Christian for about three years now and have been just dating for about three years also. Everytime I try to get into a relationship with someone, the sex issue comes up and I cave in and have sex out of marriage. I have been praying for a husband but I really don't feel like God is giving me an answer. He just keeps telling me to seek him first and everything else will follow. I try to stay away from men because I don't want to lust or sin. I just feel so lonely. I miss having a man in my life. Any advice for me?
2006-09-06 15:59:37 · 29 answers · asked by smiles 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I know this is easy for me to say. I'm not in your shoes. My wife has put up with me for 30 years, now. I may offer this, though, for your consideration.
If you are seeking His kingdom and growing in your spiritual walk surely "Mr. Right" is doing the same. Eventually your paths will cross. When they do you both will already have a foundation for a long wonderful life together.
Mr. Right won't ask you to "cave in"....
2006-09-06 16:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by NickofTyme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay obedient and true firstly to your commitment with the Lord Jesus Christ. Pray for wisdom and his guidance. If you are His child remember no mater what if you follow his commands in the end you''ll not only get what you want but get what you need. Is there for the time being perhaps something you need to get too before you are ready t commit to one man? The right man the for who you"ll be the right woman may be there close by but meanwhile become part of a good larger church fellowship and at the very least will find love and friendship from good brothers and sisters. Tried on-line Christian dating services?
2006-09-06 23:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by actualist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you investigate the Christian concept of marriage. The book Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis has an excellent chapter on Christian marriage. Furthermore, Lewis mentions (I'm paraphrasing here) that if you aim for heaven, you will get earth thrown in as well, but if you aim for earth, you will lose everything. Why not try to find a good Christian man in the context of attending church? Try to find someone that tries to live with strong faith and with actions that exemplify that faith. I'm not suggesting you find some self-righteous prig; rather, someone that wants to be a good Christian, but knows that he fails from time to time. Instead of obsessing over finding a man, submit yourself to God, and have faith that the right person will show up in the fullness of time.
2006-09-06 23:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by MJQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who's been celibate & single for more than 3 years now.
IT AIN'T EASY!!!!!
It took me awhile to get over the whole loneliness aspect. Then, as I let Jesus have more of a place in my everydaylife, I got "unlonely". He's filled all my emotional needs, & the, er, physical needs have pretty much vanished.
I'm no less of a woman, I'm just more of a woman in Christ.
Here's a tip. Fellowship with other single, Christian women. They'll keep you in line. Find a good mentor who'll pray with you & keep you in line.
Keep praying. Remember though, God will send you your husband when you're prepared to be his wife (this doesn't include when WE think we're ready).
God's timing is ever perfect. Trust Him for your needs.
I'll keep you in my prayers.
2006-09-06 23:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by azar_and_bath 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know the answer, I've been doing the same thing.... I have a couple of profiles up on the inter-net & I get 5 to 7 hits a day, but never the right one... So if, God' let's you know, Please, tell me, how to do it.
I thought, I truly found the right one, about 7 years ago. The only woman, I Truly Loved & asked to marry me, but she was going through a divorce at the time, then, after 4 years of living together, things fell apart....
2006-09-06 23:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by L.S.U. Football 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the phrase "God have ment this man for me" should not be taken too litrary. God has more important things on his mind, so to speak that picking a man out for every girl. God wants you to be truly happy, He wants to you to have inner peace. Pray. Read Bible. Think. Relax. Enjoy life. Accept who you are. The right man will come along. You will know it. Don't "force" the answer, you will get all the answer that you are ready for whenever you're ready. At least, this is what I believe.
2006-09-06 23:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard. I sometimes feel that there was no man made for me and I am bound to live my life on Earth lonly, except for my kids. If you feel God keeps telling you to seek him first, then the rest will follow, then that is what you should do. Otherwise it wil never workout. Best to follow Gods words, he has given you the answer, you said it. "He keeps telling me to seek him first and everything else will follow" thats your words, your answer from God. It's what he wants, he has a reason, he knows what he has planned, and who. Follow him.
2006-09-06 23:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by creeklops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know God's plan? Simple, ask Him. He will tell you.
Could be that your desire to be married is opposed to His plan for you to remain single and celibate?
One thing to think about, regarding sex out of marriage (and please take this in the tone that it is intended), coming from a guy who used to try to date a girl and then try to get her into bed, do you really want a relationship that is based entirely on sex?
Don't get me wrong, I love sex and have it as often as possible, with my wife, but from a guys point of view (the kind of guy I used to be), once you get the sex - the "thrill of pursuit" is over and that act becomes the basis of the relationship.
Ask God what HE wants from you - you will be richly rewarded.
2006-09-06 23:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find somebody within the church, repent of your fornication. Maybe God thinks your not right for marriage.
Many many Christians don't marry, and use their life to further the Gospel.
But find a converted Christian. If they want sex before marriage, tell them they are not Christians, as Jesus died for them, yet they are still disobedient.
2006-09-06 23:15:57 · answer #9 · answered by Sky_blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having sex, that's mean you're not waiting for an answer from God. Since you've been divorced, God might want you to stay the way you are. Do you love SEX too much? is that's why you can't wait? tell me.
2006-09-06 23:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋